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If Someone Tells You Not To Come To Her House Again Will You Go?

My mother's friend asked my mother not to go to her house again and not to call her on her cellphone again just because they had a minor disagreement,which was my mother's friend's fault.My mother still kept calling her but she kept banging the phone at my mom,and when my mom went to visit her her daughter opened the door for my mom,Then Immediately she saw my mom,she told her that if she knew she was the one knocking she wouldn't have opened the door.When my mom asked her why she wants to pick up a quarrel between them,she said she felt like staying on her own,My mom swore that she would have nothing to do with her again.Then after some months,she starts feeling lonely and starts telling people she said that out of anger and those people began to advice my mother to go to her house or call her on her cellphone.My mother refused and since that day they got angry at my mother. Is it advisable to heed to their advice?

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True.  Though I'm not one for all that.  Once it's done, it's done.  I do not go back.

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i will not go to her house, but i will pray God touches her heart and all. i will give her some time and one day call out of the blue. This worked for my mum and i remember the story faintly now, though in her case the woman did not tell her not to come to her house.

NB: this depends on my relationship with the person. how close we were and if the friendship is worth saving.

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NO, you are wrong!

Your mum need not wait for the woman to come and apologize, if she waits, she would wait forever because the other woman won't come.

Have you ever asked yourself, What if this woman dies? It would be better for your mum to go and meet her, then she should ask her what she has done, then apologize. If the woman refuses, your mom is not to blame because she has already apologized, so everything is on the other woman.

Let your mom approach the woman first, she should not wait.

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It depends on who the person is and how much I care about them.

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let her call your mom and apologize. your mom should not call her or go to her place. she should call you mom first.

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Depends on the person, and my relationship with him/her. Some people tend to say things they don't mean in the heat of the moment. Knowing that, it would be unfair to take it up against them.

Add the fact that people often change their minds.

Still I always advice people to choose their words carefully, else you hurt others you care about.

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if someone tells me not to come to her home, i will gladly oblige especially if there was a disagreement at least i would stop and just to let things settle.

if your mom still regard her as a friend, then she should reconcile with her, i dont really know the cause of the argument so if it was a minor thing then she should just reconcile with her.

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