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If Your Husband Doesnt Touch You Again What Will You Do?

Even you try to touch him, he always rebuked you. he doesnt give you any attention, and you suspect hes cheating on you, what will you do

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#singing...are u weary,are u heavy hearted,tell it to Jesus,tell it to Jesus....#He will guide and will never leave u if u have searched urself and it's not from u.how about personal hygiene? Are u ok down dere?no odours or anything.

On a lighter note, nairaland! Nairaland!! And Nairaland some more!!!And ur sorrows and worries would be quickly forgotten!

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Maybe you smell bad and need to look at yourself to see if you do clean up yourself and getting too dirty.

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at byan that good for you so you wont want to win his love back.

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If a husband,who is probably cheating doesn't touch me?If that's the question,then I ll consider it a blessing that the disease vector got rid of himself.who is intrested in playing with a every woman's toy,I ll simply buy myself a personal Love Machine and google how to derive maximum utility from it.The rest of my energy will be channelled towards being as successful as I can chikena!!!

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I think the best possible solution is to work on yourself and start looking very sexy again, women become more relax after marriage especially after one or two kids. Men are attracted to opposite sex by sight , what men sees turns them on contrary to women who are attracted by personalty. The best bet is to continuously radiating and looking sexy home wear short and revealing clothes, dont get too fat and stop to dey tie rapper for house.

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How long have you been married? He's your husband,talk to him,ask question to make sure there're no health problems involved and yes, you can't stop taking care of yourself.

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i would buy the biggest Love Machine known to man kind and use it in front of him, just to let him know that he can always be replaced with a human or an object

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let the lady search herself may be she has done something wrong

let her be vigilant enough to know what is going on with his husband

pray to God for help and love to always win her husband lest he goes out and find

sugar mum,husband snatcher

next day let her prepare dish that he likes

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Doesnt necessarily have to be a pastor, but someone who can give counselling advice.

Of course you tell that you aint shagging no more. At that point, there is no need for modesty again, na solution to the problem you de find! Abi husband and wife shagging na sin?

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It’s very serious when a married man refuses to have sex with his wife. It's usually a sign that he's harbouring a big grudge against his wife and probably thinks he can punish her by denying her. Some of the reasons could be:

1. She’s denied him sex several times before when he really wanted it ‘badly’ and he wants to retaliate.

2. She does not really satisfy him in bed (frequency and quality), so why bother when she’s not willing to change or he not willing to accept things the way they are? Some ladies are just like logs in bed and are not adventurous.

3. He’s getting it regularly from another source.

4. Having other problems: emotional, health, financial, etc

5. No longer in love or emotionally connected to his wife, but just living like roommates.

It’s usually best to attack it early. Allowing it linger for over a week could spell permanent trouble. If he won’t cooperate, pester him and don’t let him sleep all night until you get some or get him to talk about why he’s no interested. It’s really so easy to arouse a man if you touch the right spot(s). No matter how much he pretends that he’s not interested.

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So what will you tell the pastor, that your husband aint shagging you no more?

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Na wa o, sara_j and bridget, what kind of marriage do you guys have? No sex for months and you're under the same roof? Hmmm.

Anyway, @ poster, talk to him and give him a chance to table his grievances if he has any. If dat dont work, then involve someone mature and neutral, like your pastor.

If after all this no change, then God help you, cos a sexless marriage is NOT easy!

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If you need the thing that bad, while he is sleeping, use his thing to help yourself, at least, na your husband

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I also know a man who refused to have sex with his wife after marriage. She got pregnant before the wedding and he really did not want to marry. After the wedding he refused sex with her but had sex with any other woman who would let him.

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The bible teaches us that the wife's body is not her own and neither is rhe husband's body his own. They each belong one 2 the other. The bible says to not defraud each other in this respect and to only abstain from sex during fasting and prayer by consent of both and then to come together again quickly LEST YE BE TEMPTED. No spouse should hurt the other this way. It matters not whether u r good at it or not. A loving spouse will teach you. Pray; seek God and godly counsel. Do not return evil with evil. If he will not tell you what is going on, ask God. He surely will reveal it.

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That happened to me, when pregnant he rarely would come near, only came near me again me 3 months after having baby despite lots of asking. Since marrying only about 6 times. No sex now since new year, I have begged in the past and still he says no, I gave up.

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If Your Husband Doesn't Touch You Again What Will You Do?

Ans - First it's not fair for any man on earth to neglect his wife. how dare you suffer your wife of sex (if that is what the poster means) it's totally unfair , well as for me i think the woman should just do whatever she likes , Honestly ,

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good talk, @ poster, don't listen to divorce advise, it has come to that extend, talk with ur man he will flow with u.

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you're living in a boarding house not a marriage. Get help ASAP.

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Its better to find out the reason rather than allow the ones who have lost all to mislead you. The guy might even be going through some difficult things that you dont know about.

He could be thinking too much about things like finances. He could be having problems motivating himself for sex. He could be seeing you in a different light. If you have been having constant quarrels, it is possible for him to get turned off.

Find out the reason first and dont jump the gun by doing what some people would have you do here without knowing what the situation on ground is. The first few years of my marriage-  there were times when I would go for as long as 2 weeks without making love with my wife whenever we had an argument. I just got turned off after every argument. These things can happen so dont let anyone mislead you here.

be sure you know what you're doing before doing anything!

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I will try to talk with him to know why he do not enjoy my touches, maybe he is stressed up with work or something, anyhow, i advice u to talk it out with him.

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@ sara j & poster,

For God's sake both of you should try as much as possible to follow yimi's instruction, it will go a long way to help you solve this problem.

Note that the success or otherwise of your marriage depends solely on you. The good book says: a wise woman builds her house while a foolish woman pulls hers down with her own hands. Please choose to be wise.

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Thats my situation, my husband hasen't touched me since last May. Just take your mind off by getting another hobby. There is no point in cheating on your husband. Its not worth the guilty conscience. Sex isn't everything. Maybe I wasn't good in it in the first place so I shouldn't be doing it anyway. My husband goes outside to have sex. I try not to let it get to me though, I occupy my mind with other things.

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You Go Girl! I'm Loving this response, unfortunately, it does not always work out (and most definitely won't if she lived in Nigeria).

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Hire a Private Investigator

Get the proof he is cheating

Get a lawyer and take it all.

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@yimiton , you have spoken well. givers of knowlege shall not lack.u shall not lack

@beninman, ur post in not neccessary at all. if you want to comment on any body's post go sright to the point.anybody form any relegion can talk sence.stop dragging ur leg on the floor.

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@ yimiton

Men love sex, they love to take it when they are married because they feel it is their rights.

So, if my husband is suddenly not interested in sex with me, I'll know it's not a funny issue, it's a very serious issue and I'll treat it thus.

First, I'll ask myself if there's anything wrong with me, like:

1. have I gotten really fat and unattractive

2. do I still take time to make my hair

3. are my cloths sexy

4. what about the room, is it inviting, romantic and neat?

If the answer to any of these questions is on the negative, I'll make an effort to put things right with myself. While doing this, I'll call him and have a heart to heart talk with him. Like really discuss with him about my fears and discomfort.

I believe that when he notices that I've made obvious efforts to please him, he'll get around and stop acting up. Unless he has totally stopped loving me and he already in love with another woman and just feels trapped with me because I'm his wife. In that case, we'll need a professional, that's a psychologist. Above all of these, I'll remember to pray and pray very hard, committing my marriage in God's hands.

Do all of these sis, and I'm sure you'll have your man eating you all up again.

All the best

You must be a one of those good God fearing house wife! God will surely bless you and your home! In all I have read in this topic, you have so far posted the best that I really valued! I think the wisdom did not just come to you but, God has giving you the wisdom to write this out here. You must be a Christian because other religions don't always stand in place of peace but the other way around.

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If he wont touch u, get some intimacy gadgets and have fun.

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Men love sex, they love to take it when they are married because they feel it is their rights.

So, if my husband is suddenly not interested in sex with me, I'll know it's not a funny issue, it's a very serious issue and I'll treat it thus.

First, I'll ask myself if there's anything wrong with me, like:

1. have I gotten really fat and unattractive

2. do I still take time to make my hair

3. are my cloths sexy

4. what about the room, is it inviting, romantic and neat?

If the answer to any of these questions is on the negative, I'll make an effort to put things right with myself. While doing this, I'll call him and have a heart to heart talk with him. Like really discuss with him about my fears and discomfort.

I believe that when he notices that I've made obvious efforts to please him, he'll get around and stop acting up. Unless he has totally stopped loving me and he already in love with another woman and just feels trapped with me because I'm his wife. In that case, we'll need a profesional, that's a psychologist. Above all of these, I'll remember to pray and pray very hard, committing my marriage in God's hands.

Do all of these sis, and I'm sure you'll have your man eating you all up again.

All the best

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@ poster

methinks this matter is true-life

Well did you lose shape or lose your game or does he have erectile dysfunction

Search yourself and see what you lost or did not lose

I don't think he's having an affair,but he just might if you don't remedy the situation

Best of luck

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I will try by all means to find out as to why he is refusin me, and hope he's not goin through temporary insanity, hence he's refusin to touch my heavenly bodi.

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lmao @ holla at your boy.

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Smtin is probably wrong.Calm down,search yourself if the fault is from you/try tracing where d fault is from.By doing so,you've suceeded in solving part of the problem den you can tk tins to the next level.Meanwhile,put on ur God given charm maybe that wil help a lil.

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or maybe uv lost ur beauty!

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Try and talk it out with him. Equally make sure u've done all it takes to seduce him or make him sexually excited( some men hate monotony and unattractive wives just turn them off!)

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Find someone else who will. jk

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well, well, if he doesnt i will try to talk to him to understand that Im human too, and I get hormones flowing in my systems. I will pester him for a while and see, if he doesnt response, of course I will find alternative. There are cucumbers and carrots in d market. Or even body spary cans can work. But I hear say the oyibo thing don enter market. And if that one no do, there are other men that can secretly satisfy my urge. Afterall Im a human. Thank God, he service me anytime I need service.

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Then I will touch myself and act like it is even better than when he does it. He will get jealous lol

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If you mean touch as in "sex", then i would just catch him when he is not expecting it.

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