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Is Childbirth Really The Most Painful Thing Or Is It Exaggerated?

Childbrith is something that scares me more than anything in the world. honestly I have really been thinking is it really

as painful as people says or is it a bit exaggerated? my friend just recently give brith and she really freak the hell out of me am scare to have babies now. she decribe it as the most painful exprience in her life.

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The pain cannot be described but it is easily forgotten. P/s go on and have your babies.

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Its painful, but like someone said, its not more than you can handle (usually). For me each time I just kept thinking to myself, "there are over 5 billion people on earth and they were all given birth to one way or another, so I can do it" Plus once its done its done and you have a precious little one to cherish for life.

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Good day to you my darling,your question is very good and i know you need a good and sincere answer.

Every human being created as an iota of selfishness in them ,that manifest at a time in ones life ,you wonder why go through this child birth pain and discomfort to be a mum,its unfair on women, BUT WAIT AS A christian or muslim woman,we should not forget our duty which GOD as given us ,its like our reason here on earth,to look after our home .So my sister what do you clasify as your home or what will become your home,your home is not 50'' plasma TV in your front room ,or 10 bedroom house if you are lucky BUT(PAUSE) your home is (1)your husband(the man you chose,the man you love to the extent of living with him,sleeping with him and(2) majorly your GOD GIVEN CHILDREN.

AT THIS JUNCTION THINK GOD DID NOT GIVE MAN THE FACILITIES TO CARRY PREGNANCY (9months),ITS ONLY US WOMEN,SO IF YOU CANT CARRY PREGNANCY HOW DO YOU GO INTO LABOUR.

I WROTE THE ABOVE AS AN INTRODUCTION FOR YOU TO KNOW THE REASON WHY YOU ARE UNIQUE AND WONDERFUL,SEE YOURSELF AS SOMEONE A LOT OF PEOPLE LOVE,RESPECT AND DEPEND ON TO BE ABLE TO DO THIS TASK.

BY THE SPECIAL GRACE OF GOD ,AM A MOTHER AND I CAN TELL YOU ITS PAINFUL BUT

1)THE SPECIAL GRACE OF GOD

2)THE LOVE OF YOUR HUSBAND MAKE IT LESS PAINFUL,

DURING PREGNANCY READ A LOT OF BOOKS ON CHILDBIRTH,MY SISTER IT HELPS TO PREPARE YOU,IT MIGHT NOT BE AS IN THE BOOK BUT YOU HAVE AN IDEA,TRY AND WALK AT LEAST 30MINS AROUND YOUR AREA EVERYDAY.GET OFF THE BUS 15MINS BEFORE YOUR HOUSE AND WALK,DONT JUST SIT ON THE SOFA ALL DAY,THOU YOUR BODY WILL WANT TO DO THAT PARTICULARLY TOWARDS THE LASTS 2MONTHS .EAT FRUIT DONT JUST EAT HEAVY FOOD ALONE.MAKE LOVE WITH YOUR HUSBAND WHEN YOUR BODY CAN ALLOW(AROUND 5MONTHS AND 7MONTHS IS MORE ENJOYABLE)

ABOVE ALL BE VERY PRAYERFUL,APOSTLE PAUL WROTE IN THE BIBLE HE SAID WE(WOMEN)WILL BE REDEEM THROUGH CHILDBIRTH SO IT THE TIME OF YOUR REDEMPTION.

LISTEN CAREFULLY YOUR FRIENDS CHILDBIRTH EXPERIENCE MAY BE PAINFUL AND TRUMATIC YOU NEVER KNOW YOURS MAY NOT BE SO ,IT DEPENDS ON YOUR CERVIX OPENING ON TIME AND YOUR BABY READY TO COME OUT.

LASTLY ,THE JOY YOU WILL EXPERIENCE AS YOU HOLD HIM OR HER CANNOT BE EXPRESS BY MOUTH ,ITS UNIQUE .SO MY DEAR SISTERS THERE NO JOY THAN WHEN YOU HOLD YOUR BABY AND HE OR SHE SMILE BACK AT YOU.

GOD BLESS YOU ALL

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Its painful, very very. You can't put it in words but can only experience it. But the most joyful thing is when you hold your tiny little bundle of joy in your hands, oh the joy is unexplainable, then you will know its all worth it! Really really worth it!!!

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ada 24,

childbirth is painful, but the pain is bearable.

You need to think of it as a natural process and wipe away your fears. Fear makes the body rigid and you only feel more pain.

There are breathing techniques and you can read about them in the internet or go for classes. You need to maintain controlled breathing and deep into the stomach.

Contractions come and go and in between the you feel nothing. It`s just like painful menstrual pain. The time between the contractions shortens towards the end. That`s when it gets hard but then comes the urge to push.

Besides it is also very important not to have to maintain a certain position but to be able to move around the way you want to. It also helps having your husband or someone else there with you.

I have had several kids and accompanied women birthing and I can assure you it was just fine. The pain is bearable.

With my first kid I did not even know it was contractions, just felt this feeling of heaviness in the lower tummy on and off.

I did not even know when the baby was about to come, just kept telling the doctors i needed to go the toilet. But then it was the baby. I had heard so many stories that I kept waiting for this unbearable pain, but then it was all over.

When I had my last kid it was really funny. I had been having contractions so I knew it was time. I was just giving my kids dinner and suddenly this contraction came I just had to bend over and my little boy kept yelling, do you want to make a poo mum. I had a a good laugh really, because he had been having constipation and that was about the look he had on his face, when he make a poo.

Thank God my husband worked through the door, because my baby came less than an hour before we got to the clinic.

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every woman is different. many women i speak to tell me that childbirth is painful and I for one am not looking forward to it, but I have zoned my mind on the joy I will get after the pain.

as for me whatever is on offer I will take - in fact if a machine is invented in the next 2 months that allows the pain to be transferred to another human being I will happily sign up for that as well, if childbirth is more painful than this pregnancy i'm carrying abeg someone should just drug me now.

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It really is not that that bad.

Most women are in so much pain because they panic and stiffen themselves up and fight against nature taking its cause.

You need to learn the right breathing techniques and then the pain is bearable and the experience is quite awesome.

I had all my kids naturally and quite honestly I did not find the pain unbearable. Remember that between contractions the pain goes away.

I think you need to get your self more informed about natural birthing.

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Oh my! This is really making me scared~

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it was painful(infact really painful) for me but after the whole show and when i saw my baby, i told myself that she is worth the pains. but going by what i heard from some doctors, it is not usually so for everybody and the labour time varies from one person to the other.

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Look arnd u at 15 n 16 year olds that do it seemingly effortlessly n even get on d move again 4 journey no 2 even wtout moral support 4rm any spouse, talkin abt unwanted pregnancies. 4 me dt was my major motivating factor, 'if dt little girl could do it why can't I?' To me sha it was more like severe menstrual cramps.

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it is a lot of pain, but it is a pain that as soon as the baby is out it stops. then it becomes just like a hurting stomach, cramps, things you can deal with.

but during the birth, you want to scream, yell, fight because it hurts so much.

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Exactly my point. some people can't tolerate pain while some can, that's life.

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true. childbirth is just of those things you cant actually describe to someone. i mean  like telling the person its the most painful or easiest thing in the world because its just a personal thing that one must experience themselves in order to know it.

so i'd say knowing whether childbirth is exaggerated or not means, you really have to experience it yourself because its just a personal thing

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Watch this video, this woman didn't even make any noise nor did she struggle. i think it depends on the individual.

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sexyLeamon, since you have been able to handle passing hard stool, the feeling is similar.

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not every woman experiences that dear.

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The first child birth is usually more painful than the subsequent ones.

But the pain disappears the moment the baby comes out.

Like another poster said, avoid CS if you can, it's worse than normal delivery.

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go on youtube and watch some videos of people giving birth

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put it this way your squesing a cantelope out of a hole the size of a quarter.

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Sighs, deep breath, sighs again!!!

Now my fears are worse, I had this same fear as I was growing up in my early twenties, so I went to my mother and asked her, " mummy is true that child birth is sooooooooooooooo painful to the point of death?" She simply said NO, afterall she had seven of us, that if it was that painful, she would not have continued having children up to 7 and that if she still wanted more children, she would have continued, And my dad's mum( grandma) had 18 births, which is true, I actually remember this very well, Infact I witnessed my only sister being born.

My dad was not in the country that year, so my fathers mum (grandma) came to stay with us because my mum was almost due, but we all slept in separate rooms. Then suddenly my mum called me and said her tommy is turnning her, u know , she complained of slight abdominal pains and rolled off her bed to the floor, my immediate elder brother and I sat by her side, and in a few mins she said, Alexx pls. go and call grandma, now grandma was sleeping in the next room to ours in same flat, coming back in a few seconds, my only sister was already born and was crying, right there by my mum alone, and in the house. By this time my grandma was by her side and took over from there.

By day break she went to see her doctor in the hospital with the baby and still came came back with my sister that same day , she was adorable and sweet, I still recall.

My mum later told me that she was not due that day, but the baby just came, but still mother and child were healthy and ok.

In a nut shell I believe it varies, and like in most cases , peoples situations are not always thesame, and before I wrap it up, an instance is menstrual pain or cramps, mine is excrutiating pain, it used to be so bad that there was a particular month I passed out, I just slumpped in the middle of the pain and felt peace, but I later I woke up in the hospital. On somany occassions I was admitted, just for menstrual pain, it was that bad back then, to the extent that my family members took it upon them selves to also fast and pray about it, but still each month that came it got worse.

Then one day my dad said "GOD TAKE THIS PAIN OF MY LITTLE GIRL PLS, IF THERE'S NO WHERE TO THROW THIS PAIN, PLS. GIVE IT TO ME AS HER DAD, , AS A MAN I BELIEVE I'LL BE ABLE TO BEAR THE PAIN, MUCH MORE THAN HER" I can't forget this, am sure popsi has forgotten because so much time has rolled by, but to me its like yesterday. But my sister does not even know what this pain feels like, she does not feel the slightest of pain when she's on. I believe same applies to childbirth. But with God all things are possible to them that believe, and at thesame time can do all things thru' Christ that strengthens me.

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Go into the labour room with a woman and let her hold your hands while in pain, and you can come back to answer the question

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I wouldn't think so, otherwise, all the 13 or 14 year old girls

wouldn't risk indulging in sex. I thing molest is the most painful thing a woman

can go through as it will stay in her mind for the rest of her life.

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childbirth is like going through a physical pain and experiencing an emotional joy afterward.

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It is painful and tiring. I have twins and I pushed them out, so you can imagine. Thank God for epidural!

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sure it is the most painful thing but not to worry once the baby is out the pain subsides and you can look at your baby and smile.

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There lots of children that are in motherless baby home, so u could help yourself out.

A saying goes 'Ikoko to ba maje ata idi e a koko gbona'. idi yi most 2 gbona

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Childbirth is a wonderful experience, it is actually painful but is just for a period of time.something like serious menstrual pain.Pray that you dont have a long labour.The longer the labour the more the pain.

In all it is worth it sha.After u av seen ur baby u forget about the pain and u feel great joy.It is like u having to go through the pain of reading for an exam.Once u av a gud result u for get about the pain and focus on your success.

I have two kids already so i know better,dont mind people jo,if it was dat bad y dont they stop on one or two,some even go as far as having 5 or more.

Abeg the God that put it there will help u thru ur delivery.Dont be scared

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helo female nairalanders, childbirth is not as painful as it sounds,even though its different 4 every1. its sweeter n relieving wen u hear ur baby cry. its a nice xperience. i know u will like to xperience it. goodluck n remove fear.

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Indeed it is the most painful experience anyone can ever experience but if a lot of women including yours truely have been there, done that sucessfully then u can too just have faith

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I am yet to cross the bridge and when i do i will definetely know. I am seriously looking forward to it anyways

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@poster thanks for the topic.

It is a very interesting topic and educative for future mothers.

I think it is one of the painful experience a woman have to go through,but like other mothers the joy is in having the baby well and alive cos some still gothrough the pain and end up looseing the baby.I think that those of us who have gone through the pain should try as much as possible not overemphasize or (over exaggerate) in other not to scare the future mothers from getting pregnant cos if i had read this before i don't think i would have agreed with my husband in making babies. I guess we should encourage the pregnant women and yet to be mothers to having babies and also share with them the positive side of it cos in as much we go through pains, we dont go through it for the complete 9months.

You know when i was pregnant with my first child, i remember how sad i was cos i wasn't ready for it. But thank God my elder sister and my sisters inlaw where always there telling me what to do and what not to do together with my hubby's love and care i was able to pull through not. I don't think i experienced as much pain as its being painted here.

During my days of pregnancy, i enrolled in a gym house and with my hubby's support i was always going for the exercise classes even when i fill tired he will always trick me into going somehow.Always going to the hospital with me for anti-natas and when it seems like am forgetting something he will always remember, it was as if he was more interested in the baby than i was.Takes me out and makes sure i was never lonely even in the office i felt pampered by both senior and junior colleagues.

I was always keeping myself busy with my house chores-we divided it between ourselves cos i didn't want a househelp cos it would have made me lazy.With all these during my pregnancy i was able to give birth without much pain cos i was strong and very active. My first child is a boy and i only laboured for 2hrs 30mins and the second are my two beautiful girls and i spent about 5 hrs in the labour room and it was all a natural birth,no pain relief and my husband witnessed the two.

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Yes the Epidural needle is worth it.

Really all i remember from my births was a small sting and then all you feel is the pressure of the baby.

You should explore all of your pain mangement options before you go into delivery and have all of that set up and ready.

Once you see that baby all the pain and discomfort washes away.

Not to mention the look on your husbands face as he sees his first child being born. My first husband dropped to his knees in the delivery room and wept when he saw his son.

It makes it sooooooooo very much worth it.

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I believe childbirth is the most important painful thing in this whole wide world. Its easily done without forcing someone into it. What I mean is that, you get impreginated easily by enjoying the most lovely and passionate things about being pregnant. When in labour (delievry time), you find it difficult to release what is about coming out of you which is the opposite way of grabbing it easily. Thereby, becoming a path-way leading to death, some may even lead to barrines and some may lead to ailness that associated with delivering. I am giving it a second thought, parherps adoption would better in Nigeria this days 'cos am afraid of loosing the greatest partner of my life (my dearest wife). Life would be nothing without her. (Love You Mamma Cita).

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No pain, No gain. God according to the Bible has ordained it to be so that a woman will go through pain before she gives birth. When my wife had our 1st and 2nd kids, the pains were not really much, just mild (according to her). I witnessed it live, Within minutes of getting to the hospital, it was over. But when she gave birth to the 3rd and last one, she went through hell for hours. The boy came out sitting down. Thank God the Doctor was experienced on such situation. It was not a good experience for us at all. In all, one need not be afraid of giving birth. God will not abandon His own in the labour room. Behold, He is with you always.

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@ toppiano true talk, for me it wasn't like expected it, most people over exaggerate it.

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No pain No gain. That starts from the first day when the cover is removed from the natural HOLE. If the the process is painful and still enjoyable, then nothing mega. Its natural. If it's really painful then women should stop giving birth.

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Im praying seriously to get married and become pregnant immediately. i'm not scared by what some women are saying that child birth is painful. afterall my mother did it for seven good times. so if it is that painful, she shouldn't have gone up to seven times. i like some posters that really encouraged would-be mothers like us that it is not a big deal, labour pain has been there and will continue to be there. we all came through that process and must exprience it too.lol

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Mmmhmm I say pumping out kidney stones are far worse.

yeah, okay, okay you lots are still special, but don't deny it.

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@ OMOIBO, wat do u mean if i remember very well i can see u MALE not female, all the posts are from mothers not those who dont know anything about child-birt. i dont think there is anyone who has contributed that has not had a baby, but so be the case they dont know then.

 Personally 2000 when i had my first baby most of my female freinds ask me how it was TO ME its an experience that i CANT explain. caue at the moment i felt differnt things at the same time. NO ONE IS A KID HERE.

  So mind your post,

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In order to experience joy, you need pain so my dear Childbirth is painful. After Eve caused Adam to sin against God in the garden of Eden, One of the punishments pronounce to women by God is that they shall go through pain in childbearing, nevertheless they shall be saved and it remain so till today.

I am a Man now but as a young boy of about 14yrs, I witnessed a woman giving birth and the memory still remain fresh till today. Childbirth is totally God at work. It's an awesome thing.

Take for instance, sex for the first time. As in a virgin, is it a good enjoyable experience? No! Not even for the man talkess of the woman. And am so sure that no matter how small a child may be at birth, it will be bigger that the thing of any man so if that thing man carries which is smaller than the smallest child could inflict so much pain on a woman then childbirth will be much much painful.

Conclusively, dont let that scare you. God has said you shall be save and that's what counts. People have a way of putting fear into others, so don,t mind what other women say determine that yours won't be so.  Am not trying to complicate things here o, Childbearing is a painful process.

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what of kidney stones, huh?

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the last time i checked the topic/title of the thread is/was Is Childbirth Really The Most Painful Thing Or Is It Exaggerated?

that suggests that only 'mothers' can respond and explain what child birth is all about.

why are there so many inputs from  'kids'?

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@ poster, honestly yes it is painful but another way its an experience that most women cant be able to explain cause at that moment all you want is deliver the baby so i cant really say. but after the pain subsides. Another thing is most women are LAZY( they dont do any form exercise during pregnancy) and when they get to the labour room it seems like the whole world is coming to an end. My dear pain is part of life so dont be sacred to get pregnant its a good thing.

Also when u get preg. try to be having more sex, it helps. peace

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The undeniable value of a WOMAN

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yes its the most most painful thing but once the baby comes the pain subsides.

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the first time i was glad to be a man, was when I saw the pain women go thru during child birth-I was 9 at the time. Since then I've always respected (and pitied) the women folk. But I hear that the joy of seeing the child take all the pain away, THAT'S THE STRENGHT OF A WOMAN!

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It depends on ones ability to stand pain.

Personally, i can endure pain.

It wasn't that painful.

Again, i think local anesthesia would help.

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