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Is There A Need To Validate A Woman's Fertility By Impregnating Her B4 Marriage?

I really don't understand some of us Nigerians, some men will rather get a woman pregnant (and even wait and watch the pregnancy take form fully) before going ahead to pay a woman's dowry and on the other side some women will intentionally get pregnant to trap a man. These men are merely trying to outsmart God by playing Mr. Smart while the women are in a desperate rush to be married like others and be respected by our society.

   

Down in my village there are many unmarried ladies dragging their men into unplanned marriage. What's up with us? Are we as a society being too hard on ourselves? A man in this case might just be trying to avoid being mocked by the society if the woman he marries cannot have children while the ladies here are trying to be married and escape parental, siblings and societal pressure. Will you blame them much when it is our society that will still look down on them if they are of age and unmarried.

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wat if d pikin is imbe.e go funny.men cn b foolish...does d woman cook chldrn.dnt offend God.4 m car no testn,if u wan test go hospital do fertility test.ai resemble car or non living thng,cn u test a goat to knw if its swt b4 u buy it at d slaughter,we wl say it infrnt of evry1 at d marriage,trad nd whte.no pressure.if u or anybdy showt.dm go hear am

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Your number 1 is education and number 2 is Dayokanu.

Thats still fine by me

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don't let stilly fool you with her ducktales. you are boyfriend no.2

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^^Back down,

Na me get stillwater o. Thou shall not covet thy neighbours babe

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[color=#00688B]it does involve pre-marital sexx

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to each their own.

whats the big deal in it?

as soon as the two people involved are happy with it and have mutually agreed to have a baby before formal marriage, i see nothing wrong with it.

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[color=#990000][/color]AS LONG AS IT DOESN'T INVOLVE PREMARITAL SEX

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Which is a very mportant factor, Stillwater are you antisex?

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Almighty God i pray i don't tempt ur omnipotency by impregnating my wife b4

marriage in an attempt to ensure her fertility. The word of God said u can do

anything.

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Biblically speaking, its wrong to get a woman pregnant befor her wedding day just for the sake of testing her fertility and humanly speaking, i really do not blame the guys who indulge in that , especially with the hight of immorality displayed resulting in numerous abortions and destruction of wombs. it wouldnt be fair for a woman who knows that she cant bear children to conseal such fact and go ahead to  marrying the innocent unspecting guy. openness is required,as there is nothing beyond God.

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Is There A Need To Validate A Woman's Fertility By Impregnating Her B4 Marriage?

Dat would be putting God to the test, moving faster dan ur shadow.

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If yes, then the concept of ', for better for worse' should be scrapped.

It all depends on the man and purpose of 'that' marriage.

I dont think its necessary, if a man is serious enough to even consider the 'M' word with a lady, fertility shouldn't be an option. Men have fertility problems too,

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Can doctors tell a frigid woman or a one minute man?

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yes all that testing testing theory is crap.

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i dont think there should be any thing like testing it or need of validating a woman's fertility. too bad

well some culture allows that.

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It is your choice when you discover that your partner is infertile to adopt or not to, or to move on. It is natural that most men will move on or take a second wife if they discover that their wife is unproductive and vice-verse. So it is all about doing what you think is right for yourself and your main reason of getting married which must have been aware to both parties before the marriage. Marriage is not just about love. It does not really bother me if a woman is fertile or not because I would know what step to take if I ever find myself in such a situation.

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After testing the fertility, you should also test for the ability for the pregnancy to stay and not mis-carry. When you are not God, why bother with issues that are best left to God!

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All those tests wont tell you if the guy comes in 2 minutes or if the girl is frigid.

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So you now agree it's all about sex?

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We claim to be very religious, but we don't live by what we profess. Ethically, religious wise, it's immoral for a man and woman to test themselves let-alone pregnancy.

I think we should condemn this attitude by our men and women, especially parents that support their gals to bring pregnancy before dowry.

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for dose of u saying its dumb, rubbish. is it not beter to test than to marry 2 wife? our patience differs. if to u is rubbish to another na criteria. if u no no wetn to talk kp quiet. i dnt say its okay. "but ta lo fe fi ori ko" sm ladys don spoil body beyond and sm spoil and still ok. we shld just desist from immorality. God no dey fail. hanna conceived naa. for amd standn on the fence.

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The cost of DNA nor the technology in itself is not the issue here. If you are already thinking in that sense, then why marry someone you cannot trust? U thinking about going for a DNA implies lack of trust which I believe is one of the core necessities in a marriage. And sometimes, it is because of your insistence on children that pushes the wife into extra marital affairs.

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the part in bold makes no sense to me

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pple of God, things dey happen o, a lot of girls are empty, i mean there is no womb again. infact a babe behind my house has her womb removed 2 years back. it wont be fair for an innocent man to fall victim simply becos of love.

and who says a family is complete witout children, sweetheart, pls wake up there is no family without ur own children and dont even bring the issue of adoption in. becos blood na blood anytime. guys wise up a lot of ladies don commit tire and ladies do fertility test for men o cos some no fit impregnate woman. rili dere is no point wasting time

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u are so dumb and useless.what kind of useless question or statement is this.I know u r not a male that's why u are writing this rubbish here.If u can't give birth 4 ur boyfriend/husband then take watch ur post

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Well i knw that is life is dynamic and we do not av all the powers to make all things be the way we want it. validating a woman's fertility by impregnating her b4 marriage does not totally affirms that the fertility is not bound to change along the line during marriage and any thing can after wards happen. so all that matter is God. so leave all to God who knows best rather than subscribing to trial by error.

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But childbearing is VERY important for some people including Dayokanu

There is a technology in the world for the past 50 years called DNA testing. It doesnt cost much

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IMO, I do not blame those who believes their wife must be pregnant before marriage. I think it is just a mind set thing of our culture where we feel as mortal men we are smarter than God.

I know marriage is for companionship, sexual gratification and for child bearing thus, I wonder why so many people who have contributed believes marriage is solely for child bearing.

Therefore, I would suggest people should seat down and think very well and above all, marry for the right reasons. Some people because of their desperation to get their wife pregnant before marriage end up having bastards as children because the woman in a bid not to loose the man who for one reason which actually may not be a serious problems could get some other men impregnate them.

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Shine my eyes for what. Nobody marries to have babies. That is not what marriage is for. Anyway to each their own. Somehow people tend to end up with what they allow so why should I worry about someone elses decision. The fact is that any woman who married you when you make such a request is simply desperate. No real man wants to marry a desperate woman. Period

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^^ maybe you need to start the science classes here for me asap!!

is there a part of you that maybe can just comprehend without one having to spell stuff out in a verbose manner?etc.

and yes, in case you did not get the nuance, im saying THERE IS A NEED TO CONFIRM.

besides, since we are on the topic, as someone else had pointed out, maybe we should just forget about verifying HIV status, Blood group status

there are no guarantees i agree, but then how does being careless become a good idea.

bottom line is I will not trust any modern day nigerian girl that far!!! you have to understand that as the yoruba say :"ti a ba sunkun a maan riran" meaning even whilst we are crying, we see whats going on around us.

i dont see the problem, like i said, WOULD YOU NOT LIKE TO VERIFY IF YOUR BOYFRIEND CAN IMPREGNATE YOU B4 MARRIAGE?.

i was talking with some men recently, and they were laughing at a particular guy who was very promiscuos and was very loose health wise (doesnt use condoms), along the line someone asked the chap, so how many abortions have you facilitated? he answered none!!

to me, the guy was infertile simple!!!

or how does a man have unprotected sex with a string of women running into double figures and not impregnate one? and he will def get married to one poor girl later!!!

so it works both ways, SHINE YOUR EYES!!!

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You obviously read the question but did not understand it. Comprehension is the issue here obviously. Nobody asked if you want to marry an impotent man or an infertile woman. The question is IS THERE A NEED TO VALIDATE A WOMAN"S FERTILITY BY IMPREGNATING HER B4 MARRIAGE. The other thing is that you are obviously just assumed that a woman who cannot give birth had to have been promiscuous. Please what science classes did you take and what grade did you get in those classes. Just curious to know so that I don't judge you to harshly

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why are all u pple getting your knickers in a twist? it works both ways now.

as a woman do you want to get married to a man who cannot impregnate you?

so whats sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander!!!! unless of course as usual, there is a ulterior motive, or you are just plain scared the past may catch up. simples

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All ya that support better do it now, cause u'v already doubted God he wont give you want you want

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Why should there be a need to do this?

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me i know that it is God that gives children o but the way some of this girls do abortion ehn,one wonders. and even though men hardly show it, its tough being in a fruitless marriage.

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Playing God because you want to make sure you are marrying a fertile woman? Are you kidding me?

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I am an apostle of what would be would be sha.

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I know a family,the woman was very heavy during the wedding.She had miscarriage and several other miscarriages after that infact afta over 15 year of marriage.They still dont have a child.

I also know a lady who wanted to get married and was told she needs to validate her fertility.She took in,the man is nowhere to be found and she's a single mother with a 10year boy.

I have learnt in dis life dat wat may workout for some1 mite not work u.Dont play God with dis life.Only prayers n God's mercies will help one.

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yes if by marrying the woman you are only interested in having children. no if you want to marry as in MARRY, MARRIAGE, WEDDING etc. etc. like that sha

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Will all these women crying foul over a man's insistence on impregnating his significant other allow their own son to marry a barren woman, especially when they so desperately desire a grandchild? If you all will not allow your son to do the same, then why is it wrong for a man to insist on pregnancy as a condition precedent to marriage?

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Hmm, almost every woman that replied to this thread don't agree due to their selfishness, but none among them would ever agree any of their own marry an empty barren. Fact

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Well said and these wisdom would not dry up from where they came from.

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And also validate a man's fertility b4 saying yes to a marriage proposal.

psssssssssfffffffffffffffffffffff

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THAT MEANS WE ARE PLAYING GOD AND TELLING OURSELVES WE KNOW TOMORROW.

I DO NOT SUPPORT SUCH.

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No stories. I have a very close friend who thinks like this i.e The girl must get pregnant before I marry her. He met a babe, got her pregnant and they got married. The girl miscarried (fail 1). They tried again and gve birth to a girl and they seperated after only 1 year (fail 2). He hasnt seen his daughter for almost 3 years now. Getting a babe pregnant before marriage or trapping a man by getting pregnant guarantees nothing!

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Some people have suffered from men/women who lied about who they are. Marriage is a life-long thing and it can be traumatic to find out that the one you call your husband or wife cannot have children with you. Its terrible. However, the solution is not making the woman prove, by getting pregnant, her fertility.

The real issue here for me is trust. This is what the couples need before going into marriage. Telling the truth! Infertile couples can be divinely made fertile. I believe that.

From another angle, its a give and take for a particular group of people - the desperate women and the macho men. If you are not desperate as a woman, you will not accept a man's request that you get pregnant before marriage and vice versa. Infact, before the pregnancy comes is fornication, which is not acceptable in christianity.

We need to be truthful all the time. Its the truth that sets a person free - never a lie. Let's not sow seeds that will haunt us tomorrow. God bless.

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maybe that will put a stop to broken marriages which resulted from lack of babies.

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If it enters and gets her preggers then it has worked effectively.

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