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i am 4rm a seperated family. how true can my seperated family affect my family when i am ready for the MARRIAGE institution. some of my female friends say they can't marry me because my family background wil come calling someday,

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You can chose your path in life, but cant chose your family.

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@ poster

This really depends on the person and the personality you have yourself, how much time you want to invest and on your partner, There are many individuals from broken homes that went into lasting marriages. It doesn't just depend on you but also on your partner. It takes two people to make a marriage work not just one.

With this said, you could try as hard as you can and give it all you got but if your partner is not willing to do the same then all your energy you put into keeping it togeher will be wasted unfortunately.

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Yes, the choice is yours as said by Jumie

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Read this thread: http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-175402.0.html

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@ Poster,

To a very large extent, the type of home you come from tells a lot about you and your personality. Most especially the behavioural patterns that you have learnt from your folks will always influence your choices and decision making. That is why a lot of people believe that if you come from a seperated home, your marriage may probably be broken.

However, the choice is yours. I advice that you work on yourself and make a conscious decision that your marriage will not follow the way of your parents'. Make an conscious effort to do everything possible to make it work.

Don't believe if everyone tells you your marriage will not work. Always say to yourself that it will. All da best!!

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@topic,

I dont know how true it is. But kids from broken homes tends to have some misgiving about families. As much as I can say it is not genetic but rather psychological programming which eventually gained ground in the victims lives.

Like someone have said, you can break the chain if you reprogramme yourself. Living with "steps" or a caring guardian is a great way to solve this. However, it is grace of God that can completely remove the problem.

From my observation of single parents, I saw hatred and revenge being their most potent languages. If kids are raised with such foundation, only grace of God can make them transform into a good family in future.

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Even if it is a family/generational curse, you can break free from it.

Never let anyone label you with a name that doesnt fit u

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I was raised by a single dad until I was 10 them my dad remarried and I lived with them untill I was 17. then, my mom and my step dad took over. I can't imagine my life without my step mom and step dad. My step is so good that nothing I could ever afford would be good enough to compensate him for his kindness to me. My step mom on other hand was nice too but I want my to marriage to very much work out becuase I am a christian and I want my children to grow up with their father and mother. @ poster: sometimes reverse is the case. I am determined to do whatever to keep my family together! I was lucky to get nice step families but my children may not.

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Sadly it is true my brother.

It's a phenomenon that tends to repeat itself with every coming generation.

The good part to it however is you can break it.

It's very much like a boulder rolling down a steep cliff, it won't stop unless a force comes into halting it.

Admit to urself now that u got work to do and sit up.

You'll have to be on guard and work a whole lot on yourself prayerfully.

Take note of wrong behavioral traits you have inherited from both parents and work on them.

The time to start is now!

To simply believe these things won't recur in your marriage is "playing the ostrich".

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It doesn't matter that one is from a broken home because some people from broken homes have gone ahead to have good families.

However, I dont think I'll be happy to see my son declaring love for a girl who has been raised by a single mother.

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he he he

Is he gay B T W?

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this is a lie from the pit of hell. Tell them they will all grace your wedding. dont let them use bad belle to spoil your future. I see w white man becoming your husband very soon, he will have two legs, one head, two hands and one mouth. Please dont listen tp anyone else, this prophecy shall stand.

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