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Is Marriage Compulsory?

Is marriage an obligation?

Even though it seems like marriage is an obligation that we have to fulfill, I personally disagree with every bit of that idea. Maybe I'm wrong and that's why I need to hear from you.

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@Topic,not compulsory but recommended.

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even to enter heaven too

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a lot of things in this world is not compulsary:

food, drug, vehicles, school, marriage etc but we need it to move on in life.

the problem with marriage is that it has a lot of laws attached to it because it deals with life. the mistake in it is heart breaking

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whats ur problem? are u afraid

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No it isn't. Why should it be? Because hippies who were high on weed wrote crap and called it the Bible?

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it was never meant to be a MUST but in today's society when people see single a person they tend to stereotype them. it is either you are gay, selfish, or out of luck with guys etc. however they fail to realize that not everyone likes to be tied down with one person for the rest of their miserable lives. sadly enough, all these stigma tend to be towards women most

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Marriage is not mandatory but it depends on how you want to live your life may be as a father,mother,spinster or bachelor cos it a matter of choice.

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no marriage is not compulsory but it

is better to married

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Marriage is not compulsory but it is important esp. if u're a woman in the Nigerian culture.

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This is more peculiar to the females who look forward to getting married.

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Apparently with the increasing rates of divorce world wide--you know that it is not compulsory.  Quick answer--No! Used to be called "a sacred institution. But now called a "hit or miss" or "trial by error"!

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Why are we so quick to blame society for hastening us into wedlock?why cant we just accept the fact that marriiage is a need, a craving we have.Why are we too shy to admit that we want to procreate despite what society says? is it not only wise that since women who have babies before age 30 are at lower risks of complications we want to belong in that bracket for OUR health sake?.(not society)Cant we just admit that we want to be married because we have so much love in us just wasting and there is room to share that love with that special someone? True there are pressures sometimes but really who wants to be alone. I am yet to find one.

My opinion pls

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Is marriage compulsory?

NO,

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Well from the way ladies and men as well behave on this forum regarding marriage, one would have thought that it is by force you must get married. I made the conscious decision not to get married, not out of selfish or a previous mishap as many attributed, but due to my own personal choice.

I honestly believe that I have a purpose to fulfil on earth, and making a lifelong committment would only deter and hamper such causes. I do plan on "having" a kid or two later on though, but marriage is one such thing that is not under my radar,

To those happily and those 'wishing to be" happy couples. Kudus!!!

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I may not get married but I'm gonna get those kids I want.

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Its not Compulsory getting married,its a choice.But in this society of ours people see you as been mad or out of your senses if you say you dont want to get married.For me i will love to get married.not just married i want to be HAPPILY MARRIED.

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whiteshark you are serious.

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To me... No

To my folk... yes..

Views differ my friends.. I for one do not see it as compulsory but a necessity. It is necessary for us to marry and corpulate and multiply but it not not compulsory cos everything we do in marraige, we can also do if not married.

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Marriage is not compulsory it all depends on what you want,especiall on whta God wants.

Is not as if God said u must marry,No far from it but he said that u should get married if u know u cannot overcome the desire to have sex.

So is better you marry than for you to be sinning getting your desire outside(Fornication)

Once you are married you have the certificate to do whateva it is u want with ur man.

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Not COMPULSORY,depends on the individual.

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well itz not compulsory to get married

but itz neccessary

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marriage is never compulsory. it is a choice.

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Since we are not Nun or a Monk unless you are thinking about it, I think Marriage is compulsory.

Without marriage, there can't be sex!!! (The Holy Bible illustration if you believe in it).

If you don't ever want to get married, that means don't think of having sex as it is ONLY allowed during marriage.(The Holy Bible illustration if you believe in it).

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i mean if you believe there shouldn't be sex before, that's when you can say I've to get married to have children!

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Sorry i did'nt get your last paragraph.

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Well for me yes, i have to get married. Because if i don't, and many people don't. Thinking that it is not compulsory although they are able (especially the guys). The human race is doomed for extinction.

listen! you don't have to get married to have children. but if you believe in abstinence before marriage!

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its good but its not compulsory

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marriage it is not compulsory it is a choice... like gina and most people are saying

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well i think you are right but it is a thing of choice.

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to answer ur question simply miss world... not necessarily; but remember... NO COW; NO MILK!

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though marriage is a union instuated by God himself.

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Marrige isnt an obligation in the Bible.

it depends on individuals

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1 Corinthians 7:

Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.

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Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. 9But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

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Are you married? Do not seek a divorce. Are you unmarried? Do not look for a wife. But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned.

Well, any comments?

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marriage is not compulsory but it is neccesary,

Even the bible said that it is better not to marry than to marry

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Huh calabarman, you've said it all. Experience is the best teacher.

Marriage is not compulsory. Only our society makes it seem so.

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This drive to get married results in a lot of unecessary pressure being applied to relationships. Some years back I was dating a banker, the relationship was less than a week old when she started mounting pressure on me, asking me what do I want from this relationship, where is it leading to etc etc. The first day I visited her (she was staying alone in a 2 bedroom apartment), she had a big piece of paper on her wall titled new year resolution with the objective to find a young handsome man to marry and have healthy kids with. I guess this resolution was her driving force for the year and she kept mounting pressure on me to make a committment. I tried explaining to her that we need to know how compatible we are before making future long term plans, but she was in a hurry. So I called off the relationship and we went our ways. A years later she tried coming back apologising that she was very childish back then, and now understood what I was trying to explain. It was already too late as I was into another relationship. I ran into her a few weeks ago she is still single but no longer searching aggresively.

The urge to get married for most of us especially ladies, is to start raising kids, women who have their 1st kid after 30 are considered as high risk mothers during pregnancy and are given additional attention. There is also a general believe that kids born to women under the age of 30 are stronger and more healthy. While most babes start thinking about marriage at the age of 25 and start panicking by 30, most men don't until they are around 30.

I think we all need to relax a bit on this marriage thing, make sure you find a partner who is a good friend, someone you like being with and gisting with, cause once the initial novelty of the marriage wears out, which happens within the first 2 years of marriage, it is the friendship that would sustain and strengthen the relationship, bear in mind that physical beauty is relative and fades with time.

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That's a good point CalabarMan. why is it that some people especially Nigerians feel like marriage is an obligation that has to be fulfilled?. They seems to be under pressure when they don't get married and have children like their mates. For example, my friend who is now 29 feels like marriage is his next step and there's nothing wrong with that but the problem is that he is more focused in getting married than finding the right companion. Do you identify this problem with me? Why does it have to be this way? Is it our culture? what is it? What is it that pushes our young men and women into something that could cause frustration and even early death?

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Marriage is not compulsory but there comes a time in everybody's life when you need to settle down and raise a family. Having children out of wedlock is totally unfair to the children, they need a stable environment to grow and become morally upright. Secondly as we grow older sex becomes less important to us, we need companionship, someone to gist with, this is where a spouse fits in. If you keep changing partners and never settle with one, you would end up being lonely during your old age when you need a companion most.

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how can someone even think marriage is compulsory, No way!!, its not.

so kazey what do u say about the monks,priests, etc ,are they comitting a crime..?

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For me I think marriage is not compulsory,

My reason is obivious, it's certain that it is not every person will get married the Bible has made it clear, that if one can't stay withstand the temptation of this world fine, u can remain single but if one can'nt withstand it, u should go ahead and get married, it's not by force as some my say.

So, I think the chioce is urs.

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Compulsory=must.

Marriage isn't a must!

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