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Is Lack Of Money The Leading Cause Of Marital Unhappiness And Divorce?

so my brother bougth me Praise George's "mastering money" personal development CD for my birthday and i was listening to it. near the beginning Praise makes a statement that "lack of money is the leading cause of marital unhappiness and divorce"

i'm kind of confused here because i thought that honour fell to unfaithfulness/infidelity. so married folks in the house, what do you have to say about that?

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I believe the reality of this matter is that: Only marriages that were inspired by money will break-up without money. Marriages that were inspired by love will NOT break apart later, because of absence of money.

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So you mean that the man should be both: the bread winner and a helper in the house ? and what does the lady do ? sit on her fat Bottom and enjoy?

, I think guys should make sure we marry lady's that can contribute.

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Yes. Lack of money can lead to divorce.

A woman that stays with a man who used to be rich and now, poor, LOVES d man.

I am married & I know that, temporary setback in terms of money, can definitely strain the marriage.

If you are not married & u have money issues, u can return to your parents' house until you sort out your money problems.

When you are married with kids, it is not that easy. You will want to stay in d marriage until u can't anymore.

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Money, Money?

Why are you Money?

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The issue is that many men (at least in Africa) are not taught to do any other thing in the family apart from providing money for the family's upkeep.The woman will endure most of her husband's short comings as long as her children are  being taken care of financially. but once he is not able to do that anymore, she does not see the reason to continue to take all the 'poo' because the man becomes useless to her.

A way out is for men to seize to be mere meal tickets, they should get involved in some of the activities in the home and be supportive to their spouses so that the woman sees you as a backbone that she cannot do without with or without a pay check!

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i wld say that the chief causes of marital unhappiness is

1) lack of effective communication

2) not appreciated ur partner

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I would say i disagree that the lack of money in a home is the leading cause of divorce although in the absence of it, the marriage might suffer some 'tribulations', God help if the woman is a 'high taste madam'. There are still some families where u'll find are just 'ok' financially but they are quite happy with one other(husband, wife and kids) and on the other hand, rich families where there isn't happinessat all. It's all a matter of what brought the two people together in the first place, love or money?

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@ Trea_z I am not married as well but i know that in this World we are, Money is power , it answers almost all question.

Yeah every one says Money is the root to all evil, but i believe that the lack of money is da root to all evil.

So the lack of money can be a cause of Marital unhappiness if the couples allows it to be

LOVE IS STRONGER THAN MONEY, LOVE over Comes ALL THINGS !

Is there Genuine love in that marriage?

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I will still say it again and again money is extreamly important in a marriage setting with out it a marriage will crumble, not necessarily through divorce but there wont be happiness and there will be too much bitterness.

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Marriage is like and engine. Money is the engine oil that lubricates. It has to be in appriopriate/moderation for a well oiled machine. No more no less.

Little problem will be overblown if thers no money in the marriage. Divorce will not be too far down the road.

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[b][/b] I THINK THIS IS A VERY ISSUE WE MUST FACE IN OUR SOCIETY TODAY, LET'S BE REALISTIC FOR ONCE IF YOU TAKE A CLOSER LOOK AT NIGERIA GIRLS TODAY SORRY TO SAY THIS, 80% OF THE GIRLS BELIEVE MONEY IS EVERYTHING WHICH IS NOT SO. BASED ON MY OWN IDEAS I THINK GOING FOR THE MONEY IS NOT WORTH IT COZ THE MONEY CAN STILL FINISH SOMEDAY DEPENDING ON THE SOURCE HE'S MAKING THE MONEY FROM, WHAT REALL MATTERS IS WHAT THE PERSON DO FOR A LIVING. NIGERIAN IS A BAD PLACE WHERE WHERE EVERYBODY THINKS YOU USE MONEY TO MAKE MONEY, WHITE MEN BELIVE YOU USE YOUR KNOLEDGE TO MAKE MONEY. WANNA SLEEP NOW IT'S LATE, I'LL SAY MORE SOON.

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Peace Out

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I personally think money is very important part in any relationship including marriage ,without money u can hardly do anything  and poverty is not good so therefore it can lead to unhappiness and divorce but unfaithfulness is the highest cause of most divorce.

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yah but not all the time.

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The course is improper TRADITIONAL WEDDING which make both couples commited to each other, not money. If you marry because of money , you will go when the money will finish. Remember nothing last forever except the LOVE of GOD on our life, that love is what we share with each other husband and wife.

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lol na big true you talk o babyosisi

imagine not having money to pay in western world like USA where BILLS is everything and unending? can't tell your landlord i don't have money to pay for the apartment or the mortgage company i don't have money to pay for the house. it's not easy when you can't afford things when you are married, ha the kids dey there too. Lack of money sure cause unhappiness in marriage. it's a starter of many headache. no money to pay bills, for good food etc. so much will be on your mind that even sex which people believe is important in marriage will be a distant thing. oh well lack of money, that's tough.

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There are 5 top reasons leading cause of marital unhappiness and divorce---not just 9ja, everywhere in the world:

1. failure financial compromise. (too many disagreements or arguement without sitting down to resolve money issues)

2. incompatible relationship. (different religious, different beliefs, different race, different tribe, etc.)

3. infidelity/adultery

4. lack of communication (too little or never)

5. sexual satisfactory (low sex drive, high sex drive, or inexperience in sex)

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Money is definitely not everything but the lack of it is catastrophic in any marriage.

Girls please do not marry a jobless man.

When the chips are down, love will not turn into a plate of jollof rice!!

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the no 1 cause is actually if you guyz are both unbelievers or your marriage is an arranged one(God first)

we all know money answereth all things. okay take a slight look at a situation where the man his not rich and the woman is contented with the situation but the man him self is not okay thinking he's a subject of ridicle. after complanning for a long time and the situation doesn't change he started accusing his wife to be a witch. this is still better because one can stand the anger of a man but in woman cases when the man is not well to do. you your self do not even want me to go into the detail. just know if u are not rich and your wife has an elaborated mouth you are finished. coz she will abuse and insult you, sleep with another man and which leaving you without divource for a rich man. and how about when too much of money cause problem

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@ mubowa

Kindly enlighten us as to the main cause of Marital unhappiness, 'the main No.1' as you have aptly described it.

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yes, money is one of the number one cause not actually the main no 1

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@jibody

Thanks for the info

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when a family is poor, i think the woman and children feel it the most. during visits from poor relatives my dad often gives the woman woman secretly just so she and children can survive. its really terrible. it's good for women to learn a trade. inasmuch as you love the man, u should be able to fend for yourself and your kids when the chips are down!

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@ Spoilt

Why is it that it is our women who feel the worst effects of the poverty level? We really need to empower our women don't you think?

Thankfully, most of my male friends who are considering marriage insist on their women being gainfully employed.

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lack of money is honestly one reason for marital unhappiness. ive seen relatives living in excrutiating poverty. they fight all the time about money and some marriages have ended when the women couldnt take it any more. its like a bad joke.

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@ Abubaka

I completely agree with you, one should not venture into this union if ones financial future seems bleak. The lack of money is obviously a major strain militating against a succesful marriage.

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yes bro,i can testify to that money is very very essential in marital life.

I once experienced it,my brother was sometime back retrenched from UBA?STB.Before the incident,the wife had been very loyal and loving.but cld u blieve dat few months after the retrenchment and the hell lot of money that the husband has been remitting is no longer coming;the wife just started misbehaving and always try picking offence on decisions taken by the husband.

Since then,i got to degist the whole and finally arrived at the fact the reason behind all these problems bw them is because the husband is no longer making money like before and is not really lavishing the little he got from former employer.

Bros,try putting good financial structures on ground before venturing into marrying,because havin a family is more than just marryin ur wife and feeding her.

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@dollp1

There ae tons of books and articles on conflict resolution in marriages for example this article by Femi Awodele:

http://nigeriaworld.com/feature/publication/awodele/042007.html

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If you want to have a happy marriage, then money shouldn’t be a problem.

When there are money limitations in the family, there’s bound to be unnecessary quarrels between the husband and wife.

The children would keep fighting over food and other unnecessary embarrassments, which can lead to a divorce.

Money is essential in marriages

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Its a very important part of any relationship including marriage. The reason one is suppossed to know ones partner and if they can cope with or without dough and if they can be that understanding. The lack of money should not be a cause for divorce.

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You bet. "Kesh" can do a lot of magic in all human endeavors. As a man you either have it and keep your dignity or count on love and remain a lap dog.

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Money is not a neccessity in marriage but it's still important. Lack of money in marriage can make marriage boring thereby leading to unhappiness and probably divorce.

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Money is very very important in a relatıonship and is definately a leading cause of marital unhappiness and divorce.

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yes o! lack of money is the major cause of marital unhappiness,too much money is also one.

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There are many things that contribute to marital unhappiness or divorce but i would say that lack of money (on the part of the husband) or more money (on the part of the wife) is the leading cause.

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Bruv, it is without a shadow of doubt, the leading cause cause of it.

Heard the phrase no romance without finance! It be true. That's when the so-called loving wife will discover s0-called -ex-boyfriend from 10 yrs b/4 now doing well and still professing undying love for her. Thats when she will suddenly remember you've not being taken her to places you used to visit, when you first started dating and a whole glut of other nonsense.

Bruv listen and learn from the CD very, very well, becos a lot us, including myself have developed bad habits relating to taking financial decisions. Get your money right son, so that without anyones assistance u can handle all your bills by yourself and and live according to what you can afford.

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, Money and the management of money (or lack of it) is the single most common cause for marriage break up this days, so says statistics.

Unfaithfulness is quite rampant (especially among the men) but the woman just turns blind eye as long as the man is taking care of his duties.

@jibody

Is there anyway of improving your conflict resolution skills, training, seminar or courseone can attend.

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Too much money can ruin a marriage just like lack of money. So it basically has to do with the level of bonding between a couple for it to work

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the lack of money does not guartantee marital bliss, the presence of money (lots of it) does not also guarantee marital bliss, what guarantees marital bliss are the two parties in the marriage, in a joint effort working in every conceivable way with the strenght of God to make their marriage work. any marriage based on the wrong foundation will eventually colapse, if the foundation is not good the building will never be good.

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Partly the cause but cant say its the major cause.

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Lack of conflict resolution skills is the leading cause. There is absolutely no problem that cannot be resolved. Couples only need to master the Art of Conflict Resolution.

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Money is important in a relationship but not all that necessary/ one of the factors that cause marital failure.

******without money nothing can be done******

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