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Is It Good For Wives To Call Their Husbands By Their Names ?

What is your opinion? Should wives call their hussies by their names considering our African background? I think calling the name just like that smacks of disrespect.

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I use term of endearments and my husband's birth name when I call him. He is not God.

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Total disrespectful. There is no love when Wife call their husband names. Respect is reciprocal.

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See as all the ladies just dey provoke..

@OP: Calling your woman Mama sososo and she calling you Papa sososo is just too archaic. There is nothing wrong in she calling you by your name. She is your wife, not your servant.

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Some men are just plain stewpid. The wanting his wife to call him Baba what ever will be following some 19 yr old girl that will be calling him by name. BASTARD OSHI! Forgive my ranting, I just hate it when ppl act so darned daft.

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lwtmb!!! call him brother or uncle na! chi mo

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thank god this is 2012, i bet this kinda questions can never come up again

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I can't stand 'Honey'. Its a horrible pet name. Its too disgusting , it should be banned!

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I call my husband his name because i am quite comforatble with it and his name is so sweet and special that i'm just happy calling it and of course its so unique (havent heard any other person called by it, may be somewhere sha)

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i only call him his name wen im angry,

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huh? I don't think it is direspectful at all

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i wld call my husband by the name his parents call him, call it rude or ill- mannered, i care less, i love him n i want to remain as close as i dear, calling him by his name helps the closeness

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what a wonderful w-o-r-l-d !

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hmm in the yorubas culture, u had not to calls ur husbands by her names, me i am call my husband baba sule, cos the nemes of my 1st borns is sule

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good topic so to say.i am married and av a babe now. u know what i want my wife to be calling me by name but ssaid no that i decieve an anchor of respect,even though i said i want my name. as for me i called call her name. because i still want us to c eachother like best friend not under any africa old culture.

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Calling your husband pet names of your fancy does not mean you love him that much or that you respect. its a sweet song to hear when the going is smooth and direct opposite when its not. i have seen couples who call themselves sweet names at home and public only for them to drastically change to their first names when having an aguement or misundertanding.so you keep wondering what happend to the pet names.

I believe pet names does not change how you feel about your spouse. i know of a girl who calls her ex boyfriend "Angel" but when you ask her why she calls him angel since he does'nt care about her, she tells you "there are different kinds of angels,the one she call the guy is actually devil's angel as he is a big time flirth". so what are we talking about?

If i decide to to call my husband a pet name.i see no reason why i should change it when we are not agreeing over some issues. and if i decide to call him his name,it does'nt mean i don't love or respect him.

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@Mcdoe, I don't understand Is ur name not ur name I see no reason why ur wife can't call u by ur name since she respect u. awarun rightly said do u want her to call u a pet name and insult u is that better. e.g baba risi ori yin ti daru.( baba risi ur head has scattered) Is this respect?

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Baby,u can if u wanna.so far u understand wetin u dey yan.

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Does it then mean we should bark when calling God?

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Those people that their Husbands call mama Iyabo

and their wives call papa Ireti are they not humans?

I beg call me what you want to call me but show me my respect.

And whats more? I would prefer you call me by my name. You call me

honey on a good day but by name on a bad day? Even god said they should

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Yes he is.[/color][color=#990000][color=#990000][/color]

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you sound so familiar.

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lmao

Nce one rachiwise. Abi ooooooooooo

If it's baba luku then it must be babaa luku all d way LOL

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I call my guy baby or honey it all depend on the situation and time

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quote: mr Mcdoe, i'm sure u can tell that i was being sarcastic

@ soulpatrol: Not really. But why the title?

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mr Mcdoe, i'm sure u can tell that i was being sarcastic

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Guys pls, for God's sake we are talking of marriage here not a boss-employee relationship.As a married couple u should know how to relate with each other,share ur joy and sorrow,be intimate and share ur deepest feelings life life,ur dreams and no culture,Black,White,Red can stop that it's all in ur heart.

So, where does calling ur husdand Uncle Lagbaja come in?to Guys out there believing that their wives should call them Baba Luku,would they like her to call them Baba Luku when having sex.

Imagine ur wife screaming Baba Luku,Baba Luku all night,men, sheesh!!!!!!!!

African mentality,if we r to go with all our traditions even men would cry imagine ur younger brother sleeping with ur wife when u die.Men,

i bow o!!!!!!!

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I don't know of y'all but I prefer a woman that calls me by my first name and respects me 100% (and vice-versa by the way) than one that calls me Baba Junior and raises her voice to me at every single opportunity as well as disrespecting me in every small (or big) issue.

We need to get this fact into our heads people.

Of course, i understand that some people here will marry (or are already married to) girls 10yrs younger than them. In that case, no shaking your wife should not call u by name (i am assuming she called u Broda Rafiu when u were toasting her). In fact she must go further and go on both knees to greet you no matter where u people are. Yes, why stop at her not calling you by name. Why not try the following as well, you know we'll need her to be a full wholesome Africano wife to massage your undeservedly large EGO:

-Kneel to greet you in public

-Avert her eyes when talking to you

-When discussing you with others, refer to you as Olowo ori mi (d owner of my head and person)

-Kneel when presebting you with any item, especially your meals

-Marry your son or brother in the unfortunate event that you pass on before her.

-Turn all your property and assets that you both worked for over to your relatives when you pass on (this one must be done willingly and joyfully not like with tears in all dem home movies)

YES anything worth doing at all is worth doing well. She MUST adopt all these things and much more to show she respects you and culture.

Yes keee, ONE NAIJA

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It is pathetic.

really pathetic. Well name could mean but does not mean respect. That is not morality.

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It is pathetic.

really pathetic. Well name could mean but does not mean respect. That is not morality.

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It's very sad and it's the same men born of a mere woman that are trying hard to keep her down.

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Um EVERYONE deserves respect, McDoe.

if in your aroko village "respect" means corny nicknames, good for you.

Just don't go around yapping dust implying that anyone that doesnt comply to that idiotic rule is disrespectful to their spouse.

kuro waju mi.

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@ lawuyi. . . . . "told" them

In fact "toldable" them.

Africano my Bottom . . . baba junior and the next second she will screen on your head or mess you up even on the road.

Pathetic!

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Those of you with determined ambition of destroying the backbone of African moral fabric should check a thread on this section on 'why American children commit suicide' you would of course cry out but then, who cares. Na your kid. Carry go jo!

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That's true TOH but I was saying that people of other nationalities still have some conservative subpopulation. It is not only a Nigerian thing inasmuchas I do not sucribe to it Nigeria where we tend to look down on women very much.

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No mind am. This thing na allover. infact, it is the trend it was taking that made some rights activists to come out

with they now call ''gender equality''.

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Respect expected from a wife is a global thing and not necessarily in Nigeria alone. ThiefOfHearts, you know this na.

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did I say that they only exist IN Nigeria?

Some still travel and carry their ignorant disease along with them unfortunately.

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Well na you sabi O. But we still have such conservative guys abroad. not only in Nigeria you know.

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TOH you don de throw stone now. Which one be na ya people be this Osisi?

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You ain't scream enough! For all I care, women must respect men. It is only then that power could shift.

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What the hell was she calling him before they got married? Quit being such an ignorant slowpoke.

How do you compare the relationship of children to that of the wife? do you go to the children's father's house to take them away? Seriously what is wrong with you?

Actually I don't even want to know. I don't want to contact lunacy.

na your people be this o, osisi.

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Your d*ick go bruise if you Bleep am

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You cannot be far from the truth. Bleep western civilization!

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You guess what? These people are tapping into oyinbo man culture. They would later claim they are being kolonise. Civilization my foot!

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@awarun: We say these things without really taking into consideration our lifestyles(culture). Are u saying that a woman should look at her husband straight in the eyes and arrogantly call him by name. Why don't we allow children to also call their popsies by name just because we are rights agitators? Honestly, calling a husband by his 'raw' name without adding some sweetness to the name smacks of disrespect. We all know these things and should therefore not lie about them.

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Na wa oh, I had dis discussion with some friends not long ago and dey all said is disrespectful. I see no reason why u can't call ur spouse by name. U can call ur husband what ever respectable name and still insult him esp the YORUBA'S. My parent call each other by name and are still the envy of other couples in our neighbourhood. I feel different people different ways.

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Do I actually have a rule or regulation?

What is ur own Opinion?

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