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Ladies - What Kind Of Relationship Do You Have With Your Mom?

Mother and daughter relationships are complex because the daughter looks to her mother as a role model of what a woman is. As she grows up and sees other woman who live their lives differently, she chooses between imitating her mother or other significant influences in her life.

I have found that I am influenced by my mother in terms of politics because she is very politically outspoken. But in other areas, I've choose to seek other women for influential guidance, one reason being, my mother was an alcoholic and a bit abusive when I was growing up. She drank heavily at times and smoked cigarettes. She is really my grandmother and stepped in to raise me when I was abandoned by my biological mother. I do not have a high opinion of mothers, or fathers, So I read books to enhance my knowledge about life. I meet other women who I feel inspired by and I keep moving with life.

Even though my mother (grandmother) was abusive during my upbring, I still love her. She is currently sick with emphysema from smoking, but I am here taking care of her as best as I can. I have a strong relationship with God and I forgive my mother (grandmother) for her abuse and abandonment, but there are times that I feel resentful. What I have learned about some mothers is that they can be very self-destructive. I have found that they can also be jealous and envious of their daughters beauty, success and level-headedness.

Sometimes I don't really understand what mothers want from their daughters, especially once we hit adulthood. I am asking if my feelings towards mothers are mine and mine alone? I'm sure that my experience is different, but I wonder how is your relationship with your mother?

Do you feel loved? Respected as a woman? Seen as an individual and not an extention of her? Please share your thoughts.

~~Ebony Mermaid

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My mum, Shes a Sanguine/ Chol to the coro.

She could be fun, shes funny but then sometimes, many times she'd turn around and annoy you.lol

We arent so buddy like, because we are usually on opposite sides but she is understanding and thinks too much about us. lol

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great relationship.Couldn't ask for a better mommy

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Oh shes my rock.I love her so much.

We've had our ups and downs and silly fights

but i think we get along pretty well.

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@ topic: My mama is a caring one i ve loved her since i was a little girl, she returns that love by showing me her affections.

She always put smile on my face expeciallly now that she is old, each time i call her she wont stop been funny,.

She is the mother of mothers, God bless motherhood.

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She's like a best friend to me. I love her a whole lot.

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I've always had a cat n mouse relationship with my mum.

I always been closer to my dad n she was I bit jealous of that.

I'm married and out of the house but I still dislike her with a passion

and I know the feeling is mutual.

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As a child I had a very unhealthy relationship with my mom. I remember fear, anger and even hate. I had to pray and actually search my heart to finally start learning to see the love my mother had for all of us. I still think she made alot of wrong choices in her attitude to us but now that I am older I worry about her the way a mother worries about a child. I still say one of the best gifts God gave me was sparing my mother's life. If she had died when I was a child I would only have memories of a wicked person that only wanted to hurt me and hated me. You will feel much better if you start trying to forgive your mom and I can sense that you are trying. I have a wonderful relationship with my mom now and now that she is back home in Nigeria I miss her dearly

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lol @ Mr.C, this is for ladies. Moms and daughters lol. But I'm glad that you are enjoying your mother/son bond. Thanks for posting.

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Yeah, you are very blessed to have a mom like that. That's really cool.

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Rock solid and spot on relationship

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Exactly, I agree. I'm not a mother yet, so I can't look at things from a maternal standpoint. But I often wonder why SOME moms don't see that it's important for their daughters to be unique and to have their own thoughts about the world and their own experiences without mom's input. God bless mothers. ~~Ebony Mermaid

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