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Can u take it when a brother in law who is just visiting goes to your pot of soup to dish out soup without ur permission. not minding ur in d house. How will you feel? the floor is open for contributions,

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@whiteone, hope u understand English sha? Cos u r just replying O.P. Is ur reply in line with d poster's question? *smh*

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tomorrow when all the in laws start hating and fighting the wife everyone would have forgotten it statred with a spoonfull of stew

am not saying the wife is in the wrong. she is right.BUT its not worth the fight and hate that can come out of it.

in laws can be terrible and the husband ends up the poor guy in the middle

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I'm American and not raised to know Nigerian etiquette but if it happened to me I would just let it go because I want peace to reign in my home. Even if it was deliberate disrespect I would look the other way. I would not want to shame my husband and I would not want to add reasons for my husband's find fault with me. In laws are good at that already.

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tell her oh.

It is just food

I sure people like this will not mind, if it was their own broda

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its not wort the trouble that can come out of it if you make it an issue .

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did she ever say he just came in the door or he was there already for some hours/days.  she said visiting never said duration

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th problem is what? cause he served him self without disterbing you? so what if he washed the dishess later? would you have a cow then too?

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Depends on how close you guys are.

However, it is just a pot of soup and what is the big deal?

I guess u wont even want him to move past his line on the chair he is sitting.

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Eyaaaaa LOL. Bros was hungry. He meant no harm. It is obvious that that is how he had it growing up and your wife has a different idea of it. You need to have a talk with your hungry cousin.

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Is your cousion younger than you and your wife?

Did the cousin had your phone number and could he had calles you before comming or texting you wail cooking?

What do you mean you where on your way to church? Everybody were dressed up and ready to go?

Still he came to you house, he was a vistor and Jesus even tell so to welcome people and share wiht them our food and drink.

Is n t it? What happend when Jesus feed the 4, 000?

I, as a wife, will not be happy if i am back form church and my food was finished, but i have to ask myself, Why, How and does it is ready so bad?

You as the man of the house, did not deal well with this matter, you as the head of the familie should have told your cousion it was not nice what he did and he did not show respect for you family with taking or eating something with out asking and he should buy a new yam next time, when visiting. And you as the man of the family should calm you wife now and tell her did you do your own job, did you ask or why now she is so furious.

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@ debest1 (m) - Nigerian Chruch and traffic - be honest this might take up to 6 hours.

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Let me analyse it well people, My younger cousin came 4a visit 2my house. Him and my wife aint close at all. we all went to church including d visitor(cousin) but the latter came back b4 us. when we got home we saw him eating yam n stew which means he cooked d yam himself n dished out of my wife's pot of stew. my wife was so angry that he wanted to confront him but i asked her nt to that i will do dat myself which i did not. Back to the question ladies, how will your reactions b. it will help me address the issue well (very funny but i have to do this cos there some things we men neglects that really matters.)

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Cleaing or washing the cloths! is no reasons for me.

If you feed you baby under one - OK - far enough

If you are in the shower, OK - far enogh

If you are on the phone - say you call back and attend to your gast.

If you rash to work, OK - good one - no one will say something.

Greeting and offering  for food or refreshment goes and in hand for me.

My grandmother always asked anyboby who came to her house - How are you? How was your trip? How is your family and your buniness, what can I offer you? And she is still doing this now a days and granny is over 80.

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What reasons could the woman of the house have not to greet her visitors properly?

Where did this thing happend? Nigeria, USA or Europe?

Mostly a womann is not alone in the house, you can sent your kids to warm the food or you can sent somebody to buy food, if you do not have it ready, if it very bad you can offer tuna and bread, but not not offering something?!

Or does the brother eat with you to save his own money and does only take advantage of you? Than talk to your husband ASAP!

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Is it not the job of the ladies of the house to ask visitors with they would like to eat and to drink?

Is the brother junior or senior to you husband?

If it is a child or a teen than she or he must ask aunty naturally

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brother-in-law or not he should be showing respect to the woman by asking to be served. I know its just a pot of soup/stew and would probably not make a fuss over it but wont be happy either if this becomes a trend

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Nobody goes into my pot

If that happens i will just give him/her a strong warning and if he/she tries it again, they are out of my house

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its definitely weird for him to just straight into my kitchen and direct inside my pot of soup but it all depends on my re/ship with him.

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I know it is just pot of soup but maybe the soup was reserved for other purpose maybe mapped out to be eaten another day. The bother -in-law would have asked first to know if the woman is comfortable with it not everyone is sha but ignore him before little thing like this excalate to something else

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I think it depends. If she does not get along with the in law and he is doing it to be disrespectful then it is just wrong. Otherwise it is just a pot of soup. Also will they let her do it in their own home? Some families see this as a big deal so we should consider that. In some families it is almost like helping yourself to someones husband.

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it is a pot of soup, if you dont want anyone touching it, keep it in your room, or put a label on it. the poor man was just doing you a favour by not stressing you to come serve him, i am sure if he asks u to serve him, you will still complain.

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It's just a f*ing pot of soup.

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