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Husband and Wife in the same Profession?

To my own level of understanding, it's not good for husband and wife to be in the same profession. It has many disadvantages for example, If the husband is an Accountant and the wife also an Accountant, they will have not enough time to stay with their children and this may have negative impact on the children.

Let's take for example the case of a husband and wife that are both legal practitioners, and there was a case that involved two of them. The husband was to defend the his client who was charged to the court and wife was the government lawyer. The case almost destroyed their family because they were against each other.

In conclusion, it is not good for husband and wife to be in the same profession because it has many negative effects on their children and their family as a whole.

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Dont see what wrong in been in the same profession.

My brother and his wife are both accountants... they both attend ican summit n all that stuff together...

They even help each other out, when the need arises... but they obviously are not in the same coy.

I think its cool sha...couples in the same profession.

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God Forbid I marry a lawyer like me!

*shudders*

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there are tendency that they will be talking work and profession when they are home, so better to be in different program jare

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There are a lot of other things which can make family life harder, than if the couple work at the same place. Of course there are positive and negative implications on the relationship married or not. If the cuople are mature and not taking each other rivals, they may even find it easier to communicate 'cause likely they are thinking and talking in the similar wave length. As a whole I think if they are in the same profession, it may be a good thing.

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I agree with you.

Cos it is better to have something else to talk about other than what you both do.

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abeg, nutin dey there

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firstly, i think most organisations don't allow their married couples in the same organisation (i satnd to be corrected). I dont see anything wrong with a couple

in the same proffession, they can be in the same proffession but in different organisations

and not forgetting with different challenges.

Cos its the same proffession doen't mean they wont have time for their kids or for the

home, and being in different proffessions doesn't guarantee that either.

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Contrary to what you think. It is very interesting for couples to be in the same profession if they are in the right profession. I and my hubby are in the same profession and discuss at length issues relating to Accounting (we are both professionals with both audit and accounting experiences).

This is different from being in the same coy or org. as it is a different ball game altogether.

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nothing wrong with husband and wife in the same profession as long as both has agreed commitment equally.

It is cool!!! I would accept for my man same or similar profession running our entrepreneurship---saving money to take vacation, travel together, take break, etc as well as exciting sharing ideas/brainstorms/market promotions---the same philosophy and mission statement/objective.

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husband and wife can be in the same profession but not d same organisation

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There is nothing bad in it. What is bad for one might

be good for another. It all depends on what they they

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I think there are pros and cons to it.

The only con is the fact that, when they get home, there is chances that they will both still talk about work and would be boring, especially in IT.

the Pros are endless, cos they have same taste, can help each other when they are stuck, and can speak same language, could feed of each other's brain and all that.

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Why not, so long the two parties understands work as "work" and family as "family"

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My parents were in the same profession. As a matter of fact, my father was my mom's boss, and when he retired, she took over from him. There was no rupture in their marriage, regarding this, and they were married to each other till the 90's, when they sucumbed to death. So, there is no problem. As a matter of fact, I think it strengthens the bond of the relationship if you are matured about it.

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I'm an entrepreneur, and my wife will be the same. Entrepreneurs can find themselves in any industry at any time, but the love of profit is one thing that unites us! A family with two entrepreneurs will be so exciting!

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My wife and I are both Police Officers. I work only nights and she works alternating days and nights for another agency on the opposite shift. When she is off, I'm working and when I'm working she is off. Plus, due to bad communication between Police agencies we are able to sit down and compare notes and have solved many crimes this way. It also works out good because we don't have to hire a sitter to watch the children or a housekeeper to clean the house. It's a shared responsibility. So in our case, a shared profession is a good thing.

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Thats not really a bad thing,i think its worse when they work in thesame office,

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Well, this probably speaks to a problem with the people, not their jobs.

If they will fight someone just for a position at work, then even if they worked in different jobs, they would probably find something to fight about.

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i dont see anything wrong...infact, i fink it is pretty cool

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I dont see anything wrong in that when you plan your life accordingly. It also depends on the kind of profession also. And what if they are in different professions and still dont have time for thier kids, of course a man can be doctor while the wife banker. It still mean the same cos they will not have time to stay at home that much.

Again, there is nothing you can do when you are both in love or would you say because my wife/husband is in the same profession with me, you wont date/marry him/her.

It's all left for both team to work things out, maybe by telling the wife to stay at home for some time, then later begin her work.

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This is not correct. Personal and anecdotal evidence shows that both parents can be medical doctors and still find time for their children. Perhaps you don't have children yet, and thus cannot imagine what you would do for them.

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It is absolutely wrong for both husband and wife to be in the same profession or carreer,

because they will not have the time for their children for example if both husband and wife

are doctors by profession you could imagine what the children will undergo, infact they will

not even have a single time for their chilrden.

The father may be oncall today then next the mother of which the parents are maent to

spend much of their time on the children istead of leaving the job for the hose girl to do.

I know that it is absolutley wrong for both of them to be in the same profession.

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maybe lawyers and medical professionals are already crazy

I don't see how marrying another electrical engineer could possibly drive me crazy. I sometimes waste hours talking about some project or concept or idea with one of my best friends - same major, field, almost identical interests. . . I can't see how it would ever get to be too much.

I have family members who are married, same profession, and worked in the same organization. Since one was the founder, clearly the other worked underneath. I doubt they much problems with that arrangement.

I don't see how being in the same profession would affect time spent with children or housekeeping any more than being in different demanding jobs. Unless people are suggesting that one person be a lawyer and the other be a math tutor. . . there is going to be job combinations that would keep both partners away from the home at critical moments.

All the issues that were brought up should can be resolved by open minded clear thinking loving partners. If they are having major problems, the only issue I could see cropping up from working in the same place is that they take their arguments to work and it results in one or both of them getting fired.

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For one, i don't buy the idea. I have always said it, i can't marry anybody in the same profession with me. Not even a similar profession. (e.g. medical professioners) We would just drive ourselves and others crazy with jagons. I rem my school days in the hostel, we talked about almost nothing else than medical jagons. Even if we talked about something else we would get a way of boiling it down it to something we've just learnt or seen in the hospital.

I'll like someone totally different.

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there is nothing wrong with it as long as they are not working in the same office.

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One more thing. They shouldn't try to make their children into what they are. Most parents that are of the same profession (mostly doctors, lawyers and those top people) always try to turn their kids into their kind. I think that's wrong.

(Editor: Continued under 'Parents Imposing A Career on Their Children')

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For me it's okay but they should create time to talk about other things affecting them, especially the family.

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well i dont like the idea of both being in the same office so..... pls put dat aside ok

i realy dislike it

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I think Ra said it all by pointing out that when a couple is in love,professions doesn't matter.such mundane things pales into insignificance.

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If its a professional job like medical Doctor,Legal practitional or banker and any other profession thats takes alot of your time so that you will have less time for the children i say no

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My dear people of Nairaland, let us get to this topic proper.

Are we talking of couples working in the organization? Tayotina mentioned that, while Eniolatj said same profession.

For couples working with same organization I will not subscribe to that.

But may I tell you there is absolutely nothing wrong with couples being in the same profession for God's sake.

Let's get this clear, the reasons given above depends solely on the the profession they are.

Like someone said that if the two are to be accountant they might not have time for their children which will definitely have some effects on them - agreed.

But that doesn't out people from other profession to marry each other.

I've seen people who are in the same profession and are couples.

My former boss who worked with few years ago is medical doctor - gynecologist while his wife is medical doctor too - paediatrician. They are happily married, doing great.

Femi Falana an arduous lawyer, an activist married a lawyer. His wife was his counsel during Oputa panel. They are doing great. The money which suppose to go another man's pocket for defense was saved.

My father, a renowned educationist married a teacher which really helped us(we the children)and we are doing well education wise and finaciall things are much more better now. I can beat my chest for them they are great.

If I see anyone from my profession and if she's OK for why not?

That means I will run my Clinic with ease.

Profession is should not be a barrier to marriage.

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I see nothing bad in it as long as they are not working in the same office/organisation. As for me, I even prefer to marry someone in my field cos it's just da bomb.

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Workplace and profession are two different things and here, we are talking about profession. In the same profession, they can, so far the job is not too demanding like banking job that both would have to close late.

If they two are teachers, it 's okay. Variety is a spice of life, yes. They would still have varied ideas to discuss about. Things that happened in their various schools.

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nothing bad about it other than the fact that they will drive their kids crazy with their occupational jargon (You need to be there when my cousins and my dad get together and start speaking in medical terms, they might as well be speaking in greek or urdu)

but if its a tasking profession that yakes them away from each other it might cause marital difficulties like doctors on call 24 hours or actors and actresses at different locations . if the wife outpaces the husband academically it might cause trouble in some homes.

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well, em........ being in the same profession with your spouse is not a bad idea. I think where there would be a real problem is a situation in which both work in same company and if the wife is not the humble type......... But, basically it all falls back to both couples, if you find it fun and convenient being in same profession fine. Remember also that some couples today met in same class, same profession, moreso there are families whereby the parents and children are all accountants, or engineers.

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For starters, a husband and the wife can never handle the same case, as this will constitute what is commonly known as 'conflict of interests'.

Now, would I marry a legal practitioner? NO. Why? we'll talk each-other to death for one and we'll forever argue for another. However, it might actually be interesting as you share another common passion; your career.

Questions such as this are not exhausted with a yes/no answer. At the expense of sounding repetitive tonight, I dare say it again depends on what the parties want for themselves individually and collectively. Falling in love, STAYING in love and getting married to someone goes beyond these mundane issues. If he has to be a lawyer, so be it. As long as he's intresting, exciting, caring, loving, considerate and above all God fearing, it's all good, really.

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I personally think the only real problem comes when they are at the same workplace, if i'm around someone that long I get sick of them so that would probably hurt the relationship somewhat...

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In my own opinion, I think it is unwise for a husband and his wife to work with the same organisation. As diakim rightly said, variety is the spice of life. We work with different organisations, then exchange ideas later in the day. I brief you on what is going on in my company and you also do likewise.

I, personally, will not pray to be in the same profession with my husband. You can imagine a situation whereby a wife is being promoted to a position where her husband would have to report to her everyday.

And if the wife happens to be the rude type, I am very sure at the slightest provocation, she would not hesitate the remind her husband of that fact. And what do we call that? Would you rather destroy your home because of your work?

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I agree with you eniolatj. It is not good for husband and wife to be in the same profession. Why?

1. Variety is sauce of life. It is more interesting and fun if both are in different profession.

2. If adverse economic or socio-political climate affects negatively one profession, the family can still survive through the order profession.

3. At least one of their children will practise their profession, making it worse.

4. It may lead to unhealthy rivalry/competition between the couple.

To cap it all, I know a couple friend who are both bank workers @ the same bank, but different branch. They are now jobless due to the present restructuring in the banking industry. They are now both jobless.

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Thanks for raising this interesting topic. We have a lot of married people browsing Nairaland, and I am sure they will be happy to contribute their opinions. Some of them will need to register and login before they can participate, and I'll like to implore them to take those steps. Registration only takes two minutes!

An anonymous visitor dropped this message for eniolatj:

[I]"... you have good points and I agree with you that husband and wife shouldn't be involved in the same profession."[/I]

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