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Is It Right To Be A Second Wife?

I had this impression that second wives are always evil, jealous and troublesome, but presently i have a  neighbour who is a third wife, from what i observed from our few contacts as neighbours , i think she is humble and respectful. I can hardly see any "second wife" trait in her. So i was actually wondering if its morally right or wrong for a woman to be a second wife or third wife as the case may be, considering the fact that some so called second wives could actually be good and morally upright persons whose marital status was occasioned by circumstances. What do you think

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how did you not catch the fact that it was abrahams failings ( one wife + one pregnant maid) is one of the main cause of the midle eastern wahala?

do you want the wahala his sons had in your own family.

i have a naija moslem friend on you tube comment on her fathers foto tagged from a sister from another mother " daddy do not rest becos the mess you left behind has still not been solved 6yrs after you slept". would you want such things written about you?

you can come out defending good things dont come out defending backward habits like having multiple partners this day and age. most poligamous homes are actively disfunctional homes.

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The same God Abraham who had two wives feared, the same God Solomon who had 1 thousand feared, the same one David who had several feared, the same one many of the prophets of God who had several wives feared.

Polygamy is no backwardness but the reality and practical solution to the excess women in our midst. Our fore fathers practised it, it was pratcised in europe, asia, middle east and alomost all regions of the world.

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Is the question about being a second wife or being a concubine?

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dont you see the back wardness, wickedness and evil this lifestyle has on any society that practice it?.

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There is nothing wrong in it. A woman can be a second wife.

See all these women saying no it is wrong , why should a woman settle for less blah blah blah.

Have you all asked yourself why thousands of Nigerian girls date married men?, Have u asked yourself why women are in no short supply for married men, Have you asked yourself how tuface would have 5 kids from 5 women and thousands of girls still want to sleep with him??

We humans dont like to face reality and practicality of life. Even in the west many married men have mistresses, whyy are these mistresses dating the married men. Why does Berlusconi of Italy have several girls aside his enstranged wife??

Hypocriciy is rife in our hearts and we love to shy away from the truth. Many women here on NL will happily walk put their fingers for Donald Duke or other state governors to marry them. Women love money , fame and power and that is a fact of life till eternity.

There is nothing eveil about polygamy if practised sincerely with the fear of God.

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Even if she acts and behaves like an Angel such that everyone adores her, she is still a thief and an intruder.

Yes, that' true.

Even if the ratio of women to men becomes 1 : 50, it doesn't concern you. Marry yours and leave others. There is a man somewhere for every woman and having more than a wife at once shows that you have just deprived a man of his true wife. And if marries another woman, he might have a marital problem.

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Still, it is wrong to educate women to queue up as wives.

I do know about a related facts that says there will be lesser men and more women.

Currently, there are still lots of single brothers around - and some of them are aging out, so what are these women doing then?

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Too many women in the world. The ratio of women to menis too high so a 1:1 ratio would leave many women single

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Some of this issue is pretty simple cus based on logic and reasoning, true marriage is between a man and a woman.

Many women should be educated - since there are still many single men around, what is such woman doing as a second or third wife.

Please it is not right at all.

Ok guys, would you be the second husband?

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No matter how it might look such journey is usually paved with trouble

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The same thing that would make a man who shares his wife willingly with another man silly.

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Second, that is PURE ADULTERY., as far as God is concern, I mean in the sight of God, you are just marrying another woman/s husband and we you die, HELL FIRE STRAIGHT

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That is the most silly thing I have ever heard of. Why would you want to be a second wife. One man for one woman. In the bible it does not say one man and two women. I think being a second wife is not good. And, to answer your question no second wifes are not evil. In movies they play them that way.

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So Ok,

Like today, married men have girlfriends on the side anyways, difference between them and polygamy is

there is no deception involved.

in a polygamous home wife 1 knows there others - and she gets to see them, at least her conscience is

aware of them. In these so called monogamous homes, the wife does not even know who her rivals

are. its like she is warring against some unseen forces.

so its not right for most women to be second wives cause the nature of women just doesnt allow them

to share a kitchen or a bed or a man's body with another woman.

but the respect i have for polygamous homes is that it is done in the open and there is no breaking

of trust and deception of another partner.

finito.

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Being a second wife is not a bad idea,

but many women and few men will not welcome this idea.

not all second wifey are bad. A lady without a captivating manner is useless, be it first or 2nd

Options for 2nd wifey are planned while some are unexpected,

For men having extra marital affairs, the man might end up impregnating the lady

and she might not want any abortion of a kind,

so therefore the man is left with no option than to take her to the altar or whatsoever

Women should know that its a favour that a man is doing to a them and their family,

cos a man is taking one responsibility off their neck.

Can anyone quote the bible where it is stated clearly that men should marry one wife, even in the quran, i know many of you would argue on this with your own reasoning.

God that make a provision for a man and a wife with their kids will surely make extra provisions with the inclusion of a 2nd wife and her children.

Lets look at the population of women in d world, we would find out that the numbers of female child in every community is more than the male child, and we say one woman to a man, there would be many who would be left out with no man to hold, wont these accept to be a 2nd wifey? In every relationship women try harder than men to be faithful to their spouse, while men cheat as if theres no tomorrow, in boyfriend and gf issues men cheat more than women, if this man or boy eventually marry someone he desired what happen to the other ladies? Wont they mind being the second wife to him or to someone else,***some of you would say "God forbid", listen to the inner you, most of you will*** but many women will not take this, there is coming a time when many men will marry more than one wife becos non of you ladies would like to be single for the rest of your life

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So how do you explain the fact that the ratio of women to men is very low.

I just cant handle more than one woman but as to the God aspect, I dont know. He said nothing bout it.

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Being a second wife or third wife is not GOD plan for every woman cos in the life of every woman there is a man somewhere made by GOD for her to love , care, cherish and adore [vice-versa]. going into marriage involves several things beyond materials and physical things,but there has to be 2 major rediness

1- financial rediness

2- emotional rediness. this 2 objectives can only be shared appropiately with a man and a woman( husband and wife) but when there is more than one woman there will be cohesion and persistence crisis and conflict.

thank you. from loveway

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It is wrong to be a 2nd wife.

U r her neighbour, she does nt hv 2 be evil 2 u.

It will be different if u live in her house.

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Thank God that doesn't exist here, but even if i was to get married in naija i will never welcome that ideal, why should my husband think of getting a second wife at the first place.

They are not always friendly to each other it's wrong to accept to be a second wife.

I want to rock my husband alone oooo just like this till old age Lollllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllsssssssssssssssssssssss.

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its not right,im from a polygamous family and i can tell you that you might see them all getting along but there are always undercurrents,tensions in the house,petty jelousy envy e.t.c and this is assuming money isnt an issue

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Which kind second wife,second ko,second ni.Am certainly not a party to such marriage.lets be real it doesnt pay at last

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I can NEVER be second best in a man's life.

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rubi, To maintain a woman's dignity you are very right

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As for me I must be the first and the last

@Topic If that makes you happy and comfortable that ok

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vivaladiva,  the foundation of  home will be affected with your theory

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am always happy to be a second wife, so long as i can also have a second husband and maybe a few concubines

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Its rather unfortunate to be the second wife unless the man is widower

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2nd wife or 86th wife as a case in  Niger,  More than one wife is way of enslaving womanhood and disrespect women all over  the world, Sincerely speaking, any man with more than a wife is a cheat, a liar and absolutely irresponsible and you should check the lifestyle of such man.

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forget about the issue of being a second wife.we are supposed to promote fidelity in marriage and not promote it.the issue of second wife is suppose to be completely out of the question, IF YOU ARE A CHRISTIAN!!!.Being a second wife means yu are interfering with somebody's marriage and we all know that ''WHAT GOD HAS PUT TOGETHER LET NO MAN PUT ASUNDER''.i am yet to see any polygamous family that experiences peace,even if there seems to be hamony amongst wives.because as soon as the man dies,u will know that the so called peace was absolutely false.''A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE'' and ''HE THAT HATH AN EAR LET HIM HEAR''.don't be a second wife.u'll be doing yourself more harm than good[/color][color=#000099]

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I dont think its that bad, being a second wife. Some religion and traditions permit it, so It cant be wrong. Though personally I wont do that, but I dont condemn those who do and I dont see them as 'bad'.

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do u know the first wife is considered as the wife and the others are not? i think its pathetic bin second wife

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cant be one thats trouble.nigeria men needs to change.

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I can't believe this is being discussed. Second and third wives still exist in Naija? When will men learn, one is not enough they want 2, 3, 4, 5 trouble.

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Once came across a guy who wanted me for a second wife cos he found after marriage that they were both AS. so he wanted me to have kids for him.

Of course I said No, cos it diidn't feel right to me playing a second fiddle by being a second wife.

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No,a second wife is an Adultress that needs to get her own husband,It's written in the bible

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no it ain't right to be a 2nd wife. 2nd wife? whats the woman thinking of?

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In addition to what i ve said, If I were to be a lady, i would prefer to be the first and the only wife.

But atimes one can't predict except for d devoted Christian families

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each man to one wife,but pple have turned everything upside down wt their stupidities

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I would rather be unmarried for the rest of my life than be a second wife, haba

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It has to do with nature and environment,good girl remains good either as first,second or third wife while atimes the environment might play its parts in changing the IQ of d girl  forcing her into standing up to d challenges of polygamy (this means the problem is probably not from her but from the previous wife/wives).

In another context for non moslems , woman can either be the second wife when she fails to get d first class position in a home;menace from bad character.

so this type ended up as a second wife with their poisonous character.

I shall stop here 4 now.

Regards,

I

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it is not acceptable,i will always be first not second handed,used wife.

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