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In The Absence Of Love Should Couples Still Remain Married?

If after some time in marriage one of the couples realised that she or he has no love however little for the other person should they hang on in the marriage especially if they have children. might be that there was love before marriage and it died or that it was not really love in the first place. If after trying everything humanly possible for the one that no longer loves the other to try and have the love but the love is just no where to be found, shoud they leave amicably or hang up and pretend its fine even though they are like coleaques in the house?

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What is love?

How do you define love? Without mistaking it for Lust?

There is a lot more to a successful marriage than love alone. Love is just one of many things (such as respect, understanding, maturity, tolerance, friendship, etc) that helps build up a healthy, successful marriage. Love though, is the icing on the cake.

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NO. When there is no love, resentment sets in bringing in its wake a lot of criticisms, arguments and fights.

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I dont think love alone shd be the basis for marriage, commitment is very important, so if they lose out on love and still committed, especially when kids are involved, they shd try to work it out, but if not possible, better to go on seperate ways, life is too short to be miserable with someone that you live with.

Room-mating with your spouse, i think is the worse slavery.

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Their will surely be something that attracted both of you together be4 going into marriage

may be that thing is dead,do you believe you can still breathe new life into it?do you believeimmediately divorce set in,your childrens'life is at stake.

pls try and rethink b4 any step.

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MY OPTION

*NO LOVE BUT PIECE IN THE HOUSE MARRIAGE CAN BE FOR THE SAKE OF THE CHILDRED FOR LOVE ALWAY COME BACK .

*NO LOVE AND NO PIECE (BEATING , INSULT ETC) IN THE HOUSE THAN TIME FOR A SEPARATION

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I wonder why some people remain married and leave miserable lives all in the name of 'for the sake of the kids'. Its good to have it working but if despite all effort it doesnt work why cant people amicably stay on their own and take care of the children irrespective of who they stay with?

I witnessed a display of madness recently and cant stop wondering why ppl cant think with their heads and do away with this african rubbish that says for the sake of the kids stay married at all cost. I was ashamed to be present when a dispute was being settled for this couple when the husband was threatening to beat the hell out of his wife calling her 'ome ale' (bastard) and all that. This is a quiet and responsible lady, certified chattered accountant with good job and yet every little dispute the man pounces on her and then because of the kids and because her parents will frown at such she will never consider separation. Good luck to those who stay put despite the absence of love but think with your head, when you die of HB pressure life continues.

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I think they should go their seperate ways, while they can at least remain civil, and stay friends.

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There are actually sometimes in a marriage relationship when there will be no love affection. The best thing to do is to remain as friends as before the marriage. If they were friends before, it will bind them together but otherwise, it won't be palatable.

This is why friends should marry each other. Build relationship on friendship but not on Love. Love goes with the physical features or attributes seen in a woman, but when those features are no longer there, it means love is lost automatically.

My candid opinion is that they should be married still because what God has joined together, let no man put asunder

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If a married couple fall out of love, and mutual respect goes with it. . .

Regardless of whether there are children, that's no reason to stay together.

Such couples may imagine they're staying together for the sake of the kids, but it seldom works.

Kids aren't silly, the parents may keep up the charade of the perfect couple, but the kids will know mom and dad don't like each other any more.

There's also the risk of resentment setting in, the parents could begin to despise each other, and may even resent the children for being the cause of them being "trapped" in a loveless marriage.

If they begin to argue, kids can often feel they're to blame!

The children would be better off knowing their parents live apart, may be divorced, but they still have mutual respect.

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If they are fighting like cats and dogs and they despise each other, then divorce is an option.

But if they are like "colleagues" in the house then what is the problem? Don't colleagues date?

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they should try and l1ve amicably, even though it is not always going to be easy but at least for the children's sake, they should try!

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