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Is It A Crime 2touch Ur Pathners Fone?

We've been maried 4 three yrs now.its obvious we both luv. But whenever i use his fone probably 2send an sms, i always discover somtin that trigers trouble.like a sent sms 2some one he's mising.iv always called him 2 explain.he either says a colleuge used his fone or another excuse. I try to believe tho, I luv him with all sincerity.but this aspect always makes me unconfortable.what should i do?

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It depends. Its just an understanding btw u n ur spouse

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no.......It Is Not A Crime

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i really don't know what to say.

But you obviously can't be ignoring the issue and he definitely has some questions to answer.

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@ tinaoge

I try not to interfere in people's marriages unless they ask my advice so just ignore me please, but have to say Fhemmy mirrors my sentiments exactly ^^^

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I think this is entitled to a brand new thread.

You saw a text as such and yet you did nothing, and the man is freely living in the house and eating your food?

Men, the man get balls.

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I don't think it is wrong to touch your partner's phone. My hubby does not like me touching his phone. He cannot leave his phone with me for a minute comfortably if am using it to make call. Recently I just check his sms and saw sms from a lady about their 8day old relationship and she is looking forward to their lovemaking. When he saw the phone with me he knew I have seen his sms. He has not spoken to me about 5 days. Am I not the one that should be angry? I think he needs to apologise to me, right now he does not gist with me, I still greet him but he does not respond.

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I hear you oh.

No wonder most men do their stuff and clean mouth out there . . . cos they dont wanna be grilled

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so you basically don't trust your man? don't let paranoia kill u

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And i said, you are one of few that will go thru phone and not halla if they see anything

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I did say that the reason for going tru his fone is not because i am checking on him

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Like i said, if there is trust, there wont be no reason to go thru his phone, i think we are all adults and if there is something you would like to know, ask the man.

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You know the 'see no evil hear no evil' variant where what you don't know won't kill you?

Because in a marriage where husband and wife are believed to be one i don't believe anything should be hidden from the other. So i see a 'hot' msg on his fone frm a strange lady. It doesn't mean i will immediately jump into conclusions that he is cheating. It doesn't mean i won't ask him either. But i won't be confrontational in my asking like i don't trust him. Rather i will go about it in a teaseful fashion- arms around his neck with a mischievious glint and be like 'awon girlfriend yin ma call' etc etc. There has to be trust in a relationship.

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Haaaaaaaaaaaaaa . . . .u be military man oh

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it all depends on the intent. if it's for snooping, then yeah you should be sent to kirikiri

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There are different meanings to too many things.

You might be one in a million that will not read anything to some "simple - How u doing" from a lady he never mention to you.

So if you can truly do it without misinterpreting it, then, knock yourself out.

I just think for a healthy relationship, better to stay off going "through" his fone

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Then it means that there are different meanings for the term 'going tru ones fone'. i don't subscibe to screening my partners phone call but i do read his sms's for the reasons stated above. it is a once in a while thing done without the intention of finding something fishy and so its harmless. But if you are suspicious that is when you begin to miscontrue innocent msgs to be what they are not.

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If you wanna read some text that you sent him during anniversary, how come it is no more on your fone, is it possible that you deleted it,cos of some hanky panky?

To listen to music and watch video, that is still not called going thru his fone, personally when you go thru someone's fone, it means you looking at numbers, and text and all that, and i see no reason for it at all.

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No not to play games with. To look at pictures, videos or even read old sms's that known family friends or YOU yourself sent him during an annivesary, valentine or birthday. Just tobring back fond memories.

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For what other reason will a partner will be going thru the other partner's phone . . . . . please, dont tell me to play games it, cos that is not called going thru a phone, besides, i am sure your fone has games too

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Personally i find nothing wrong in going tru ur partners fone once the idea is not to check up on him or her. Trust is key in a relationship

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It is a sign of insecurity but i would rather know if he is cheating than acting the fool. Why should he keep details of his infidelities on his phone. He is begging to be stopped.

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Personally to me, couples have every right to check each others mobile phones, letters and so on unless there is no trust in the marriage to the extend you want to hide things away from each other.

Though as men, we are more guilty of this

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That is good then.

Offtopic: what was the comment . . . . .always willing to explain and apologize if i have to

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None of the text messages or calls were indecent, he just was on my case trying to prove a point.

Off topic, you made a statement in the political section that really disappointed me oh

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So u were giving what u dont like to him.

BTW . . . . .what kinda job would make a married woman be getting texts and different calls?

Na waoh

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I used to go through my partners phone till he started pay back, going through my phone, questioning every text, every male call and we were always quareling becsue i expected that he will understand the nature of my Job. He did dat for a while before he explained to me that he just wanted me to know how it feels, and how much unnecessary arguements that brings. I really did get it after then because for a while i though he had gone mental till i realised that this was how i was behaving

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Great tnx 2u all. I pray 4d strenght and courage never to check it again,

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Listen, i will advice u talk to him if there is anything bugging u and disturbing your mind, cos it is not good for you to live in bondage as well, cos you need to be happy, but learn to trust and be happy.

If you are not busy enuf, find stuff to keep u busy.

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Nothing wrong in using your partners phone but everything wrong in going through it. You end up finding what you weren't looking for!

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Nice one.

Why going thru his phone?

I have no problem with my woman using my phone, but not to always wanna go thru the phone . . . . . hypertension is real

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I agree, keep your hands off his phone, in the end you have to ask yourself how much you really want to know, and you will realise that you dont want and dont need to know everything he is doing, as loong as he is treating you the way you want, giving you the attention you need and so on, i think you should leave him some privacy, as you might also like to have

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Abeg stop it, this has gotten me into trouble with my Oga, At the end of the day i was embarrased and had to apologise.

As i grow more each day, i have learnt that checking peoples phone is a sign of insecurity

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Tnx chaircover. I ld try to avoid touchn it asmuch as posible, But put urself in my shoes.some1 u wholeheartedly luv but u stil av somthing u feel unconfortable about him,its painful.its affectin many other things.

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