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Husband Or Parents: Who Owns The Woman?

When a woman eventually gets married, does she still belong to her parents - the ones who brought her into this world; or her husband - the one who paid the price to possess her?

PS. Pls forgive my use of English there. 'OWN' there is just to show who really can still say "She belongs to me".

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word i agree with u cuz women aint slaves to be owned or property

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As for me - it is the parents.

When i get married i will become one with my husband - flesh of his flesh so then we belong to each other but my parents will always be there and for me since they were there from the beginning it is the parents that own me

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no one owns the woman she has a mind of her own.

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There was a case of a woman held alive by marschin the husband wanted them to keep the marschin on till the baby comes the parents not.

the woman was clinically dead.

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If the wife is at a point where she can't function as a wife anymore, and the parents want custody of their child so they can take care of her, then any husband witha brain would let them take custody. They concieved her, nurtured her, raised her, educated her before you showed up. They deserve that last gesture of respect in such circumstances.

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Nobody owns her. She's more attached to her husband but she's not an object to be 'owned'.

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what sort of question is this one? They both (husband and wife) own each other. What has parents got to do with that?

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she has passed away after 17 years illness.

it was my dad that had the right  he desided over her property we the children over her because my dad let us bylaw he had all rights

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When i say sick i mean sick.

she ccould not walk , talk or communicate we do not even know if she still knew us.

The worst no doctor could find out what she had.Even they said maybe some sort of african posion they do not know of.

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Thats true but others take the dision over life and death.

My mum too was very sick real sick and in all the time she was sick it was others that took the decisions.Over her body and her property.

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If the woman goes in a coma, then i suppose the parents own her

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the men goes in comas too don't they?

they actually go in it more often than women.

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Not if she is in coma or unconscious.

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regardless of what the misguided husband or parents might think, the woman [b]owns herself [/b]100%.

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To me the answer is the husband owns her by 65% and the parent 35% because the bible says;" a man and  shall leave their  parent and become one. But the parent owns the 35% because they bought her to live apart from that the husband owns her alive or died.

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@goodguy

I think the word "own" should be properly defined in/out of the marriage context.

I would think of it as "allegiance, 1st responsibility" etc

Before marriage, a "wife" owes her parents her first allegiance and responsibility. And after marriage, she owes it to her husband and family. Same goes for the husband to the wife.

Usually, what causes problems in homes today is that the husband feels he is still "as bound as before" to his maternal family, even after marriage. He wants his wifes first allegiance, yet he can't detach himself from his family. The wife might seek a recourse to bring her own folks into the picture, and the the "clash of the inlaws begin".

I believe in "a man leaves his father and his mother,  a woman leaves her father and her mother, both the man and the woman come together and become one".

I'm not saying our parents become useless after marriage. Its just that one should put things in right perspective. When crucial decisions have to be taken, one should put his "immediate" family first. And until one's parents physically pass away, he/she doesnt cease to become a child to them, and so the love, respect and responsibility towards them must not be cut off.

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husband owns the wife. wife owns the husband.

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My husband can say he owns me. But i think my PARENTS STILL OWN ME.

When a woman is married, the husband technically becomes the one she'll do 'signings' with. That is, when she's the hospital, the doctors will ask, where's ur husband, not where r ur parents.

technically, the husband becomes the one who owns the woman, Cos they already said "i do", I do to "u r mine forever".

BUt for me oo, My dad (parents) still owns me. If some nuts lose in my husbands head, shey ill go back to my parents house.

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nope! from the very day a woman says ''i do'' to her husband, she becomes one with him, so from henceforth she's ''his'' not her family's

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children are a gift from god .We do not own them.A husband can also not own a wife.

but by law if the wife is sick and cannot take a decision on her own then the husband has more rights than the parents.

There have been some populer cases of a Woman in coma or were the kept the woman alive till she had the baby.

In all it was always a fight between parents and husbabd

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