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Is It Compulsor For A Woman To Know How To Cook? Would You Marry One Who Doen't?

guys, is it important for your woman to know how to cook? is she more dateable if she is? is she less so if she can't even boil water? is the saying true, "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach."

ladies, do you think it's important to know how to cook to be a complete package? or is this kind of poo ancient expectations and you don't want any of it?

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NO  DEFINITELY NOT

In my opinion, women were not born with Cooking utensils just like a man wasn't born with ATM/Credit Cards.

I expect my own wife to know how to cook things I won't puke on

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THIS IS AFRICA

MORE PARTICULARLY THIS IS 9JA.

FOR A WOMAN NOT TO KNW HOW TO COOK I THINK SHE' SHOULD REALLY FEEL OUT OF PLACE,

BUT SHE COULD FIND SOLANCE IN YANKEE AND JAN,

DEFINITELY NT IN 9JA

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Not a must, we can learn together and make cooking more fun together

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It's good to know how to cook, both men and women.

But it's certainly not compulsory. If your man can deal with it, why not?

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A wife and mother material MUST know how to cook.

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any woman who plan to enter a long lasting relationship should know/learn how to cook. How long can you buy mr. Biggs eeh?

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We can both learn how to cook, but one that already knows how to cook will be better.

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It's a MUST. Love alone can't bring food on the table.

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I say yes, a woman should know how to cook and if she didn't learn while she was coming up she can use recipes to at least prepare something half way decent for herself and her family. After a couple of trials and errors, she'll be a gourmet chef!

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Yeah!

A woman MUST know how to cook.

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This is not something we should be debating on this forum.

It is the norm and the most basic thing a woman, I mean a true woman should know how to do. I f a woman does not know how to cook, then she is not worth the salt.

I can't marry such a woman, especially if she is not willing to learn.

But hey ladies out there, I love u all like my mother.

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by the comments I made above, could actually be writing as a book?

In three sentences you paraphrased 3 Tyra Banks shows in a way both women and men could instantly grasp. That is not an easy task.

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Dont be deceived, it doesn't work that way.

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Hello Sexy, in dreamland it may not be a must but here in Africa it is. A woman who is really interested in keeping her marriage CANNOT shy away from cooking.

Try to watch this movie: AYE OLOMOKAN. U'll learn.

Chiao

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in other words, any man who marries a woman knowing she cant cook, is likely to be a more tolerant person.

Increasing his chances of having a fulfilled marriage?

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Food and pure non-manipulative sex provides an avenue for you to have fellowship with your man. When there is fellowship, there is connection, And connection gives you access to his heart. Only then will your request be met. And I'm not talking about financial request only, but other requests like wanting him to spend more time with you, relying on you, taking you along in his decisions, playing with kids, taking you out, rubbing your back, etc.

This will never be taught in the classroom. It's something you simply observed while growing up if the home is healthy.

This is the sort of stuff people write in books and sell millions of copies of.

The element of deep toasting has been lost.

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I remember my father-in law tellin me 3 things that make a woman more successful in her marraige: 1. Can cook good food. 2. bedroom talented 3. can keep the home clean. U want  2 beat that ?

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why would a woman nt knw hw to cook? anyway it can happen cos i watch a movie like dat tittle AYE OLOMOKAN.

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It's just like asking the question, is it compulsory for the man to provide for the family? Why shouldn't the woman be able to cook. What the she spend all her youth doing. eating burger. I guess. As for me, good cooking is a pre-requisite for marriage with a woman.

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it is extremely compulsry for a woman to know how to cook or else she's selling her right to someone else outside that knows how to cook

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It is important for the woman to know how to cook, but the man should assist when she's too tired or unavailable, however i believe it's the woman's basic responsibility.

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What's fair to you might be unfair to others. And that is how it works in life. Right ma?

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Doesn't mean a woman's worth is only in her culinary abilities.   We all grew up in systems.  Some are willing to step out of that system, others aren't.  Watevur werks fa yhu. Feel me?

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oh come on don't be naive. it's obvious that these ones doing shakara already know the truths and realities they are faced with. if they choose not to cook for you they can go ahead and settle down with their white men.

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she MUST be able to cook. not just cook anything.

she MUST be excellent in the kitchen and bedroom. Its a fact about men. even if we dont acknowledge it.

Women loose their husbands to other women because of good food and good sex. plain and simple.

I'm very good in the kitchen and my wife should be better than me in that field, naturally.

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See forget about modernisation it is compulsory, there is no gender equality that can remove this fact ask yourself is it compulsory for a man to provide for his family?

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There are many benefits to a woman knowing how to cook. The list is endless.

That said, it is tempting to think because we have always known something to be a particular way that is how it is supposed to be, but just because something seems to be obvious does not make it true (remember it was obvious that the earth was flat, or that the atom was the smallest particle,  now we know these to be very wrong and even ridiculous). It is not natural for women to cook. Breathing is natural, farting is natural, urinating is natural, suckling is natural, eating is natural, bosom feeding is natural,  these are things that are absolutely necessary for survival. Women used to be home makers because that was what was absolutely necessary for us to survive as a species.

That is no longer the case,  we have developed as a species,  we no longer live in the wild. Lions still do, birds still do ,  so they do not have to change the ways they interact with the environment. Our environments have changed,  we live in houses, we have jobs. professions, commerce, other social institutions that can ensure safety.e.g police, fire dept, ambulances, etc,  we have nurses, nannies. Ignoring all these realities and how they can affect people's lives, while sticking to some old, old, oooold view that cooking is a role that nature mandates for women is, in my opinion, beyond silly.

We are all entitled to our opinions, and though i agree with 95% of the posters here that anyone that marries a woman that cannot cook is missing out, i totally disagree that motherhood is not for such a woman. I've seen them excel at it,  over and over again.

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It is very vital dat ur woman shud know how to cook

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Knowing how to Cook is relative. I have eaten meals which I felt were nasty and another person at the same table ate the same meal with relish. I know of a friend whose husband complained of her cooking and kept comparing it to his mothers. Eventually she made an effort to find out what mamas magic was and it turned out to be what some of us call rotten tomatoes. While she (the wife) was brought up to make stew with fresh tomatoes ,hubby was brought up eating stew made from slightly mangy tomatoes. Anyway problem has been solved now. She cooks two pots of stew in her house one for hubby and one for herself and the kids. So it goes to prove that one mans good soup is another mans poison. So that same woman whom you say can't cook may have her culinary skills appreciated elsewhere.

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There you go again talking about sense without watching ya back side. . .

Have you never heard Sex being taught. . . ? Does that make it any less natural?

Even child birth is taught . . .

Language is taught . . . . That one too is not natural?

This is not a lab mate. . . keep those scientific thots to yourself . . . You can't explain everything like a freak . . . What are you on about . . ?

Cooking is a luxury like Driving ? . . .brb. . . . I need to clear out my house . . I need space to laugh!

Imagine the lengths you are going to prove your points.

Cooking is natural . . . Whether you choose to believe it or not and a Woman must know how to cook. .

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You may have gotten it slightly wrong there. We actually do a mixture of both.

Men lust after women for most of their lives and can't back the act up even with a silly reason . . .

It's a bloody response to nature. . . .

Reason is when a Man knows he should avoid infidelity and he does. .

Nature is what makes a woman startle as she ears her crying baby. . . not reason. .

Nature is the instinctive and unflinching desire to deny yourself for the sake of your children. .

We always do a bit of both. . .

The problem sometimes is not knowing when to apply reason. . . .

A woman that cooks for her child does it out of nature. . not reason.

When she doesn't . . . . it's reason. Like "I can't cook" !

No one debates about a woman that can cook . . . People will think you are insane. 

There are 5 pages already about a woman who can't cook. . . . Doesn't that tell you something is wrong ?

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My gosh. I love your posts on this thread.

The ability to rationalise without vexation and profanity is really not common in men. And for that, I doff my hat for you.

Keep it up, mehn

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There is no debate here. If a woman can't cook, not interested in cooking and feels cooking is "poo" and "ancient" she should kindly stay out of marriage, it's not for her - she can go marry some Westerner. However, true "shons of the shoil" will not take her seriously.

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What separates human beings from other animals is our rationality. We are thinking beings.  We do things that make sense, and discard ideas that we see make no sense. We do not look to nature for our code of conduct, we look to reason. That is what has kept us alive and helped us dominate over all of nature. That is why slavery was abolished, that is why human rights exist, that is why women's rights now exist, and gay and lesbian rights, etc

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My point is even though some arguments defy the logic of nature. . .  most things are predominant.

. . . Some people are born half men, half women. . . It is however predominant that men are men and women are women . . .

Just like some people are white with long hair and some are black with short hair . . We are predominantly humans . .

90% of all living things have male and female species and whether you like it or not 99% of that 90% behave the same way. The Females conceive and give birth or lay eggs. . . they then go on to feed their off-springs . . .

It is irrelevant to subject this discussion to the exclusivity of a few species . . . You can't count more than 50 livings things that probably defy the logic of nature. . . out of perhaps the millions that exist.

For this reason, it is natural not historical for a mother to provide food for her off-springs . . . Have you not asked what precedes history. .? Where did Men learn that Women stay at home ?   It's not a consequence of history but nature . . .

I am not denying that your google stuff is right . . . I only questioned your application of it . . .

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okay,  one more time

You said in nature females feed their young. But in nature some animals eat their young. Male polar bears eat their young,  Lions eat their young,  why don't humans eat their young as well? The female praying mantis kills the male after mating,  why doesn't your wife kill you after sex? Nature is not one dimensional,  No one species sets precedence for others,  they all evolve and adapt to their environments differently.

The reason why women are generally seen as home makers is that from pre historic times men had to go and do the hunting because they were physically stronger, and women stayed home to take care of the children. It was just what was absolutely necessary for survival.  Now we don't live in the same conditions. We can go to the market and buy food, We have technology, and so it is no more essential for our survival as a species that women stay home to take care of the young. Those roles were seen as women roles because of their adaptation to their environment and not because nature mandated it.

Now you might accuse me of "googling" all this stuff again. Na your wahala be dat. But let us just say i did,  does that change the fact that it is true? will you deny something that is 10000% true just because it was googled? if 5x 5=25 in your head, does your assumption that someone else cheated and used a calculator change the fact that the answer is 25? 

My broda, i sincerely want you to look at this issue differently and i apologize if i have been a lil bit condescending at times. But some of these statements you made today are based on many wrong assumptions. I'm just trying to make you look at it a lil bit differently.

I share your disgust towards adult women that can not cook, but I know that is not what defines a good wife or mother in the world we live in today.

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An average woman (not an orphan, destitute, or insane) who lived in a house for 20 years of her life, only to sit at the table (or restaurant) at meal times without even being curious about how that meal was prepared is quintessentially mentally and physically lazy. A mentally and physically lazy wife is a useless wife.

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Why can't you marry a woman that can't cook ? Maybe that explains the whole thing. .

And for your info I never used "useless as a wife" . . . I said useless as a mother. . .

Also it's not the worst thing that can happen to a marriage . . It's the worst thing that can happen to motherhood. . . You need to take your dark shades off and read between the lines . . .

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Funny isn't it . . . .?

This is how it relates eh?

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Thank God I am not the only one on this . . .

What exactly is he talking about . . .

I used an example of how even female animals and birds give food to their young ones . . . using that as an analogy to express that it's nature for a Woman to cook for her off-springs. .

He comes back telling me that Men have bosoms. . .

Is that suppose to justify that Women should not cook ?

He comes back with professors books again telling me again that man have bosoms. . .

Insecure ? . . . LMFAO and eyeballs popping . . . With a computer, access to the internet and Home hub access to Google's servers . . . I can't be impressed . . . Impersonation is a common thing on the web.

You think I am impressed?

I am probably insecure arguing with someone who has the smartness to google some common info and then doesn't know when and how to use it . . .

It's just as appalling as a Mother not knowing how to cook . . .

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And there goes the "lion in the zoo" story posted above. . .

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Mother served in the military.

Mother was a professional, or single parent, provided for child and taught good morals, but didn't teach how to cook.

Both parents do not see it as a prerequisite for living a fulfilled happy life and so do not obsess over it.

Child didn't care to learn how to cook, was busy studying, drawing, singing, whatever the fukc else she wanted.

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@ nateevs, olodo ni bobo yi sha, 

Anyways, my point was that in nature all sorts of things occur. There are species where the females do all the nurturing, and there are species where males do all of it. FOR EXAMPLE,  DAMSELFISHES, As far as male lactating goes the Dayak fruit bat of Southeast Asia produces milk and bosom feeds the young.

"Actually a significant number of boys around the age of puberty do develop bosoms," he continues, "so the tissue is there, but it regresses." In short, men may not have full-fledged bosoms but they certainly can lactate, under extreme circumstances.

Pulitzer Prize-winning author and one-time physiologist Jared Diamond from 1995 article "father's milk".

There are all sorts of examples in nature where the males take on roles that are generally seen as female roles,  I could list more but then ur insecure Bottom will just accuse me of "trying to show off" again.

You guys generalize too much,  aiye po gan.  The hardest things to prove are universality or exclusivity of anything. Attempting to do what you are doing is a suicide mission. there is no way to successfully do what you are trying to.  U dig? u can't win this one. It is a lost cause.

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She's not going to remain in the orphanage all her life is she? She is a girl now. . .

At some point she will get out - perhaps after 18. . be on her own, get a job, and start to prepare for a life. . .

At this point she is becoming a Woman and should start to think of the things Women do. . .

Who will teach her how to have sex?

I don't suppose they teach them that at the orphanage . . . .

She gets a friend that can teach her how to do it . . and that's aw you learn . . . . ask crayon how his curiosity got him to learn how to cook.   

There's no excuse for a woman not knowing how to cook . . . . You can't justify it.

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@Kayola

If you have read something or have come across some brilliant piece of info and don't know how and when to apply it . . . You are probably worse than those that neva had the info . .

You actually think you are showing off. . You are showing ignorance of monumental proportions. . . .

It's a natural instinct for women to bosom feed their babies. . . . So because there are stories of men that have bosom-fed their children, it means it is not instinctive for a woman to bosom feed. . . .

Where those stories not reported as unusual . . . ?

Do you not know it's the unusual that makes the news. . . ?

Who reports that a Woman bosom-fed her child? . . .No One!

Who reports that a Man bosom-fed his child . . . everyone. Why? because it is not usual . . .

Now you are using an unusual case to dispute a norm . . . A classic case of misuse of knowledge. . .

When a Woman feeds her children, it's nature.

When a woman cooks for her kids, it's nature.

When a Man helps his wife out with cooking - and he should - it because she doesn't have the time . . not because she can't do it.

It's not necessary for a Woman to know how to cook? . . . Get some perspective Man!

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n u blame that particular lion because?

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There are always conditions to most facts. That a lion can't hunt because he was kept in the zoo all his life doesn't beat the fact that naturally, all lions should be skillful hunters.

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on the environment to learn one, now this jst prove how single minded u guys are, jst because we are africans and all that n familiar with cooking n all that, i gat a friend who dont know how to boil water cos she grew up in an orphanage home no parents, and they were not even allowed near the kicthen, incase they run away or something, so their are conditions out there, that are exempted

wat u guys are supposed to say is, the lazy ones or stubborn ones that dont know hw to cook, instead u guys are generalising, datz single minded

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now I see so much 'reason' in that. Unavailability of what? the kettle, or the firewood?

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