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Is Marriage Not Boring?

Is marriage not boring?

Especially when you are married to the same person for life.

Is monogamy realistic? <<a different topic entirely>>

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If u are married 2 a person who doesnt share or respect ur views,dreams and ideas,then u are in 4 a long stiffling time in ur marriage.All dat kps u going is d 'good old days' when u r single.Bottom line is,marriage wont b boring if u actually TALK and LAUGH wt ur partner.

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could sy tell me if there s any difference between rights for woman n man after getting married as per nigerian law? do they have equal rights in a marriage ? the situation:nigerian-foreigner marriage, thanks

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I dont think boring is the word. Try words like hardwork and complicated.

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~It gets boring for couples who let the flame die in their marriages or dont make an effort to find ways to keep the flame burning! I've noticed some people have this Set Expectation that the flame will be kept alive by itself!!. . .What fire will survive burning w/o some sort of ignition? Every marriage needs an Emotional Refueling to keep the flames burning so even when it does rain as it does in any r/s there's still heat from that fire. . .

~Breakdown or deterioration  in communication is another factor!:Getting caught up in the cycle of life's challenges, Priorities are replaced. . .Emotional Energy are spent on "Survival" rather than spending time togther to have a laff or doing things that use to bring pleasure. . . when having that time takes a back seat,then its no surprise when the r/s settles on "Boring"!Then you open a whole can of worms!

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I'm married and believe me marriage can be boring esp after those butterflies inside die.

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could sy tell me if there s any difference between rights for woman n man after getting married as per nigerian law? do they have equal rights in a marriage ? the situation:nigerian-foreigner marriage, thanks

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How can marriage be boring?

It can never be boring with your lovely wife and beautiful kids.

You should be thinking of how to make your marriage work out perfectly,

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ANSWER; More often than none, it is for the sake of the kids. In Africa, it is also to avoid the stigma associated with a broken home.

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Hi there,

Marriage is not boring but it depends on the perspective from which u're looking at it.In actual fact, marriage is a way of life, hence it should be treated as such.Therefore, whether ur marriage or any marriage at all becomes boring depends on what the party players(.i.e.the couple) put into it.You d players have to commit urself to it and work it out to actually make it interesting and the secret is make ur relationship with ur partner dynamic and flexible.Just keep this in mind, that though great is the act of receiving but greater is the act of giving hence try giving ur all in that relationship and then it will become interesting.

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if you are married to your soulmate, marriage will always be new everyday.

but if we are incompatible, then marriage is one hell of a job.

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Marriage is wht u mk out of it,getting married is like gaining admission  into a new institution,if u wnt it to be lovely u can if u wnt it the other way its left for u.

There are always challenges in marriage just like schooling,so if one is not prepared for these challenges when they come, one might be quick to say marriage is no fun.

Spice ur marriage wth varieties and u will never get bored.

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marriage is not boring at all cuz mine is not at all expect u make ur s boring then will it be boring but generally marriage is very fun

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navigate me to insomnia section now,please,i av never used it

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go?just click my username and add me

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nope,it's no shame but u & I only

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I dont know about boring but i know marriage is hard work. real hard work! Some days i just wake up and cry and ask myself what ive gotten myself into.

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Faith has always been a good suppressant until the bubble bursts.

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Orikinla,

From ur address i can see why you worry so much about boredom; cause Bonny Island is one very small and boring place. My question to you is this: Are you married? If your answer is yes then find out from your spouse and do this with the intention to work at it. However, should your answer be NO then I must assure you that marriage can be a lot of fun as well as very challenging too. If you are so fortunate to have kids, then the sky is the limit to your having "fun" Remember, the just shall live by his faith.

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it's as boring as you make it.

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As an artificial union of different human characters, marriage is bound to crack as soon as the these unrelated factors start competing against each other. People just hang on to this marriage contraption to gain societal acceptance, even as it bores their brains out.

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Marriage is an expression of love and respect and trust and faith in the future,

but the union of husband and wife is also an alliance against the challenges and tragedies of life,

a promise that "with me in your corner, you will never stand alone".

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Seun,

You are right.

That is why Nigeria is still a poor country with all our abundant natural resources.

Most of the Nigerian women prefer to have sex than discuss my next project.

In fact, most of them want to reap where they have not sowed. But in the midst of the debris, I have seen some precious stones. But yet, marigold is not gold.

I would rather be single than have a miserable marriage.

Most Nigerian couples mistake sex for romance.

Most Nigerian men marry for the sole purpose of procreation.

Breeding 140 million people and 85% of them are miserable poor folk.

The most popular TV programmes of Nigerian couples are the boring reality shows where people are selected to be locked up in a compund for over 90 days doing nothing more than day dreaming and at the end one person gets millions of naira and disappears.

But many of our geniuses are looking for funds to produce great things.

Gambling shows are all over our TV screens.

Get-rich-quick TV schemes and scams where TV viewers are told to vote by sending test messages at N30 to N50 per message and before you know it, millions of Nigerians have been made to part with millions of naira. And none of these contribute to our GDP or GNP.

Why?

Nigerian couples are bored and love distractions on TV or on the streets.

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@ Babeelove,em, i would like to talk to you,please check me up.WAITING

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I find most Nigerian women to be too boring, unambitious, and unimaginative. Marriage to them will be boring.

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nice!

I like 'your happiness is my happiness'

when you find someone who truly wants your happiness and vice versa,you are on the way to a fulfilling relationship.

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I am very exciting and that is why I am often surrounded by pretty and sexy younger women and older ones from my teens to date.

It is going to take the grace of God to enable me to remain married to only one woman.

If I can marry ten wives, then I won't be bored.

Personally, I prefer to be a lover and love any woman who needs your love.

I have seen a young woman whose husband bores her and she is suffering in silence.

She is a banker and the husband takes no interest in her profession, except the fat pay.

She cannot even discuss the current issues in her profession. And she also loves novels and her husband does not read any. So, she enjoys my company. But, people warned me to keep away.

I don't pamper women.

I love them.

I am a polyglot and versatile.

I helped one girlfriend in her research on diplomatic immunity, another one on computer science, another one on Literature and also the one in medical school.

I can also sing, dance, act, etc.

And love making to me is entertainment.

So, I can never be bored.

If I marry someone as exciting as I am, then I won't be bored.

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it isnt if you marry the right person which is so hard to get these days

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Well, life could as well be boring if you have to live the same life till you die

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I have been married for nearly two years and its not been boring so far, i hope it stays this way. Anyway my husband and I are very outgoing people and we always go out if not together, with friends.

we started off as very good friends for many years, and we get on so well. We do disagree but he respects me and i respect him. We are also very very open with each other and he is a fantastic listener

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marriage becomes boring when people marry only 4 money,beauty and some other things, but if u marry somebody you really love; you ll always find reason to keep loving that person

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why should marraige not be boring, imagne watching one channel, same volume, same setting, sometimes certainly the same conversations, for, oh my! FOREVER

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Marriage is an expression of love and respect and trust and faith in the future,

but the union of husband and wife is also an alliance against the challenges and tragedies of life,

a promise that with me in your corner, you will never stand alone.

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Handle it prayerfully before going into it.

By the grace of God, my marriage is going to be 11yrs this June and it's been lots of fun, though there were very few troublous times. Our kids, 2boys and 2girls have been so wonderful. Even bought a car for my wife last year to celebrate our 10yrs wedding anniversary.

Prayerfully, we make it work everyday. It's just like yesterday and we've got no regret.

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Mayb i shld introduce a dimension we r nt considering here.The genesis of dt institution.

It is an insitution packaged by a Big Spirit.It is God's design and w/out Him bin at d centre,It would def b BORING !

Invite HIM daily in2 ur Home. IT IS NOT BY POWER,NOT BY MIGHT

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Well let it be for those who are indeed thinking of it.

as for me I NO DO. Kapish.

Thinking of it alone gives me goose bumps. Can't imagine being with one person for better or worse, till death do us part. damnnnnnnnn  (it's so scary)

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Orikinla,

   you said something about women wanting to be pampered and you living with a girlfriend that bored you. You seem to be forgetting that you are at least 50% of your relationship and that you have as much power as your woman to make the relationship interesting, fulfilling and rewarding. Success in any relationship is not all about finding the right mate; it’s about being the right mate.

  If your relationship or marriage is boring, please check yourself, the problem may lie with you. I know marriage is not without it’s ups and downs, but we need to realize that marriage is not an entity with it’s own independent existence, WE make the marriage .If your marriage is boring, it’s either you are not with the right partner or better still, you are BORING as a person.

One more thing, if you want a loving wife and not a boring one, you have to learn how to pamper women.

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Frankly speaking, the issue of marraige is one that is of great importance. I personally have had series of relationships and come to understand that apart from marrying the one you like or the one that likes you, there a whole lot to it.

Its actually not boring but an institution for mature minds that have a common focus. Why I say this is because it entails a re-development of your interests, character(very important), spirituality and focus. Consider this experiment:

AIM: The aim of the experiment is to get an entirely new product

APPARATUS: Three glasses, one containing Coke, the other Fanta and the third empty.

PROCEEDURE: Half of the coke is poured into the empty glass and the other half thrown away, half of the fanta is poured into the third glass where the coke was poured into and the remaining fanta thrown away.

RESULT: An entirely new product is gotten which is neither coke nor fanta in colour, taste,look or name.

This is my view of marraige. Two parties coming together from diff backgrounds with different interest ready to do away with their experiences and excesses, ready to have a common focus.

The following questions arises: R u ready to explore positively and take correcetion when corrected? R u ready to have a common focus,if so be ready to come to a compromise on issues that are pertinent(finance,spirituality,investments,aims and goals,issues concering your relatives etc), R u ready to tell your partner the truth as you see it with love, patience and understanding?

These are very important issues for a marraige to be fruitfull and exciting BUT note, these are issues that must be trashed out even before marraige while you still dating so that you know if the person is the right one for you and if you can be the right person for your partner. We all need someone that fits our lives to correct, accomodate, tolerate, love and be fair to us for us to have a blissful marraige.

Theres a lot more to talk about but I choose to stop here. Take care all and have a gud life cos lifes good and we cant afford to make a mistake for just this 1 life we've got to live!!!!

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How many of you guys responding are actually married?

Marriage is not what you read in Mills and Boons, its a lot mopre complicated than that.

The first 2 years of marriage is very very turbulent, lots of quarells over little, irrelevant issue. The babe you thought was very docile and understanding grows wings overnight and becomes very opinionated. Things you used to do which she never complained about become big issues. It becomes a contest of will as each party tries to define some basic ground rules. Sex between the couples is very hot and intense at this stage, infact most times the parties use it to settle quarells.

If you survive to the 3rd year then the marriage starts growing you two understand each other at this stage, know what causes quarell and would have developed diplomatic approach to sensitive issues, learn to keep quiet and ignore certain issues, have mutual respect for each other. The friendship starts growing at this stage. If you are blessed with a kid you two would start planning or the future of the kid as she starts going to school. Sex becomes regulated, not as often as before. The kid helps to regulate this. Men may start having flings outside at this stage to fill in the missing gaps.

By the 5th year the marriage has settled down. Sex is now once a week. The 2nd and/or third kid is around. Madam is very busy with the kids all day and has very little energy for sex. She is probably not looking as hot as she used to, when you two met. afterall she has dropped 2/3 engine. You two communicate very well at this stage, you can second guess each others thoughts on certain issues, you both understand the corporate plan for the family and are probably working towards owning your own home. This is the stage during which the man may have a smallee outside just to spice up his sex life. The couples need to work very hard to jump start their sex life, spice things up with Victorian secrets, lunch time/weekend getaways, crazy stuff just to reinvent sex.

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can be boring,frustrating,sad but also happy, fufilling and exciting. a couple grow and adapt to each other in marriage.

nothing stays the same forever,

circumstances change people,(having kids,losing ones job or having a more demanding job,death in the family etc).

Coping with these changes can make or break you.

If you find yourself unhappy in a relationship.take a step back and figure out what may be going wrong.talk and listen to your partner.

still keep your friends and go out with them.

make time for yourself and your partner- go out together or even just watching a nollywood movie together late on a sunday night(kids finally in bed) and laughing together at some of the ridiculous story lines can work wonders.

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Boring marriage? That's not even as scary as when the whole drama starts and never seem to end.

Don't wish for any 'cause Heaven knows I WILL WALK OUT!!!*sighs*

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In marriage, you let your relationship mature further. You learn so much. From perseverance, assistance, guidance, to raising a family of your own. It should be viewed as a growth phase and maturation goes with it. More challenges come through and shows your mettle. It shouldn't be boring but more exciting. Frequent spicing of the relationship is necessary though by living like 'back in the days' when it was fun. Marriage is a consolidation of a mutual relationship btw 2 consenting adults. If things work well till the thought of marriage, it shouldn't go wrong, ever.

Even apparent boring times can turn out very great.

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Marriage can be very boring after a while.

Wat is d new thing u can discover from some1 u av lived wit for ova 5 years?

Its very difficult to keep a Relationship (bf/gf) for as long as 3year not to talk of spendin ur life wit one particular person, In dat case y dont we just keep eatin one type of food (carbonhydrates) all our lives (na kwashoko we dey play wit so o)

Now to be very honest,marriage can actually be very interesting dependin on the pple involved and i pray mine would be as INTERESTING

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As all other things, marriage has its ups and downs too. Boring? Maybe, sometimes. But why? Blame the people, not the institution of marriage! It's all up to you to make it work, to spice ur life, to get crazy from time to time, to remember the good days, to make every move diffrently so boredom will never fit in ur home. That's one of the reasons people have wisdom and sense. To be able to dicern good from bad and to know how to build up the right path.

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Marriage is not boring at all, it is the greatest fun in man life especially marring to the person you love with all your heart.

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There's nothing in life that's always just a bed of roses.

There are challenges in every sphere of life and it's up to the individuals to go through the challenges or let the challenges go through them.

Let's not use story lines written by writers as the guide for any marriage, neither should anyone try to use movie scripts cos they are very unrealistic. They only exist in the imagination of whoever wrote them.

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