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If I Sue Them, Will I Win?

I grew up in a family where there really was no love. I sometimes wondered why my parents married. It was so obvious my Dad did not love my mum. And he made her go through hell. I really appreciate her tenacity through those trying years. The lack of love rubbed on us the children. From an early age, we did not really feel like we could be close to our parents. The tension in the marriage always resulted in our parents shouting at us, complaining about almost everything, and ultimately alienating us. TO make matters worse, I went to a boarding house where I found it hard to fit in and in those formative years, constant picking on by seniors and constant ridicule by my mates, shattered my self confidence, and made me not willing to expose myself to people because of fear of ridicule and alienation-this was usually masked as shyness. Because of this shyness, I can't have relationships with members of the opposite sex and almost all of my other relationships suffer. I wonder how I can even find a wife. I have come to realize that what I went through under my parents and in my secondary school was EMOTIONAL ABUSE. Now that I realize it, I am trying to rebuild myself so I can be a functioning member of the society, something I have never been. But I still feel a need to let those who put me in this situation realize their wrong. I want to sue my parents and my school. Do I have a chance of winning? This is not about money, it is about starting a new life and erasing a wrong I suffered. My parents are wonderful people, but I can't just let things slide like that. I have not added much details of what I suffered because I do not want to turn this into an epistle. But I really suffered emotionally and now I am emotionally dysfunctional.

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Pele ooo, Wat u should be doin nw is buildin up urself so that ur children dont suffer the same fate, concernin suing them, bad idea u will only bring shame and ridicule 2 urself as ur parents are obviously shameless, One luv

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Dude, two words :

GROW UP! ! !

What is wrong with you? What is wrong with all these spoilt kids these days? Do you think you are the only one from a dysfunctional family? I AM FROM A DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY and i don't take it out on anyone.It is what it is.You are even lucky your parents stuck together.My parents broke up when i was less than 5 years old, i grew up raised by a single mom and i turned out alright.I suffered a lot in my academics and other social aspects of my life but i don't whine about it.I don't even know most of my uncles,aunts and other relatives from my father's side and it's really affecting me as an adult BUT I DON'T TAKE IT OUT ON ANYONE.Life sucks sometimes and you take it as it comes.Don't come here and show the whole world the kind of humongous ingrate you really are. There are so many successful people who are orphans with no real family and this post of yours is an insult to such people.

This is why i don't intend having more than 2 kids and i will definitely NOT attach myself too much to them.All they care about is themselves.Selfish brats!

What an ingrate! ! !

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Taking your parents to court would amount to ingratitude.

You may have to see a counsellor who would attend to you as appropriate

The truth is that with what you have posted we cannot appreciate what the scars are like and how deep the wounds are

But i am sure you can open up to a counsellor

U really need to talk to someone

And no matter what please dont be MUTALLABISH

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Well, otha posters have taken the words out my mouth. It might not be easy but leave the past in the past and welcome the future with open arms. Suing ur parents won't achieve jack; u aint gone win and u'll further alienate them! Go eazy

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np - they can also countersue you for all the trouble YOU  caused them when growing up.

they can also sue you because they probably stuck together because of you - a personal sacrifice on their part. it could have been far worse f they'd divorced - custody battles, alterate weekends a stream of boyfriends/irlfirends all trying to pretend to like you. . .

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No wonder you started a love song.

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U just have to leave wat happened in the past,since u now know what ur is,brace up urself & look 4 a way to make ur life beta like someone said.

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Forgiving others is the best path for a fresh start as it offers you a new page to begin from.

Forgive your parents and school and start your life anew by building those characters you like. That baggage of bitterness and need for revenge you carry around won't help improve your life, forget about suing anyone just work on making you a better person.

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Tanimz jst said it all.Move on and make CONSCIOUS effort to be a better man

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Suing them would just worsen whats at hand currently, the best thing to do is move on with your life and try to be a better parent to your children (You can start working towards that now).

While I was still in high school, I went through emotional "phases" too, but they werent as bad as yours, when I left for college- the new environment and people changed my life entirely. What you need is a break from your family and all those that may have/ or is still affecting you emotionally.

Your parents may have not being the best or what you might have expected them to be, but on the other hand- be grateful as there are millions of children out there that would not mind having parents- even if they didnt pay them any attention or show them love. At least they sent you to school, be grateful for that.

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Suing them will not solve or change anthing,

just find a way to improve your life, and make something out of it

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ok if im not mistaken you want to sue your parents?? what an ingrate

whats wrong with these children nowadays?? do you think your the only one with family issues? God knows the number of dysfunctional families out there, dont even get me started on emotional abuse in boarding school at least you were sent to school!!!

or did you also have to hawk pure water on dangerous expressways?? are you not alive and well?? or were u also starved??

you have to pick yourself up and GET OVER IT!!! your failure to do so is alienating you, you are shutting yourself out and you have no one else to blame!!!

Look at your past, notice the mistakes and make sure you dont end up like them!! simple, we have the power to turn ourselves around, we also have the choice close the chapters to your past face the future, face Jesus

you can also listen to this song

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They'll provide you the attention and popularity you're searching for

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Will they solve my problem? I don't think so.

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wtf! i just gave you two suggestions and you're still whining

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I really do not know what to do!

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go on dr phil or maury

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