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Must A Man Share The Same Bedroom With The Wife?

I keep wondering, I think she'll be taking in all the time if she sleeps beside me every nite. Lol. I'm afraid I'll get used to her too quickly. What are the pros and cons of sharing the same bedroom with your wife? Guys, would you do it?

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You ain't married, re you?

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Sharing the small room gives both of you privacy and it keeps the bond tight.

Please encourage it.

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Poster just make sure you guys live in a big enough house/apartment, i think its best to sleep in the same room, however sometimes one can snore so bad or they like to stay up later and play video games or do whatever, my boyfriend and I first moved together into a studio, which consists of just a bedroom a big kitchen and bathroom, it was hell, because when he comes home from work at 12am he wants to play video games to 3am and i have to be up for work at 530 am, 2 months later we moved to a 2 bedroom and its soo good, he comes home and i am in bed and he plays his game in the living room and even can fall asleep on the couch,

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You dont have to, what if your partner is a chronic snorer? or messsy and when your a neat freak? sleeping in different bedrooms wont really change he intimacy, what of couples whose kid sleeps in between them every night?

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I can only speak for myself, and yes, I couldn't imagine not sharing a bedroom with my wife. Why would I want to get married, then we sleep in separate rooms, because "I like my privacy?" If that was the case, I wouldn't have gotten married.

I'd simply have co-habited.

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Don't know about you guys, but I would prefer to have a separate room of my own  in case I need to be left alone.

Though I'm not yet married, I'm already getting fed-up with having to sleep face-2-face with my fiancée every time we slept together. Sometimes I preferred backing her and not wanting all that nonsense.

I think having a separate bedroom is not a bad idea at all.

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Understanding matters, but for me i strongly agree with sharing the same room

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Does this imply that marriage dispels privacy?

-I love late night study but she hates being disturbed at night; must i go to the study all the time 'cos my wife wants to sleep?

-I'm a 'shallow sleeper' and gets disturbed by any slight movement but oh! She snores at night

-I light things being properly arrange but she's a bit care-free about stuffs

-I'm not a TV person as such but she has the time-schedule for all TV programmes on her finger-tips

-I love very cold atmosphere but she catches cold easily

-I listen to music before I sleep but she detests ‘noise’ at night

-I cannot sleep with the lights on but she likes bright lights at night

I could go on and on and on.

Who is meant to compromise on the dislikes? my wife? me?

I’d rather be in a separate room, please.

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Its good 4 couples 2 sleep in d same.it not only brings dem together but it also help 2 settle disputes.if a coupl hav a misunderstandin nd they sleep in diff rooms,they wil find it hard 2 settle their disputes but wen in d same they hav no choice than to settle

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What kinda space would you need after you have married.

if you need space and privacy, go out and chill and come back and sleep beside her . . . .privacy and marriage? i am sure you will soon line up on the other side in Las Vegas

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I'd have my bedroom while my wife would have hers when i get married.

If she chooses, she could sleep in my room every nite but i need my privacy as well.

Yes, she's my wife n i love her but common, we need to do what'll work for us irrespective of societal norms or tradition

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A must for every couple!!!

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Well said, it is like saying you have to leave out the manual of a car and you wanna fix the car.

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Well am sorry i cant leave GOD on this matter. Check it everywhere GOD instsituted marriage and for marriage to truly work its GOD! If the post said a man/woman share d same room i wld conquer wit u but d poster said man and wife d same way d bible puts it. I will say sorry again.

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Leave God out of anything and that thing seize to exist.

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Many, many things being said here, the most hilarious being the bible people quoting what God said as if they attended the same primary school. I think God should be left out of it, especially that fallacious hooey about being one and the head and neck claptrap. If you can share a room, fine. If, like me, you qualify that sharing, then it's all good. But leave God out of this one.

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it suprises me that a guy is asking this question o! if women ask dis one now guys wld say they have started their women liberation rally.

sha in response 2 topic, GOD said in marriage the man n woman are one. Can u sleep with your head in one room and your neck in the other room? That shld answer ur question.

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Does that mean that I'll be stripped of all rights to some privacy when I marry? I wonder o! Me thinks not.

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It is not compulsory but imho its better. If you have a big house you can have separate rooms for privacy when not sleeping and the nights you fight. but i think its better if the Husband and wife share the same room most of the time.

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No. Everytime I have slept with a woman, they all have this wicked way of waking one up at he dead of the night. . . . .all for no reason whatsoever!

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It can be a pain in the neck to share a bedroom ( imagine his clothes all over the floor or keeping you up cos of his snores) but then you learn love, patience, endurance, longsuffering etc., characters needed for a good marriage

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Bed sharing 'drains men's brains'

Image of a couple sleeping

Bed sharing disturbed sleep quality

Sharing a bed with someone could temporarily reduce your brain power - at least if you are a man - Austrian scientists suggest.

When men spend the night with a bed mate their sleep is disturbed, whether they make love or not, and this impairs their mental ability the next day.

The lack of sleep also increases a man's stress hormone levels.

According to the New Scientist study, women who share a bed fare better because they sleep more deeply.

Sleepless nights

Professor Gerhard Kloesch and colleagues at the University of Vienna studied eight unmarried, childless couples in their 20s.

Each couple was asked to spend 10 nights sleeping together and 10 apart while the scientists assessed their rest patterns with questionnaires and wrist activity monitors.

The next day the couples were asked to perform simple cognitive tests and had their stress hormone levels checked.

Sharing the bed space with someone who is making noises and who you have to fight with for the duvet is not sensible

Professor Neil Stanley, a sleep expert at the University of Surrey

Although the men reported they had slept better with a partner, they fared worse in the tests, with their results suggesting they actually had more disturbed sleep.

Both sexes had a more disturbed night's sleep when they shared their bed, Professor Kloesch told a meeting of the Forum of European Neuroscience.

But women apparently managed to sleep more deeply when they did eventually drop off, since they claimed to be more refreshed than their sleep time suggested.

Their stress hormone levels and mental scores did not suffer to the same extent as the men.

But the women still reported that they had the best sleep when they were alone in bed.

Bed sharing also affected dream recall. Women remembered more after sleeping alone and men recalled best after sex.

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Dr Neil Stanley, a sleep expert at the University of Surrey, said: "It's not surprising that people are disturbed by sleeping together.

"Historically, we have never been meant to sleep in the same bed as each other. It is a bizarre thing to do.

"Sleep is the most selfish thing you can do and it's vital for good physical and mental health.

"Sharing the bed space with someone who is making noises and who you have to fight with for the duvet is not sensible.

"If you are happy sleeping together that's great, but if not there is no shame in separate beds."

He said there was a suggestion that women are pre-programmed to cope better with broken sleep.

"A lot of life events that women have disturb sleep - bringing up children, the menopause and even the menstrual cycle," he explained.

But Dr Stanley added people did get used to sharing a bed.

"If they have shared their bed with their partner for a long time they miss them and that will disturb sleep."

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/5197440.stm

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It all depends if the woman snores and nags all the time.

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Hello, Everyone. I'm new here and this one topic quickly caught my eye so I'll comment before I explore the rest of the site. My thought is, "What is so hard about it? As for me, whenever I get married, she'll have her own room. Her stuff and all the makings of female existence will be in that room. Anytme we desire closeness - as will be very often - my room is her room. But her shoes, her bags, her make-up and all those other things will remain in hers. And now, seriously speaking, I think the 21st century is loaded with wrong priorities. I haven't heard people vehemently arguing why the modern human being is more dim-witted, obese, given to suicidal habits, unfit, lazy, unwilling to use the brain even though we are erroneously called 'Homo Sapiens'. Thank you."

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YOU 2 must share the bed and share the bedroom.Don't you know that 2 have become one?

Go find out what true love really means,ok?

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As much as I like to have my own room or let me say my only sanctuary, that will have to be sacrificed in a union else why have a union? Man and wife should share the same room. You can have a private study or drawing room whatever, but 1 bedroom with your wife is best. Its biblical too.

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My wife will definitely have her own room where she can keep her plenty of stuffs - talk of cloths, big standing mirrors, bags of used and unused shoes, make ups, and all worth not the women folks will like to brandish around haplessly. But next to or adjoining her room will be mine own room where both of us will always sleep on the same bed all nite. I have seen that in many peaceful families and homes, It works really good that way!

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If u have poligamy in your brain, take dis useless topic off the line!!!

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guys, the day man pikin marry that day privacy is out from Ur mind cos both of u we do things as one,as for me i prefer her to have her room but in the night we both sleep in the same Bedroom,cos that is the holy time both u we have time gist about life and others things in general.

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you are right man,

for some its an excuse for them so that they can go and sleep in the maids room lol

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i'll alwayz sleep in the same bedroom with my wife, since we're married together, i don't see anything wrong with dat.

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it's a must we share same bedroom

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Since av known my mom & dad, they ve been sharing the same room and even eat from the same plate. We always have extra rooms in our houses, but no the would never seperate rooms.

When i hear a question like this from people it always sound strange to me. Thats is the normal thing married couple are expected to do.

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Oh! funny question.

Do you expect your wife to have a separate room?

Then why did you get married in the first place if you can't share a room with your wife?

In my own view, it unites the family 'cos that is the best time to plan for the family: to talk about your children, yourself, share your problems together, way forward for the family in general.

Even, if you both quarrel during the day (of course it happens), it's when both of you are on the same bed to sleep it is best settled.

Try to adapt to it for the best in your family.

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Its nice if dey maintain separate rooms if they can afford it. Though that doesnt mean dey arent gonna b sleeping 2gda,NO. The man could have his things in his own room and the wife in her own separate room. But at night dey sleep 2gda. Just like my Dad and Mom. LOL

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Yes it is compulsory unless one of them is seriously sick and cannot share a bed.

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And what is your reason why they should sleep apart? I think that is even when they need to further strengthen the bond because their children have all grown up thus there will be a shift of attention from their kids to themselves

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well at the early stage of the marriage is good they always sleep together its strengthens the bond, and increases the fondness for each other, but at their old age they  might want to sleep apart sometimes

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I suggest they sleep in separate rooms during weekdays and sleep in the same room on weekends. That way, they have their space during the week and, hopefully, anticipate spending the weekend together in the same room, which probably mimics their pre-marital sleeping conditions.

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No you don't have to share the same room.

Make it a rule though to sleep together every night.

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No share the same room.make she sleep for kitchen.lol. . .dont get scared of gettin too attached.get attached!

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Good but not compulsory

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Practising same room scenario now and I thought I will need a separate room when next we expand our base but was I wrong. Moving around here and there often, compelling me to seek my bed and my wiffy by my side every time.

Be careful what u wish for until u actually arrived at the scene.

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A man and his wife needs to sleep in the same room. QED

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During d early stages of marriage, YES.

As time goes on, it wears out & they c d need 2 sleep separately.

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