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Is It Possible To Marry A Poor Guy?

This is the truth so many girls I've seen in Nigeria are not ready to settle with a guy who does not have money.I once over heard a girl telling a graduate friend of hers that..'you said you have potentials so what? Go ake money first'.How many girls are ready to date or even marry such guys?

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@Loveaflame, i respect your quote, These r meaningful msg, i wish they read this and find reason with it,,

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I think to many people have a wrong idea of this rich or poor thing.

The issue of marrying a poor man calls for a serious lesson.Who is a poor man? How do you define a poor man?

Please as far as I am concerned a poor man is man who is void of moral virtues and lacks godly vision.The man may be financially buoyant or financially poor.It doesn't matter.

There are the so-called POOR MEN who are good and wonderful and there are rich ones who are good and wonderful.

The real issue in marrying a man should never be base on money.In as much as money is good it will never make a marriage happy.

Some claim that you know the true character of a man when he is rich.I strongly disagree with such fallacious concept.

Wealth can never change a man.It is your self principles or beliefs that changes a man.As money is neither evil or good,it all depends on how it is used.

In the same way a man is said to be poor when he lacks basic human understanding.Those who end up marrying many rich guy end up regretting their choice in the first instance.

Many also who end up marrying poor guys also have their regrets.

The bottom line is this, you will always know who is really poor or rich by their speech and lifestyle than the money issue.

My conclusion is this.YOU CAN MARRY A "POOR MAN" IF HE IS GODLY AND RESPECTS YOUR PERSON.SHEKENA

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Yes. If he has potentials, a dream and desire for a better tomorrow and of course is hardworking.

Never despise anyone cos Time and Chance happeneth to them all.

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@Jehu sound mature and kind, But get something sometime guy may wish to do more than what u expect 4 u but cos of condition and he may not capable o doing it at that time, Probably cos he's unemployed and he has no funds but wish to do, may i know does he mean that if a guy can't get material things,money or gifts make him poor guy?

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@ Skeed19

You're a Gem Dear.  You 've put it succinctly. 

Ladies comments here reflect that most are gold-diggers and comfort seekers, while they see men as their slaves.

Forgetting that men are meant to plant their seeds in women, and they in turn nurture such seeds into a great harvest.

Women need dire re-orientation; materialism need to be extinguished.

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@jarkbauer, sounds funny, anyway we marry not cos of something but for everything we need to access in life, Been poor or rich at present can not devile the word CHANGES, Bible said in all things get wisdom and make use of it, Present situation should not judge what future means

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make sure you marry rich guy even if e go give you eternal headache

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Yeah cos you both need to understand what future means not present situation that judges,

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if i had the choice . . . . .

a poor man with potentials, vision, plan? yes

a poor man with lazy bone, no potentials and just whipping about being poor? no

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will the guy be poor forever? NO. so it does not mean

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I HAVE BEEN READING WITH KEEN INTEREST THE COMMENTS OF EVERYONE, AND I CONCLUDED THAT EVERYONE IS ALLOWED TO ERR HIS/VIEWS. WELL,

IF YOU HAVE OBSERVED IN LIFE, LADIES WHO ARE FROM POVERTY STIKEN FAMILY TENDS TO FORM MORE THAN THE HAVES!! WHO TOLD YOU ANYONE WAS BORN IN LIFE TO BE POOR? I PITY SOME LADIES, because, THAT A GUY HAS TODAY, ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN TOMORROW, AND WHO SAYS A LADY CANNOT GIVE A HELPING HAND? YOU GOING TO THE GUYS HOUSE AS A WIFE, ASK YOURSELF, WHAT IS YOUR CONTRIBUTION? WHAT HAVE YOU CONTRIBUTED OR HOPE TO CONTRIBUTE TO BETTER HIS LIFE?

I READ SOME LADIES VIEWS AND I FEEL TERRIBLY BAD! YOU GO AND LOOK FOR JOB NOW AND LETS SEE WHATYOU CAN DO, YOU ARE THERE WAITING FOR A READY MADE GUY, THAT WILL SNAP AT ANY LITTLE THING YOU DO,

SINCERELY AM PISSED WITH ALL THESE AJEPKAKO TALKING RUBBISH! NO GUY IS POOR, NO ONE, THERE IS A TOMORROW, AND GOD WHO HAS BROUGHT SUCH TO LIFE WILL SURELY BE AT HIS/HER RESCUE IN DUE TIME.

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I say, for the guy and girl to become financially responsible before marriage. enough said.

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I think everything depends on your state of mind at the time you meet a potential spouse.

When a lady's in a state of life when she has nothing & hence nothing to lose; anything goes. The 'poor' guy may not seem poor to her.

However, consider a lady who is building a good career and can support herself (or has a lot of family support), I expect her to be more choosy. She could possibly marry a guy she sees as 'poor' if and only if she can better him, or believes in him while having resources to give him a lot of support.

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My parents are a perfect example, mumsi's dad was RICH in every sense of the word, popsi dad died early and their family was a write off!

But popsi's swore that none of his offspring wld ever suffer what he went thru, was a houseboy up to uni, was only able to pay school fees cos he got a scholarship

His perseverance, determination and God's grace saw him thru.

So back to question

Is it possible to marry a poor guy? YES!!! As long as he has made up his mind not to remain poor!!!

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there are condition that back it up ,even in the whole wide world money is the pillar that hold the relationship or the guy sabi service well well .

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the problem isnt necessarily marrying the poor guy but the fact that if he makes it rich in the future, he may decide not to care for the wife who was there while he was poor.

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Everything is possible under the sun. It all depends on what you want and how you feel, etc.

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To me money is not an issue.l am interested in who u are and not what u are.

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Poor at what age please?

If he's a young graduate, well, there's a potential as they say,

but if he's over 35 and still poor, haaa, that one hard o,

forget all that "if we love each other we shall overcome" it's a lie

It has been said that money is the cause of most divorce cases.

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poor man don suffer oh

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it is god, bad, ugly, to get friend ship 2 a poor guy becouse love is decition between one person 2 the other

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there r 3 reasons y "nigerian galz choose not 2 marry a poor guy.talkin from a niger galz perspective.1-if she suffered hardship wit him n he is com4table hill start lukin 4 silly excuses 2 cheat around say maybe shes 2 fat or shes no longer a good cook etc 2-its very difficult 4 a gal who has lived in a wealthy and com4table home 2 marry a pauper.even if she is fallin in luv her parents will giv her reasons 2 fall out of luv n marry som1 of her class 3-no gal,i inclusive is ready 2 live in poverty,eating to kip body n soul not necesarily liking d food out of poverty and most galz.i inclusive cant sit n watch n allow my baby suffer mal nutrition,besides it will be a slap on my face n an embarrasment 2 my parent 4 me 2 study in an expensive school n come out with a good degree n end up with a paupe.god 4bid.i"ll definetly marry som1 of my level or higher if possible.any way wot r my sayin likes attract likes.a  male graduate can neva be attracted 2 a pepper seller,neither can a female graduate be attracted 2 a poor bus conductor

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there r 3 reasons y "nigerian galz choose not 2 marry a poor guy.talkin from a niger galz perspective.1-if she suffered hardship wit him n he is com4table hill start lukin 4 silly excuses 2 cheat around say maybe shes 2 fat or shes no longer a good cook etc 2-its very difficult 4 a gal who has lived in a wealthy and com4table home 2 marry a pauper.even if she is fallin in luv her parents will giv her reasons 2 fall out of luv n marry som1 of her class 3-no gal,i inclusive is ready 2 live in poverty,eating to kip body n soul not necesarily liking d food out of poverty and most galz.i inclusive cant sit n watch n allow my baby suffer mal nutrition,besides it will be a slap on my face n an embarrasment 2 my parent 4 me 2 study in an expensive school n come out with a good degree n end up with a paupe.god 4bid.i"ll definetly marry som1 of my level or higher if possible.any way wot r my sayin likes attract likes.a male graduate can neva be attracted 2 a pepper seller,neither can a female graduate be attracted 2 a poor bus conductor

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Wonderfully said, agreed with you, cos love is not enuf

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A poor guy with potiental

not some NFA!

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A poor man that does nothing about his condition will remain poor

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Yea! it is possible. Remember, no condition is permanent. A guy is poor today does not mean he will not be rich tomorrow. Marrying a rich guy is not it; but a guy who realy loves & cares 4 u, 4 luv conquers all.

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Yes it is, shd u marry a man that is poor, that is a diferent question

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if you nor get money you be morkey no honey not even dieling according to uncle p,, ,, no girl is ready to marry e go better, they all looking for e don better

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wat of the guy later money in future and start dating other girls

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When it is possible to marry a Fish, it will be possible to marry a Poor guy.

Im not poor, so the poor should marry themselves

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money is relative.

some are happy with a guy who can put food on the table ,some want men who can buy them a car and some want men that own half the town.

But reality is also this.Go make your own money then look for money to marry.

This is why lots of men in nigeria cheat on their women.Trust me i seen and know what men talk about before the marriage and ladies trust me you will not like to know .

You hear things like "after i don spend on this girl make she try misbehave " or "i don buy am now make e sit for house breastfeed the pikin while i find younger stuff play with".

Men are not silly too they know when you are after money or marrying into security and then you become property whether you want to believe it or not because they know you have a slim chance of ever walking away from the security.

It is possible but with Nigerians love for money a poor man will most likely marry a poorer woman.

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O boy get dis straight dis na naija

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I married one fortunately when i had a choice(younger age) and its been fantastic now

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That a man does not have money now,does not make him a poor man.

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@jah God go bless u if true true you be female. You go marry better man wey hollo and go still love you on top. All this clowns posting that they will marry poor people are not real. Maybe they dont have oportuinity to date rich people. Poverty is a sin and must not be accepted in any form thats why nations strive to eliminate it so that everyone will be okay. You think if all this clowns have not looted naija people go dey suffer like this. Also been poor is a relative term, (how poor is the issue) Y all that post from locations in usa and germany can marry poor people over there because what you call poor over there is better than comfortable over here. a young banker who earns lets say N80,000 per month is poor because he can only afford the basics. he cannt even take his girlfriend out to a nice restaurant talk less of taking her to a nice boutique. To a lot of nigerians this banker in question is okay. Do you want to tell me that you will marry a man who cannot feed you, is living with his mother (not my sisters, it will never be our portion). You must be a sex addict who is hooked to his big pri**k or you are mentally slow and needs psychiatric help to claim to marry the poor. What we confess comes to us thats why there is so much power in the word we issue out. this is why every morning i tell myself i am rich, i am healthy, and i will marry the most beautiful faithful woman on earth and till date i am on track. Dont get me wrong A man that does not have cash is not really poor if he has prospects. Is that the kind of poor u talking about. if it is then you are with a rich man because Poverty is a hopeless state of mind. Infact i dont even want to type it. I dont need to be reading the letters p o o r cos i aint got business with this word.

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like me i do not see anything bad on marry poor guy, so far he love me and have God fearing. I believe that in future something can change to good.

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i believe poverty is a state of the mind

i cannot marry anyone with a poverty mentality because we will not be able to walk together.

men are in sizes as life is in phases.

though your beginning is small your end shall be greatly increased.

that is what i believe.

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i can marry a poor guy as long as i love him and he's the right guy.

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Yeah its possible 2 marry a 'poor' guy but ladiess if d guy isnt amibitious or mayb does nt av a gud plan 4 his futher then u beta run cos sum guys r jst 2 lazy nd met 2 b poor all their lives, PERIOD!

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Why giv urself trouble,

love is not blind oooo!

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Why is everyone talking about the Lady? Guys can you marry a poor lady? i need to know. There has been a lot of scheming going on by guys these days when they want to pick a wife/gal friend its always the ones that are not liabilities the financially stable ones (very common with youruba guys)some of them are not embarrased to collect money from their women. What do you call that? Diamond DIGGING NOT gold DIGGING ABI! It goes to show that nobody wants a poor person (babe/guy). So stop accusing us guys!!!

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With God all things are possible

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Its is very possible provided the guy has means of livelihood .though i see a poor man as one who doesnt have ideas and not material things

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hmmm, marrying a poor?

Thats a very tough one or thing to do!

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I can only marry a poor guy that is educated, well mannered and handsome.

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methinks: it actually depends on the definition of POOR!!!

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Mamaput is right. My family lives in the village and my cousins marry "poor men". But, the children do not go hunger. The schools are paid for. Housing is provided. Food is available. Yes, it is possible. It is just that women do not brag or announce "My husband will be a poor man" as they do w/ rich men.

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