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Is It A Crime To Correct Your Dad?

I noticed that everytime me or my mum try to correct my dad on an issue, He was always angry and wouldnt admit he's wrong and claim he's the head of the house. Pls fellow NL what do think

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This has nothing to do with being a "Nigerian" man/dad. Please let's leave that tag alone.

Wait till you live with other people from different background and culture before making needless comments.

As pointed out earlier, it is the manner of "correction" (and issue at hand) that matters and mind you, correction differs.

Talking from experience.

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Its called:

'Ego'

'Male Pride'

'Stubborness'

and so on and so forth!!

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In Nigerian, Federal character and quota system is what is killing the country. You must have a certain number of people from each zone whether qualified or not. Not good! Are you an attorney?

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Lol. Doesn't seem like biased law to me, afterall men are still paid higher wages than women.

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Maggie, as in Thatcher? I'm not too familiar with politics.

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Chiogo you are just a teenager! so you may be not be in the best position to correct your parents in most cases.

I tried correcting my teacher when I was in secondary school because he was a drunkard. He used the word 'pronouncing' to refer to the growth of the tail feather of a fowl and i thought he was drunk. Later, while I was studying, I felt ashamed. You may be smart but experience is comes to play in many cases.

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This issue is just a male thing nad male ego has no boundary. It is just that female- biased laws have tamed the male ego in the western world otherwise there is no difference anywhere.

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Yup, keyword there is polite

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Na, not just Nigerian parents cos my dad is like that. Anyways, we've given up on trying to argue our point (without being rude of course). All we do is just laugh among ourselves, or just speak Igbo. LMAO! Maybe it's just a guy thing. Same way some boyfriends don't like apologising when they're in the wrong.

Anyway, life goes on.

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Let your mum talk to your dad inside the house. How old are you?

How would you feel if your 20 year old is telling you that you are wrong?

May be your mother is telling him he is wrong, and you will come around and say Daddy you are wrong.

That will be adding salt to injury. Already he is wounded that a woman is correcting him ( not a bad thing) then his own child is adding to to the 'insult'.

The manna is what matters!

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LOL, isn't it so with most naija parents?

Best thing is to zip it or wait till you no longer live under his roof, like someone mentioned.

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definitely agree with these!

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Thanks guyz you are really helping

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There you go again! Its not discipline, its accepting mistakes.

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There you go again! Its not discipline, its accepting mistakes.

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Its not a crime but wait until you are old enough to do so and call his bluff shld he unecessarily decide to get angry.

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watch TVand see if he'll laugh with you.

Women easily accept mistakes relative to men.

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yea, I concur, the humur thing works a lil'bit.

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@Ima1 has said it all. Its Nigerian Men o! Most will never accept they're wrong. I pray I'm not like that with my kids. How can you be right 100% of the time and what type of example do you want to show to your kids if you refuse to accept you're wrong sometimes?

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I dont think it is as long as it is in a polite way. . . .

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i think its with Nigerian men, they don't like to be corrected or admit they are wrong, my dad never said sorry when he was wrong and we were right. we were just supposed to accept it like it was natural, i think they sometimes feel inferior when corrected, and want to be seen as the oga of the house, and its their way or none other. no matter how you do it, they still feel the same way.

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, Maybe its the way she does it, it makes his ego feel challenged.

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