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My Dad Has An Affair With Another Woman. What Should I Do?

hi all!

This is issue is very difficult for me to handle so i need your help and advice.

About a month ago I found out that my dad had an affair with another woman.My dad happens to be a very humble and hardworking man from outside but now i know that I should not judge a book by its cover.

My mum realy loves him but does not know about this case.If my mum finds out,she will seek divorce and i dont want to be a child from a broken home and the disgrace will be too much if any of our family members get to know about this.I know my mum is very emotional and she can breakdown if she knows what is happenig around her.

I also dont want my dad to keep on cheating on my mum.I have told my dad that i know what is happening but he keeps on denying it,i also checked his mail box and saw many of his messages he sent to that woman and he told me not to tell my mum anything about it not even a word.Pls i am still very young and i dont want my mum to die.the woman he is dating is married with two kids.

Should I threating the woman or tell my mum or keep it to myself.

pls help me.

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I understand that you may feel at this moment, because it is two expensive person for you. In your place I would have never told my mom and dad tried to talk to again. Maybe it's just a passing fancy, and in fact he sincerely loves you and mom. And your story mom that dad is cheating on her, can destroy a family. Why do you need? I believe that this is the case of adults, they will understand and intervene is not necessary. But see itself, you choose what to do, how to be. The world is full of injustice, lies, and over it, have patience, because sooner or later all will be revealed, and Mom knows everything.

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hmm, I had a similar experience as a kid and I told my mum.

You know what?

My dad convinced her I was lying and she ended up being really mad at me.

At the end of the day I could not stand up to my dad.

Needless to say i got some real harsh treatment after that.

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Pray fervently for God's intervention nd discuss it with your Pastor if and only if he is trust worthy

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The best thing is if his mother is still alive go and report him to his mother.

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babe, that is one helluva a decision to make -believe me i know how it feels been there---------------------keeping it to ya self your mum may be rill sad when she finds out------at the same time tellin her may results to some things don't know what to say the thing is entirely in your hands

p.s u could tell your dad tho and tell him how u feel---------thats if you're close to your dad

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i was talkin bout wat spade said

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[b]OH MY GOD!!

I HAPPEN TO BE SUFFERING A SERIOUS CASE OF ITCHY BALLS!!!!!![/b]

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Assasinate the other Woman!!!

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Just behave like nothing is going on

and don't forget to pray

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don't talk to ur dad either cos when ur mum start showin some signs u know he gon think u told her already

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i dont think its right to tell ur mum cos u will really break her heart.just talk things over with ur dad and am sure he will look for a permanent solution.

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Me i would carry cutlass and head up for the womans house.

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why do we dodge reality and pretend as if all is well. I think you should let it blow because your mum is only having a temporary joy in her heart because your dada does not really love her anylonger. it may sound harsh, i wish you can ask him if he still loves your mum and see what his reply will be and you can see the felings on his face.

          If what you are saying is a true event that means your dad is bleeping a married woman and he might get killed in the process or stabbed. If you have an older brother you can tell him and take the issue serious with your dada because babygirl your dad is only passing his time with your mum

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please dont tell your mum,it will do more harm dan good,i suggest you talk to someone who is close to ur dad and can get him to listen, u can also talk to him yourself once in awhile.but most of all PRAY about it,God is still GOD and i knw he answers prayers, dnt call or try doing anything silly to the other woman,it might only infuriate ur dad more then make things worse, dats wen ull hear him telling your mum that see the kind of child she as raised, u get? just chill shey u hear,,things will work out just fine,,but in the meantime get sumone who can tuk to him, God bless,

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thanx gurl and u too iice

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ohh gurl, wish u luck in finding the right guy, no worries, the right guy would come, lets just keep our fingers crossed hoping for the best,

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yeah gurl i'm tryna go with it but u know i just can't get that shiit of my mind tho he is changin gurl i know it ain't Nigerian men alot thats y all men disgust me and i'm still waiting to be proved wrong thats y anyman i'm gon date he's got to try is best to prove himself and even if he does i don't think i can trust him

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yeah gurl we are aiite now u know he kinda coming back to his senses and moreover he can't do that up here that is y i said in one thread like that about women who stays in abusive relationship hopin the man will change he will change alrite but u would av gon thro alot and i've learned from this ain't about to let it happen to me so i just can't stay it is ridiculous the way Nigerian men handle their wife like they are nothing i was talkin to this boy on d phone one day and he told me women are worthless see what i'm saying so i just can't stay in it.

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gurl especially Nigerian Men they disgust me i don't know y i hate em so much but when i see them i see them as d same cheating. lieing, good for nothing human. I'm still waiting to be proven wrong about them but i've not seen who. Gurl u know that even when my mum told my Dad she found out this this and that she even got her Bottom whooped 4 dat do u know how that feels to see ur mum everyday crying over somthing like that u know wat thinking about it is making me get mad so u know wat imma just stop b4 i loose it

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Bhola said it all, you're stuck in the middle but i guess what we all saying is that do not tell your mother. And talk more to your dad, poke his conscience hopefully he will see the that what he is doing is affecting you badly.

@kiki, now i get why u distrust men, stay cool girl

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gurl i can feel u on this cos i been thro it before and even when my mum got to know about it she couldn't do nothing about it cos we was in Nigeria then well i ain't about to go deep in my story but gurl don't tell ur mum i told my mum about it and till today my dad hates me tho he tries to act like he likes me but i can see it that he don't and it was all because of that gurl all i got to say is let ur mum find out on her own and when she ax u say u never knew cos it might turn out to be , u know what it is just sad and thats d reason y i hate men and can never trust them gurl no matter how a man tells me he loves me i can never trust him well like i said i ain't about to go deep in my story but if u want to know wat happend gurl u can im me wen i'm on my messenger or somthing but i already told u d solution don't tell ur mum cos later on its gon be ur fault

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Tell your dad you'd like to leave home, tell him you need a car, tell him things he wouldn't like to hear.

that would shake him back to life.

Whatever will be will be, the problem with we africans is we try to endure until there is no flesh to cover the bone.

This same man will come home, to transfer HIV to his innocent wife, or impregnate another woman and have kids outside the marriage which implies "no more peace and sanity" in the house.

Sometimes it's good to keep quiet, but such men, maybe are the type who just can't stop. THe next time you check, it could be another email address, or your neighbours wife.

Let him feel bad, and let him know you hate him for that, but please don't tell your mum.

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Don't tell your mum if you really love her.

Continue talking to your dad. Do things together as a happy family, that way he has less free time and is reminded of what

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When they said "ignorance is bliss", they meant it for this particular situation that you find yourself. , and you had to go snooping. Now see what quandary you have put yourself in with all the information you have gathered?

Now there is no way all this will end without your feeling a degree of guilt.

I don't pity you. Bear your own freaking cross. Go tell ya mama what ya papa has been up to. Become the evil child.

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Your story is really sad. It would have been good, if you did not know, but now you know.

"To him/her that knows what is good and does not do it, to him/her it is counted as a sin."

Now, what to do? I really wish we can get a counsellor or therapist here. I wonder how old you are.

What to do? Telling your mum is not an option. Not telling your mum is not an option either. You have told your dad to stop seeing the woman. I guess that is about the best you can do. And to think the woman is married likewise, and with kids. Mehn, what has this life turn into?

Just take it easy. I know it will be difficult to not read your dad's email. You can suggest that he changes his password, that way you will not be tempted to read his mail. There might be things going on, that you don't know about. I suggest that you talk to your dad and ask him what kind of lesson he is teaching you by what he is doing. Poke his conscience. Maybe he will come to his senses.

I really do feel bad, but I can not understand how you feel. Hopefully, this will be resolved amicably soon.

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Stop spying on your father he is not your husband.

And start doing as if you do not know.

If your mum finds out you know about it she may be very sad about that.

They say telling lies is no good but sometimes its very necessary.

Like you say you are young so poke your nose in your own biz.

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