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How Would You Feel If Your Wife Was Flashing Her Body All Over Facebook?

there is someone I know  ( naija lady) she was a very conservative person at one time. She had a child recently and there is one picture of the child on her facebook, what I don't understand is, she has seventy pictures of herself on it half Unclad! like I mean with see through dresses on, all her bosoms hanging out, bending over n all. I have never known this person to be like this. She is sitting on her husbands lap with her underwear showing. Perhaps its a mid life crisis or something she is like 36 thereabouts. I admire the fact that she is confident and trying to be slim (she is not that slim though) regardless, her husband is not in her facebook.  How would you see it if this was your wife?

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But why do some women hang out their bosoms especially married ones? Are they still searching? You don't flaunt everything, sometimes I love the Muslim world.

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i dont understand what your deal is. just leave the woman alone! is between her and her hubby!

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The cover on the Chair.

That is awesome and i respect that.

Nothing can and will stop a cheating person from cheating, cos we come across men and women daily, so i so much agree with you.

Like u said, it is important to know what and why you are there and stay with those reasons.

BTW, what kinda biz are you into?

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NairaLand is a place we all come and share views and opinions and ideas, it is a place where we do buy and sell and just a forum.

Facebook, was supposed to be a network of friends and people making friends and trust me, that is kool, however, i have seen few people that have abused it and make a mess of their marriages, i have seen men making a fool of themselves.

I have noticed that some men cant see something good and pass, so i have decided, that for me, " i will see no evil, hear no evil" so that i can be who i wanna be.

However, please note that not all men and women are like that.

if a man/woman can handle it, sure why not, go for it, make friends, cos there is nothing better than making good friends.

like now if one day i meet "the cover that cover the chair", i will shake her hands and say "HI" and never knows if we can be able to do one or 2 things together in the biz world.

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I don't even understand why it is your business. You are even commenting on if she is slim or not. I think you are jealous of her. What other reason could it be. I am sure if she really has those pictures on facebook her husband knows. You are her taking panadol for someone else's headache

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I swear to GOD thats all I can do.

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here in the states sometimes you have girls that turn out like that if they come from highly religious families or from the deep deep south in the country.  When they hit the city and start getting MTV and poo they forget their up bringing, their values and their morals.

Her husband maybe too bothered with work or a gf to worry about what the hell she is doing or she may just cause so much wahala that he does not want the headache.

I really do understand your concern for your brother-in-law and the peace in his home.  I understand your desire to want for him what you have in your home.  But you have to let it be and let them figure out what is best for them.

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No as much as I would like to, i wouldnt do that.

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@leilah

why don't u give us a link to her facebook website so we can see for ourselves

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There was a lovely intercultural day on right around the corner from me (we didnt know though) she has all the pictures up of that too. Would have liken to be invited, but like that, this is the way the cookie crumbles.

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She is a strange person, we often aranged to meet for a coffee and she simply wouldnt show up or sheo up like 2 hrs late. Main reason why we fell out is b'cos when my husbands bro was away on vacation about two years ago, she threw his sister out of the house over a flimsy arguement with her and changed the locks on the house. We just don't talk, my husband dislikes her also and doesnt even want me near her. I used to ask her for recipes and about the culture etc but she would just never be interested. she is only interested in party party party and showing off! I have tried to be as nice to her as I possibly could, but she doesnt mix with foreign ladies. 

I am close to my husbands sisters though thankfully. Note, this is my husbands brothers wife. not his sister

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Leilah,

I can understand that you feel that her page is not approiate for a married woman but you really have to stay out of this and let that matter be between husband and wife.

You have done all that you need to do by rasing the issue with your husband so now you can rest knowing that your part is done. I understand that you might not want the wahala to come back on you.

Can I ask you something else? Why is it that you and your sister-in-law are not close and she lives in the same country as you since 2002?

My sis-in-law lives in 9ja and we talk at least once a week. I just find this a bit odd.

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The both have their own facebook but are not friends with each other on it.

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Wife,and Mother on FB.

As a Wife, or Husband on FB, ur conduct, and how you are perceived, have ramifications for you family.

Lets look at some of the concerns of the OP, shall we?.

Quite clearly, she is not portraying herself in a light commensurate with being a Wife/ Mother, but rather as being a single woman. She has the time to put up lots of pictures of herself, but none of her hubby, and only one of her child. This is obviously intentional. The question is Why?

She revels in showing off her body on facebook, in an outright provocative way, by making sure her bosom hangs out in the pics, bending over to show her knickers and undies showing when she is on the Husbands lap.

All these are not accidental. The question, again is why?

And just b'cos she is on the Hubbys lap, does not mean he assents to, and condones the behaviour.

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I will so willing to flaunt my wife, oh u have no idea on that one.

However, i wanna flaunt her in real life and not in the cyber world.

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This Leilah get yawa o

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didnt the poster wrote that there are pictures where she is on her husband's lap?!

so if is it not a problem for husband, it shouldnt be for you all.

different people have different ideas of what unclothedness is. as long as you dont see the toto or the Tips then let them live their lives.

reminds me of that thread: http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=272927

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ok thank you for the advice.

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This place may seem like a small community but pretty soon,someone  close to you will find out all the things you've been saying about your matrimonial home and husband's people and it may not go down well with you.

This is friendly advice

leave your matrimonial family out of nairaland

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@sistawoman 36 and married since 2002

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Follow your husbands advice on this issue!

How old is she by the way and how long have they been married.

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Yes you are all right, I shoudl just mind my own business. I just got a bit of a shock thats all. I wouldnt want to get her into trouble so yes, Ill just stay out of it.

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Debosky, If I wanted an opinion onmy sex life I would have continued a past thread. Thank you.

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Osisi, there are lots more weirdos at my end, drug addicts, rapists, criminals. Dont get me wrong. I was wondering whether or not it was a good thing in naija culture. On a general level no its not good for any woman. I was just asking an opinion not trying to get at anyone.

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and what opinion are you seeking,I ask ?

you want to know if Nigerian women show their G strings on facebook?

whyy does every ill you see on your so called Nigerian friends have to be about their culture?

Use your brain,I'm sure you have one

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What reasonalbe married woman lets everyone see her black g string?

must be normal then I take it.

You claim youre such a religious person and close to God dont you? but yet you can turn around and call me white trash when I seek an opinion on morality. God bless you.

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Ms Leilah

You are not white

You are an arab girl

Just like Obama is black

and this has absolutely nothing to do with your skin color but about your continuos pre occupation with other people's family affair

anyone who has been here for at least 2 years knows about you and your own family problems

were you not the same girl who told us her your husband was shoving his XXL cannon in your rear and people were cussing the man out and recommending ointments.

Remember your near divorce .

Those who don't know you ought to check your posts and see all your threads.

you've been married twice and you're still doing busy body like this

Leave other people and their marriages alone and work on yours.

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Very good question?

Even me sef we single no really get time for facebook, how much more for a married woman. Some people always like looking for trouble on facebook for their marriage. Later on she go come talk say na devil do am.

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excuse me osisi! whether I'm a drunkard or not has no bearing on this thread. What are you out to get me for cos I'm white, i dont dress like a hooker, drink or no drink.

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sharap!

did you follow him to get her

where did your own husband get you from

you drunkard!

can you mind your own business for once

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I did! he said she is 'of this character' when I told him he was furious but said he is staying out of this.

See through white mini dresses with black bras! sitting on her hubbys lap and you can actually see right up her skirt. Her husband was always the traditional type, he got her from a village. He was fifteen years in europe before he married her. I am just really shoked as this is not the same woman I have always known. She used to go to church and dress 'normal'.

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talk to your husband about your concerns

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It seems to me that U are or would be ashamed of your wife or yourself.What is wrong with putting up pics on facebook?? What are U trying to hide??

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LOL@ what is a wife doing on facebook?

Naija people sef. Smh

@topic, she got issues.

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The cover on the chair, wetin i do you oh.

here is my take, there is nothing wrong for him to be on facebook, but flashing his body all over with pix, i dont think that is kool, i wont want my woman to have her pictures all over the place on the internet, what would be the reasons behind it?

Infact, dont even put my pictures either.

U cld have an account, and post the picture of our dogs and cats, but no real pix.

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thank you!

a wife can't even be on the computer again because she is "wife"

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If her in-laws are her friends then its likely that the husband knows about or has seen the pictures.

is he complaining?

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waiting to get her groove on

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What is a wife doing on facebook?

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Well, it is either she is advertising herself or she is telling me it is over.

If that was a man that flashes his macho body, there would be noise.

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Are her in laws friends on her page?

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Can you gently take her aside and talk to her about it? Sure her husband would be mortified to find out.

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She is a housewife with no education. If you saw this I swear you would die!! all her family are on her facebook (even her in laws) so its not like she is hiding it. Imagine having over 70 pictures of yourself and just one of you and the child. All these different wigs and outfits. It jsut amazes me,

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Honestly this face boo thing is craze.

A lot of people just expose yeye near Unclad pix there.

Dem eat,u c d pix in facebook,dem shiiiiit,u c d pix for facebook.

To answer ur ques,my wife cannot do dat nonsense

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Attention is what she is looking for. Her husband needs to tell her she is beautiful,etc.All she need is a lil attention from her man.

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