Put yourself in my shoes, and what would u 've done?
I'll cut it short. I've a son with a man who right from the 1st month I told him am pregnant he urged me to abort with all kinds of threat but because my life was at stake, I had to keep d baby.
During this process my personal house was set on fire, I past thru. hell making sure I don't miss d blood. God provide d blood and gave me a lovely, handsome, beautiful baby boy.
I arrested him due to d threat when d baby was 3 months. At 5 months he took me to welfare to cater 4 d baby which we neva reach a concensus. He now went to Min. of Justice yet all to no avail. He mention DNA test and my family & lawyer insist on it first b/4 anyother thing for my son's future and safety.
Now, d baby is a yr and six months (1yr 6mths), he's of age to start School. I sent him mail to look for d School but he neva did, I checked d Sch. and now gave him d bill with my son's a/c no. to pay in the money, no reply. I took him to Min. of Justice this time around, he now insist he's paying 60% & I've to pay 40% for the fees. Feeding 5k, clothing 1k, medical 1k. He was now told medical is not inclusive dat they're not wishing d baby to be sick, he said "NO" he must pay because he doesn't want to be called upon incase d baby is ill. I don't agree to this terms. He earns 350k per month.
B/4 dis last meeting he calls me names and I gave him back also and still sent him terrible text. "His father neva train him (is mum did until he's a Mech. Engr.), could dis be nemesis". Unfortunately, d mum is late.
He said "I come to welfare anytime I want to see him" He still feels I want to use d baby to trap him. It's far from my mind. I was angry and felt I can't forgive but when I read a book by one man of God about danger in unforgiveness, I had to forgive him immediately with most of my friends who were involved.
I've move on with my life and still very happy. Could he be dat when he sees me at d welfare looking good, he's not happy? He said lots of things this last time but I gave a deaf ear. (1) I'll soon cross his line (2) What'll d son inherit from him dat he neva inherited anything from his father.
Anywhere, I make mockery of him dat d baby is a male child. He can run to anywhere dat even if we're not married he's d head full stop.
He said "he's married" thank God for him. Whether he's married or not I don't give a damn and am not interested even if he's d only man on earth, I WON'T MARRY HIM" Am from a home dat parent are happily married.
I TOLD HIM TO PAY ME ALL MY BACKLOG AND TAKE HIS SON since he's not ready to take d responsibility. He said "NO"
PLEASE GENUINE ADVISE NEEDED