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Kind of Husband or Wife You Aspire to Have?

What Kind of Spouse Do You Aspire To Have?

I'm sure everyone has, at one point or the other, thought about the kind of "home" they want to build.

would you like to share with us the kind of man/woman u want to work with in building that home!!! I aspire to build with:

A man i can tell "everything" to and still feel safe and secure.

A man i can play "hide and seek" and all sort of "children's games" with even as "adults" ( Of course as the building goes on )

Ok, that's just a tip of the iceberg, now tell us the kind of spouse u aspire to have. I think its actually fun to imagine this.

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a man dat ll b my BEST frend,very close 2 God,sensitive 2 my needs, n also play wit my kids lyk he used 2 do wen he was a boy.

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Man that's amazing, especially coming from a westerner. Naija girls would prefer 2 captains on a boat as if it would work.

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Are you saying naija men don't have such qualifications? Don't belittle your kinsmen now

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God-fearing, beautiful, intelligent, well endowed, respectful, loves sex . . .etc

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Well, I would like a man who is a natural leader. Someone that will be head of the family and does that with ease. A man that has goals and dreams that I could support him in. A man that is not afraid to support me in my dreams as well. Someone I can have a conversation with about anything, fool around, laugh and have fun with. A man that understands I love children and animals and like to help anything in need. One that will enable me to take care of him and lets me be crazy about him.

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Hard working and God fearing man.

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I need a woman like my mother. A woman that has my mother's qualities. May God help me to find such a woman.

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1,Practising Muslim (God-conscious): Preferably but not compulsorily somebody that uses hijab; but at least scarf.

2,Beautiful: I just like this quality, even though people always tell me I overemphasize it

3,Nice-charactered: This is very key

4,Good shape if u get what I mean

5,Intelligent: Must be intelligent.

6,Respectful: Respectful to me and my family. Mutual respect

7,Cool headed: Not overbearing, and at the same time not too fearful of me. Mutual respect

8,Presentable: Beauty will sort this out

9,Understanding - This is very key too

10,Romantic: No dulling o

PS: I like Hausa/Fulani gals, simply because most satisfy criteria 1, 2, 4, & 8 but I'm not too sure of others.

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My kind of man ,

Someone whois most importantly God fearing,amaze pamper, compliment , support,

humor , forgive,dream off, elevate, enervate, help , brag about , sacrifice , understand, respect , commit , wow and even kill for me

Not too much cos i am worth all that

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We always desire the best. It is normal but we often forget the cardinal rule; do to other what you what them to do to you. We think it is our spouse or friend that needs to be fixed not us. Hey! Wishful thinkers know that we reap what we sow, hence, if you what a good, lovely, God-fearing etc husband or wife starts by being a perfect friend or husband/wife. A nagging wife should not expect a caring husband neither should a drunk expect a humble wife. My advice is this ‘wish it but live it’

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Well, I got d man I aspired to have.

Tall dark & handsome Yoruba guy.

Educated to degree level.

Honest, reliable & man of integrity. Hardworking. Someone who wanted more in life.

After I married him, God blessed me even more, and made him a born again Christian.

He is nt perfect but I love him just d way he was created.

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God fearing, neat and joyful always

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We all want so much from our women/men. I pray to God to give me a friend as a wife. It' so good when you have a friend that will be there for you every inch of the way.

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Someone to constantly keep me on my toes someone who i can share a deep emotional and intellectual conversation with, if not i get bored really quick. I like someone who can challenge me intellectually and just also be there emotionally.

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Averagely handsome but very attractive

A guy that loves me for ME!

A guy i can be just myself with.

A nice honest guy with a huge sense of humor

Most of all, a very intelligent guy who knows what to say and when to say it.

AND SO SHALL IT BE

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A friend,Someone i Can Sleep with,with my eyes closed(someone i can trust),Someone i can confide in,Someone who has got good plans for the future,Someone who wants my progress in all i do.

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goodlooking

nice,respectful

cute

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Yeah ono, everyone knows u sure cnt get a 100% man, i'm aware of that too. Surely, it takes two to tango. When u live a REAL life, the REAL man would find you.

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Yeah, Domino, I like your 'requirements' or is it 'qualities'. But, have you given this statement of mine a thought?: Light and Darkness are often times, miles apart. They can never ever meet.

If you want a man who'd meet all your conditions for marriage, please make sure you have all the qualities that will make that man available and willing to take you as his wife, when he comes calling. And like the alias of one of my friends on this forum: It takes two to tango(2cantango)

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Ono, thanks 4 that piece of advice. I actually heard dat some years back at a youth programme n i've taken it upon maself 2 pray in that direction. Nevertheless, i've stil got sumthings i desire in a man: firstly he must b a spirit filled xtian, a man wu sees me as his wife 2 meet his deepest needs n not just a woman who'd give him 3 meals a day, clean clothes-a maid cud do that, a man who loves me enough 2 tell d truth at al tymes, who'd want me again and again, a man who'd literaly go 'crazy' if someone doesn't treat me right, I could go on and on

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Hmmm,

Very well said Ono. A good point on prayers! Even when we have not met him/her, its important to start praying now and not wait until a physical manifestation. We can settle it in the spirit first, hmmm, very well said. Thanks.

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I see many of you chaps/men/girls/women want the best of them all as your partner. It is all well and good.

But in the real world, people change. You might meet this angelic being and fall instantly for him/her. But be reminded that[b] your spouse will be what you want him/her to be after your marriage to him/her.[/b] So, you can meet this man/woman an angel, but you might turn him/her to a beast, or you improve on the angelic character in that person. Either way, you have the utmost responsibility of ensuring that you keep this spouse of yours from going astray.

The best thing to do now is to start praying for your spouse, where-ever he/she may be. It's very important to pray to God to lead you to the man/woman that will be the best to bring out all the Godly qualities in you. Not that man/woman that will turn you to a punch-bag!!

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men, dis is 4 real. any mistake for a wrong wife/husband at d alter is a disaster. So find d best of ur choice na oh. As in the very best of quality u need in ur life rib u found

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A God-fearing man who will love me for me,very romantic, funny,intelligent, gentle, doesn't easily take offence even when i annoy him,a visioneer, smart, one who believes in me even when i don't believe in myself, domestic, thoughtful, datz crazy bout me,a man i can tell anything and everything, whoz ready to listen to me all da time and won't ignore me,responsible and able to care for myself and d kidz. and very un-african. There are so many mo.Dis post no go reach me type all da qualities wen i want

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a typical african u are. wake up. no lady wants to be a slave in a mans house. not for anything. village gal or no.

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i've already got i would ever want and more in my boyfriend/2be husbee

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i wnt 2 av a husbeee who's goin2 be everytin adt i've eva dreamed of

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would you like to share it with us.

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would you like to share it with us.

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I hope to have a husband who is God fearing, understanding, tolerant, considerate and with whom I can be myself.

Someone I can call a friend, share things with and comfortably grow old with.

We all have various character flaws, so, in other to have a happy marriage, I believe that those involved should imbibe the virtues of tolerance, understanding, love and most especially, be willing to make compromises.

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I want to have an husband like my father to my mother. A man that we'll go thru life together (good times and bad). A soul mate, a part of my life i wouldn't be able to do without. The perfect match, made in heaven. These and more are my father's attribute which i would so much be grateful to God for if given the opportunity.

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I do think that the first part of corporatenija's post was a joke BUT if it wasnt.............This is the 21st f@cking century,he would need to genetically engineer the genes of whatever woman who would be ready to do all those things and still love him even if he was the richest man on earth!

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I want the kind of man that will do things WITH ME and not neccessarily FOR me.I think it would work forme that way.

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Goodlooking, Caring, Romantic, Kind, the list goes on and on...blah,blah,blah

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That is the summary of my first statement.

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Having someone to believe in you can make all the difference in the world, GP. Great quality to look for in someone.

Two more to add to my list:

Romantic and thoughtful

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A man that will love me till i die .......

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A God fearing man

A man who respects women, intelligent, funny (a must), humble, hard worker, a good communicator, patient, he must have a vision, respects his parents, an educator, loves children, open minded, and strong minded.

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Just a beautiful woman will I want for a wife. that's all.

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Hehe, who no wan open eyes or wisen up?

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A well presentable God fearing guy who believes without God he cannot achieve anything and not just a born again christian but also must be aspiring.

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If na you nko? You no go sharp-up? Who wants to remain a village girl forever?

" village girl " is a slang of old.

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Dablessed u have actually said d truth,d gal corporatenaija wants as awife has to be picked up from the Village.i have said it before,its not for fun,no offences,but its the fact!

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CorporateNaija, You no go get that kain person for where u dey o! I think you should call your pple for village make them post somebody for you or make you go "pick" for yaself. ( No offences meant at all - all for fun)

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layi thank u,at least someone is reasoning wiv me

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@CorporateNija

I'm a guy but got sum reservations here.

"My paying her brideprice means I call the shots always. "

U payin her brideprice only means u really want her. U didnt "buy" her o!

"I have no responsibilities in the kitchen"

Anything wrong in helping her out at times? Or even gettin her breakfast as a present on your weddin aniversary. She's your helper not your slave.

Men nowadays, have reasons for their actions..Not just what was handed down to them. Do what u know is right and unselfish and Life would be better for us all.

Got nothing against your post. its your kind of woman, but seems to me u want more of a slave than a partner as a wife. U wont enjoy her that way. Believe me.

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CorporateNija,I think the last sentence of my post was this:

wetin i want is plenty,i don't think i can ever find all of them in one man,but well i will keep praying and dreaming on and on

But i as u said i have to genetically engineer my man, that means he will be a robot because i am not God.

As for the wife u aspire to have idea of yours,u sound very commanding and strict i guess na only those gals from the Villa that can help u in that case.u pay her bride price doesnt mean u r buying her for good,u demand respet as the man of d house o but not as the God of the house,because your wife can't worship u,u r meant to build and work together as a team.

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Latoya, u would need to genetically engineer the genes of the man u want with all those attributes.

The kind of wife I look forward to having should amongst other things be able to cook me 3 sqare meals daily. She should have no problems understanding that I have no responsibilities in the kitchen. She must appreciate that I am lord of the house and my words are laws- my paying her brideprice means I call the shots always. Ofcourse her physical attributes must leave me constantly at attention. She should also be ready to provide enough male heirs to run the empire I intend to build. ....... laugh...... seriously tho, I would prefer a beautiful woman with her head properly screwed on and possess everything from a great sense of humour to class to intelligence to a caring dispositions etc. ... ahh lest I forget, she should also be able to cook up a mean meal of pounded yam and draw soup.

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