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Is It Ethical To Spy If You Think Your Spouse Is Cheating?

I’m not sure ethics has anything to do with whether or not you should spy on a cheating spouse. If your spouse is cheating, it’s my opinion that a person has to do what needs to be done to protect themselves. As long as your motives are not to get revenge on a cheating spouse or to use the information you find to cause problems for the other man/other woman, I see nothing unethical about spying.

Things to Consider Before Spying:

There are things you should take into consideration before you begin your quest to find out if your spouse is cheating. First, are you ready for the conflict that will occur when your spouse finds out you have been spying on him/her? You should expect your spouse to be upset, to accuse you of not trusting them and to deny their own actions in favor of trying to make you feel guilty for spying.

Secondly, certain forms of “spying” are illegal. There are state and federal laws that regulate the use of surveillance equipment, recording devices and Internet software. You should become familiar with your state’s laws before you go full steam ahead with any sort of covert spying behavior.

Reasons Why You Should Spy:

There are 4 important reasons you should find out if your spouse is cheating:

To protect yourself emotionally. Worry over that nagging feeling in the pit of your stomach can be emotionally draining. Find out for sure what is going on will enable you to stop worrying and start coping.

To protect your health. If your spouse is cheating there is a danger of sexually transmitted diseases. If your spouse is having an affair and not using protection, they are putting your health at risk. Protecting your health is ultimately your responsibility and the main reason you should try and discover the truth.

To protect yourself legally. If the infidelity means the end of your marriage some state divorce laws still allow it to be used as grounds for divorce. Even in states with no-fault divorce laws a judge can and may take into consideration the conduct of your spouse when determining spousal support.

To protect your self-esteem. Infidelity in a marriage can cause a person to doubt their worth, doubt their attractiveness and question whether or not they themselves are responsible for the infidelity. It is imperative that you stand up for yourself if you feel your spouse is cheating. The best way to do that is gather information and confront them about their unacceptable behavior.

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ROFL.

who resurrected this thread?

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@ OgaMadam: i got replying to Chisomquee's tread when she contributed rough against the bankers(if though i used to be) but it got interesting seeing so more funny turn in her treads especially when the quote sounded like it was the guy.

It think she owe d house some explanations.

What do you all think?

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@poster,

women struggle to believe their beloved is cheating, so evidence is needed in believing, unless you see it you will always be in denial.

always always listen to your gutt. if your gutt is telling you some's up, better find out, you can look for evidence and then match it up

by spying or properly finding out.

@chisomquee,

its rough.

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@chisomquee

What's up?

Your first post on this thread needs some explanation.

I have tried to understand it in line with the subject being discussed but I am sorry I  don't .

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@LETDEMSAY

WHICH TRUTH ARE YOU SAYING THAT IS BITTER.

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@LETDEMSAY

I THINK YOU ARE SICK IN THE HEAD,GO FOR MEDICAL ATTENTION B4 IT GETS OUT OF HAND.

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there is nothing wrong in spying when u suspect ur partner is cheating or changed from whom he used to be and start acting up strange attitude ,definately my curiousity will push me to spy and find out what is going on ,anyone engaging in extramarital affairs will deny untill u catch them red handed.

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You bloody fool.

Shameless maggot who go sleeping around in disguise that her daughter is ill.

You dare call me empty, proud and arrogant (in directly) on the internet despite your foolish behaviours and lack of respect for your so call husband, and the guise that you are holy, Holy me foot.

You are simply dragging the fight and i promise to make it messy than you think SLOT, i promise to display every evidence (pictures inclusive) i have and more for the veiwing pleasure of the whole Nairalanders.

I promise to make a headline of you, since choose to show case your family matters on the internet gives you joy and lots of happiness.

Dont forget to tell them how daft and a lazy type you can be.

How my pictures got missing, how you under the guise of your class rep have coded your silly boy friends name sending and receiving SMS two weeks into your tricked marriage until the buble burst right on your face, how you have being sleeping with your so call husbands friend and lots more that i will reveal soon on the internet (with Pictorial evidence).

I promise to make a nonsense out of you

No matter what you do on the internet it will reach me in just a matter of time its not a threatneither its that am tracking you, but some how your foolishness will bring you out.

Try me!

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I don't believe spying is good jare, catching him/her red handled is better.

Like the saying goes “Everyday is for the thief but a day is for the owner"

But wait a minute, why will i want to waste my hard earned money on sometimes like that

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Spying have difference dimensions. Putting your spouse on surveilance may create problem if it turn out to be false and the other person find out. To be frank, the other person may never trust you again even though he/she had assured you it is nothing. He/she would put you on indefinite probation that forever place a big question mark on your integrity. What is more, such act would actually create insecurity and may drive the other person out of the home.

There are ways to spy on someone without having to jump into a trap.

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As far as I'm concerned it is okay to spy on your spouse if you think she's cheating and lying about it. Gather your evidence meticulously, get a good divorce lawyer and get out out of the marriage as fast as you can.

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Its ok to spy. Most especially when you begin to notice some strange attitude you know wasn't present when you married him/her. You have to spy because most people who are engaging in extramaritial would deny it when confronted by their spouse. So catching them red handed is the only way out.

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