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Ladies: Can You Be A Housewife?

Dear Ladies,

You get married, start a family, and have a wonderful job.One day your husband tells you that He wants U to quit your Job,stay home and take care of the family and the house.

Will U agree to be a stay-at-home wife or dispute the idea??

Can Housewives be called "real women"??

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How can a woman with zero business skill be a housewife? This is one of the qualities of a successful housewife. Of what use is your degree if you have no business skill. The reason many people don't believe hosewives have the most difficult job in the world. The reason you all want to work for people and not thinking of owning one of those fortune businesses. Housewives are teachers, entrepreneurs, managers, accounts, just to name a few. Egg-head can't be housewife get it to skull.

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Y'all are still on this thread?

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There is nothing to do there if you truly believe a woman has zero business skills.

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This has excited my curiosity. So what can a housewife in this situation then do?

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I think this is one of the best post on this thread, you are not saying NO, nor saying YES, just laying down your conditions and i think those are fair conditions, especially in a case of Nigeria, where at the death of the husband, some dumb families of his could come and wack you and chase you out, and left you with nothing, so i blv and agreed that you need money of your own.

Very true, and also, have u ever imagine what cld happen when the man dies.

However, the arrogant thing can be put to check, the woman just have to use her womanic powers

That is very true

Well said

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@ Topic,

yes i can be a housewife if my job is making it hard to spend time with my kids AND if my husband is wealthy enough to pay me a competitive salary. he has to pay me something comparable to what i would earn if i were working because i wouldn't want to be asking him for money for my personal needs. my primary reason for wanting a career is financial stability, so if my husband can fulfill that need then i don't mind being a housewife.

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↑↑↑ my dear tell them,most of them complaining abt being housewives are not married so they dont get it,they have to be in that situation 2 understand wat sacrifice means.

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@ Poster, What are you smokin? A housewife is the realist of all women. They work harder and are paid only in love. Their job is the hardest and most important job that any woman can have. Housewives are teachers, accountants, cooks, maids, nurses, seamstresses, chaffeurs and a host of other things. She has to be brilliant and savvy with top-notch organizational skills. To top it all off, at the end of the day when she has worn all these different hats, she has to be appealing for and attentive to her husband. Now I know that there are some superwomen who can handle the household and have a outside job but there is always something lacking in one of those places.

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I thought i was the only one who noticed

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yes - we women should stop looking down on each other.

there is pride in being a housewife and there is pride in being a working wife/mother.

both of them are fullfilling and we all have the opportunity to choose which one we want to be. I have a very good professional job/career but once the kids start coming i have no qualms being a housewife - does it make me less of a women - NO. if my husband can provide for the family then what is wrong with me staying at home and keeping my house a home.

anyway each to their own - no one choice is perfect

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I am a housewife and it's very fulfilling. I have worked full time and part time as a Mom and have found that when you have young kids, being a full time mom is not a bad idea.

Sure my degree and other qualifications might be "gathering dust" but they don't define me and neither does going to work in an office everyday. I'm glad I am in a position to start my kids off to school in the morning, drop them off and pick them up, be there when they get back and be able to attend all their school activities. I had a working mother and I missed all of that growing up.

As a number of people have already said here, just a few short years ago, I was full of ambition and plotting my ascent up to the corporate ladder but I would not trade my present position for that. Kids grow up so fast and I think if you're able to, being there during those critical years is a gift the whole family will treasure.

I now live in Lagos, I look around my neighborhood and see housemaids taking kids biking because their parents are understandably too tired when they get back. Some kids don't go to bed till 10-11pm on school nights because they want to see Mom and Dad before they sleep and these kids wake up as early as 5.30am to get on the school bus in the morning. Sometimes, my kids and I go for a walk in the evening and I see my neighbors, Moms and Dads, arriving from work at 8pm or later as I'm making plans to put my kids to bed. I find that things are particularly harder in Lagos even if you're able to work and live on the island.

So, back to the topic, I can be and am a proud housewife.

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A house wife dont necessarily means, you are home doing nothing, you could be a doctor still and run your own clinic.

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After suffering in medical school, doing a 10 yr course. It does not make sense to me.

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True dat and that was why i said somewhere on the thread that it all depends on what the woman is home doing.

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Yeah I got the same vibe.

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Some of the dimwitted feminists posting here seem to be implying that a stay-at-home mom has lower feminine value/quality than one who goes out into the corporate world of work. If I was a housewife I would be very offended.

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Thats very ture. I am having a rethink. You never know.

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Interesting,i used 2 be like a lot of the single girls here,but after getting married n having kids all d degrees n qualifications could not sway me from staying home n taking care of my children, especially at this stage where their behaviours, attitudes n mental being is formed,there is no way i am putting them in any strangers hand, and wats the use of working in dis crazy place n all d money going 2 child care for 3 kids[believe me i tried n i didnt work]At least i have d degrees n qualification n some experience to dust off n work wen my children r at a good place,for now im a happy housewife.2 the single ladies never say never.

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I have long noticed a trend amongst young and single women and to be perfectly honest it is so self centered. . . . .This is understandable.

Make we see wetin go happen when una don finally marry and faced with real issues.

All this one una dey do na gra gra.

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Story , wait until you become a mother and your kids are lacking behind in every aspect of their lives cos their mother or parents do not give them her/their full attention,im sure you will be saying a diff thingy then

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if my kids and hubby are not getting the attention they need, then to hell with my job

All them single babies bla bla blaiing here, yea yea, dont we all say the same thingy, i give you a couple of years from now, you will be dancing to a different tune

What is the joy of my career without my family? what joy do i derive from going to work and knowing deep down in my heart, my family is lacking emotional attention

Yea yea we all know a career can never go, but i tell ya a career can stop, you wont be practicing medicine, engineering, e.t.c at the age of 95 on the wheel chair or with a terrible back pain, there is always a day of retirement, and when that retirement day comes, who do you fall back on  "

YOUR FAMILY"

A GOOD CAREER CAN GO, A GOOD CAREER CAN STOP, A GOOD CAREER CAN END, BUT A GOOD FAMILY, A HAPPY HOME , A HAPPY FAMILY, NEVER LEAVES UNTIL EACH AND EVERYONE OF THEM TAKE THEIR LAST BREATH

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even in Saudi Arabia I will work if it mean starting an internet based compnay or a home based business.

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I believe that a woman can be both, be a house wife and work at the same time. she doesn't have to work full time, she can work part time and also continue being a fit wife and mother. I think that spouse should talk about that before getting married, a man that wants his wife to stay home and not go to work is controlling unless the wife is ok with that. if the wife feels that she needs to work, doesn't necisserly mean because of money making, it can also be that she wants to be enganged and doing what she is good at, learning work skills or etc, a man should also take turn in house chores it is not just a women duties, it is both duties of spouses.

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If I had no choice but to be a housewife then I will settle for it.

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never!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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@ SeanT21: There are some countries where you may not be able to work. What if he's transfered to a place like Saudi Arabia? What I'm driving at is that we should never say "never". Some situations don't allow things to go our way. It's just important you have the proper mind set and make the best of every situation. It doesn't make you less of a woman.

There are other ways of making urself valuable rather than a paid employment. Does anyone have ideas on how u can make sense of your time and of yourself if you happen to be in this kind of situation?

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I will go with him and find myself a new Job.

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What if you find yourself in this position: Yourself and your husband have good jobs, you have two kids and being a full-time housewife has never been a consideration. Then your husband gets transfered to a country where you cannot work. His pay is good (like 4 times yours) and the company will be responsible for the kids' education. Would you stay back with the kids so you can keep your job or go with your husband?

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Erm . . I seriously and honestly do not think so. .

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im not enjoying my parents' money, busting my Bottom receiving lectures by 8:30 in the morning to be the most educated wife

ill be a working mom but by God, the best wife and working mom there ever was

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Nope! I love to interact and deal with hussling and bustling with people in the real world and believe me , he WON"t take that away from me. this have little to do with the money I may earn but is more like aquiring experiences that will help me grow as a person. if you have a problem with this, then you can't handle me!

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Good point. I had taken off some time after I had my child and i got so bored I started wanting another child, but when I went back to work, I lost that feeling for about 9 months or so. I'm trying for another child now, but I really can't picture at all wanting to go through 2 more pregnancies. But if I were still a SAHM, no problem. Not to mention I wouldn't have to worry about when to disclose the pregnancy or how that would affect my ability to learn new tasks, deal with stress,

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Your company should have given U a pregnancy break.Being pregnant calls for no hardwork and plenty of free time

I think they do it just to fill their time.

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It's probably because it's easier. Having carried my last pregnancy (morning sickness and all) in the middle of an intense SAP implementation, I have determined not to do it again unless I have a less tasking job, or I am working from home.

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Someone in this thread said that stay at home moms/housewives have way more children than women who work do. I've noticed that too. I'm starting to wonder if they do that to avoid going back to work.

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I can't be bursting my Bottom out in Uni right now. . .to end up as a housewife. . .just one thing that ain't gonna happen. . .and any man I marry would have to understand and accept this or move on!

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humm good observation

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The cover on the chair, thanx for reposting the definition.

May the cover never go bad jare.

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I cant be a housewife but a husband's wife lol

my husband will never allow his wife to stay and not doing anything

and as for me God forbid that i am a house wife

house wife!!! God forbid

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You are very right, there is a level that a family will reach that is not even worth it for the wife to be working, at such point, she will be working just for fun, to give back to the society and not to make end meet, and at such time, she can invest more time into her house and take care of her home.

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It's interesting. I currently work full time, and my job involves a lot of travelling. Before I had kids, I would have said NEVER to being a house wife (stay-at-home mum, whatever). But now that I have two kids, the only reason why I still have this job is because my husband and I have a lot of responsibilities. My dream would be to have a job that I can do from home - maybe write, or run my own business, so that I can spend more time with my children. I feel so responsible for them, and I want to 'train them up in the way of the Lord', and that takes time and attention. That's why I admire Michelle Obama so much - giving up a high paying job and just being a mum - and looking like she's have a great time doing it.

I guess all women can't be the same, so I don't expect that all women should share my sentiments. If I did stay at home, though, I would have to be doing a lot more than housework, because God gave me these brains for a reason, and it's not just to vacuum!

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I think dre's a difference btw working, making a career and earning money/making and income.

if we are talkin about financial independence, we should be looking at financial freedom i think dats all we need which are 2 diffrent isues.

if we talk of when d woman gets dumped or d husband dies, what appens when dre is a "downsize"

i believe dat housewives or women and husbands or househusbands should be financialy free.

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No human likes housework, just that it has to be done.

However, i think the relationship btw the man and the woman will determine how they get it done.

i think there is fun in sharing.

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doubt it too boring to solely stay at home fending for my family alone

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Unless I am generalizing 2 much but from many of the post I read most men seems to be in favor.

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It is a wonder that most of these men here wants their wife to be a housewife. I have my reasons why but let me not say!!

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