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I Am Lost Pls Can Someone Show Me A Way Out?

It will not be new if am poured with words of insult but i just need to express what am feeling right now.

I have been going out with this girl for the past 11yrs, i love her but the truth is that i can't marry her due to some circumstances beyound my control. she knows that too but she keeps on saying that it will work out.

Is never in me to have plunged into another relationship but because of this problem i found my self in the arms of another who infact loves me dearly and in return i love her too to the extend of telling her that i would have married her immediately if she was the one i first met. She is my Idea of wife, she is a wife material, having the qualities of not just a woman but a wife.

Sometimes i feel she is disguising but i realise she is not, just been her real self and very very understanding.

Here comes my problem, i don't want to hurt my first girl because of the time she has invested in the relastionship aslo i do not want to hurt my present girl because of how good she is to me.

I have never been confused in my life but this am really confused.

What do i do and how do i go about it cos i don't want to let go of my present girl and i don't want to hurt old girl too.

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I dont understand why he cant marry girl #1 and if he cant marry her then does he not want to ever get married?

if he does want to get married then he knows who he needs to go to and be with.

It is just that simple. What does he want?

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truth be told u're wasting ppls time, u're not being straightforwad! tell ur story again but this time tell the truth!

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if am the close pal to the guy does it stop you from saying your own view? I don't waste peoples time ok.

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I do not believe in divorce but i do not intend to hurt her

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I dont really dont knw wht to say,but 11yrs is not a joke,and 4 11yrs u guys cudnt work out the reason it wont work.Do u believe in divorce?

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now u are the close pal to the guy

abeg go to some other forum and stop wasting ppl's time.

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R u the girl he cant marry or the one he wants to marry?

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I see nothing funny there for me trying to explain the feelings of a man so that you can offer your opinion.

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LOL! This is too funny. Go back and start from scratch. You have confused just about everyone here and probably yourself.

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boy girl.

u aint sure which one u are!

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your story is too confusing. you claim to be a man then a woman then you say "her mum takes me as her own SON"

i think you should start all over again with your story explaining it in plain english from your own point of view.

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The reason been that her parents her Christian (Evangelist for that matter) while my parents are moselems and besides that the mum takes me as her own son but the truth is that she does not know that am having her fair with her daughter.

Also the girl in Question is having a temper that is beyound control and i sat down with elders to present this case, they all have one voice that it will not be good if i go ahead to marry her that it will be disaster.

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if you cant explain the reason why you cant marry number 1 then you shouldnt put half stories in here.

there is no way someone can give you a mature advice UNLESS they know the WHOLE story.

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is what is keeping you from marrying #1 something that can be worked out?

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I am old enough for marriage and the girls in question too.

Well am a graduate.

At least a year plus.

I think the both of them but when am with #2 i feel like a man. she has this kind of spirit i found so captivating.

Well, for that i can't even explain is complicated more than i thought.

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Please answer a few questions for me:

How old are you all (both girls and you)

Level of education

Amount of time with girl #2

Who makes your heart flutter when you think of them

What is keeping you and girl #1 from Marrying is this a perm. thing or something that can be worked out.

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i know ao u feel but u r in the right position to write ur own script

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someone pls call 911!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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