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Mother-inlaw Or Sister-inlaw Living With U, Who Is More Lethal?

hey people,

this is one issue that causes tension between husbands and wives. in this part of the world, it is usually custom to have ones extended family co- habiting with a married couple. the couple at times is left with little or no privacy. it could be from the lady's part or the man's part. hey, air your views.

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No sister in law can live with me. Mother in law only if we have no choice

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Hmmmmmmmmmmmm so many mentality bout mother-in-law

@Aisha2, Tnx 4 ur advise, uve spoken very well.

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My sisters, dont go into marraige with the Nigerian Film concept of an evil mother In lwa because you may miss your blessings. Remember you are a family now and even withing families you have issues, so just accord them the same respect you will accord your family, maybe because am from the north and even as a single girl though i could afford to live alone i had to live with family, I always lived with people and i wonder how it would have been for me if they had the kind of mentality i see here. I was raised by people who were not my biologicl parents but u will never know because they gave me everything and brought me up in the way and fear of the lord, I have so many sisters and brothers and cousins because of the extended nature of my family, if they had had this mentality i will not be who i am today. So i treated my mother and sister in law like family from day one, if you see us you will never know she is my Mother In law, because we are so close and really good friends. She has defended me severally even when we were dating, even when i was wrog she will still talk to her son on my behalf.

My sisters, your mother and sister in law can be your best assests in your marriage if you let them

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Before you even get married, you should be able to know the kind of in-laws you have, so i think whatever you get from them is what you wanted in the first place.

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I had both living with me and got on well with them. I just ignored their quirks and made myself happy.

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Depends on your relationship with them oh. Some In- Laws are God sent. I dont live with them but we spend a lot of time together, I hang out a lot with mother and sister in law. We are really close, my prayer for every woman is to have a mother in law like mine and to be really respectful and humble. My Mother In law can move mountains for me, her words of wisdom, prayers and daily encouragement i cant do without. My sister in law is just so special, am older but we re like sisters, she is my fashion muse, cos she is a designer. If you see me looking good, thank my Sister In law

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It all depends on their character. Good characters are always welcome.

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@bolex,@rolly@cheeke@thonias@kellygir@christy@iah@oracle.thank god ladies of my age n generation (20's) are now waking up.they are not going to take d rubbish mother n sis in laws gave 2 dia dota inlaws.unlike my momsi's set were mother inlaws come n dictate wot goes on in dia sons house,starting from just a weekend extending 2 months n things get outa control but ill love it if my moda inlaw can respect my privacy (myself n my husband) by not living with us 4 woteva reason.if i even have a baby i'll rather be com4table with a nany dan d moda inlaw thingy.at least nany will come n go.- ,except occasional visits sha.n we'll also have d tym,privacy n space 2 do our tin in d kitchen,sittingroom,corridor etc.as 4 cases of house getting burnt or accomodationissues i dont mind using my personal money 2 foot d bills 4 dia accomodation.i'll protect n defend my boundaries real good wen it comes 2 d inlaw thingy

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Well if you watch too many nollywood movies then yes you will not want your in-laws to stay with you.

But if you get to know and talk with your in-laws majority of the time you wil find them easy to get along with and they will respect your privacy as much as possible.

Afterall your bedroom is your own and if i had a child married i be happy if they are constantly at it at night .I want grandchild !

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Is it even right that they should live with you? Visiting from time to time to see the kids, son/brother, visiting for visiting sake and maybe to spend three days or a week at most is ideal by me. But to live? That's a recipe for disaster.

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I hate any -inlaw thingy- they had better stay away from me!

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Though its not really right for someone to become a mugu in this case but at the same time,one needs to be patient.I can only do all what u're saying if only my in - laws are too stubborn and wicked.Its not all in - laws that are bad so i wont say anything as i even pray i have a nice in - law when the time comes.

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they both suuuck.if they come live in my house then it's under my set of rules and regulations!!!whether they like it or like it not!!!!

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Well, since they are now homeless I will definately let them stay with me. But on my terms! They must all earn thier keep. If I have a house help, I'll let her go cause my sis-in-law will take over her duties. My mother -in-law of cause will have the job of a nanny(will save me money on daycare). Honestly, in-laws only take a mile when you let them. I let mine realise from the begining that I was no mumu and since they know my background and know that its not like am coming from the ghetto, the recognise and I on my own will always represent!

Dont get me wrong, I have never had any quarrel or problems with my in-laws. I stayed with my in-laws for over a year cause my husband was always travelling at one time. But throughout that time, I made them understand that noone can boss me around. My husband believes that as long as am not rude and disrespectful, I should carry go!

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hey, lets view it from this angle. what if b4 u got married, ur sister-inlaw was living with ur husband, u got married, had a baby.ur mother was indisposed,she couldnt make it 4 the "omugwo". ur mother in-law decides to come. she comes and stays 4 a month, 2, 3 ,4. and all this time ,u could never do any good in her eyes, her daughter on 1 side is giving u hassles. then news came that her house got razed and all her belongins gone save for what she came with.what do u suggest happen to her and her daughter? who is the lesser devil?

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where them dey when we never marry? them dem craze.

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Na me and my hussy alone o, i no want disturbance abeg.

One can't predict wats gonna happen d next min so i'd rather not allow any in - law moreover ds would have been settled by I & my hussy b4 marriage.

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yeah itz not advisable coz problems u never expected would arise

very serious problems

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I don't think I would love to stay with in-laws too. They should go and live where they were living before my husband and I got married.

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As im hoping and praying and sure that me and my husband will be financially blessed. No in-law is gon live with us. I'll get them their own place if they don't have one.

Where were they living before we got married? they should go and live there jare.

Seriously, i don't think i will be able to stand any in-law drama in my home.

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