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Separated Or Shared Bed-room?

The issue of couples having separated or shared bedrooms emanated from a raging debate on whether married couples still deserve their privacy or not. Which would help foster the growth of a marriage?

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For me I would place my weight much behind shared bedroom.

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Shared bedroom all d way!

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^^^wear an ear muff to bed.

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We were sharing till my husband's started snoring so much, i couldnt get much sleep. In the absence of a guest room, One of now sleeps voluntarily in the children room most night as it was affecting my health

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i thought we promised that our two shall become one in marriage so shared bedroom it would always be for me.

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Anothe lesson is learnt.

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Shared room with 5 wives.lol.

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But, what of me that plans to marry like 5, should I still stay in the same room with all of them? You see why I love seperate rooms.

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Shared! Am a loner and will like to stay so for now. The wifey will have to know when to invite me to come and 'sleep'

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Why should i share bedroom, tell me how will gain full access to that thing i prostrated and paid for. You mean i should go knocking anytime I'm in the mood, ? capital NO

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Separated bedroom might have work for some but the fact remains that shared bedroom is the key to a possible lasting marriage.

Rare to see shared bedroom couples living like stranges but more common with the separated bedroom couples.

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no division in marriage!

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Abeg sleep next to me jare, so if e get how i take roll for bed touch ur body, we go continue wia we stop!

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I assume this is in response to my previous post?

To expatiate, I was thinking about my personal situation - a large walk in closet for endless storage of those things women and men tend to accumulate in their wardrobe and a sitting area so I can use  a reading lamp without disturbing my "put the light off" hubby come bedtime

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here is a better solution:

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I know some women can't stand a snoring husband. . .

And that's why some of them insist on having seperate bedrooms, it's justified unlike some women though.

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That is learning to live with what you promise to live with.

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Enjoy sleeping in the same room for 8 yrs now and even with his snoring and my inability to fall asleep easily,I won't have it any other way.

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Shared Bed-room for me,shey na wen body dey du me tirin tirin i go come go dey knock her door say i want du yori yori?

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I can't stand separate bedrooms in the marital home. Why would I get married,share the day-to-day running of the home with my wife, yet sleep in separate bedrooms at night? For those that mention needing "space when baby cries", don't you guys realise that the bringing up, and caring for children is a joint responsibility?

If guys don't feel like coping with a crying baby at night, then that's where problems start. When these children grow older, the shirking of responsibilities will continue. It seldom improves, in most cases it gets worse. Start how you mean to continue, at least, that's how I see it.

Separate bedrooms doesn't foster bonding or unity - if you and your husband / wife rowed during the day, you'll most likely go to your separate bedrooms at night, and the next morning, the problems of the day before will still be there, unresolved.

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I thought they said marriage makes 2 become 1?

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Thank you jare.

For me, it's shared bedroom all the way!

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IF there is a master's bedroom, who is the slave - the wife and kids? what kind of marriage is that which makes the woman to beg for consortium, and,

every time she needs something,or he wants something that is the only time she gets to enter the room or maybe unless if she wants to clean the room. that is a slave and not a wife - a house help, a sexual object.

i hate master's bedroom unless the wife is part of it. if you are married, then you are married, living in the same room and not cohabiting in the same house.

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wow, i dey single oh. make we run thins na!

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All this time sleeping alone when he comes I will make sure that there's only one bedroom in the house with a single bed in it. Enough of these double, queen/king size beds they create distance in th emiddle of the night. I feel sorry for him already because there's no letting go.

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Shared bedroom is ideal but that doesn't stop you from having a study room(with a bed) where each of you can go occasionally 4 quality decisions and planning.

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I think it all depends on what works best for u.

Personally, i can't stand seperate rooms.

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guys i dont see why you should marry when you stilll want to keep seperate room from your spouse. as for me i dont like to keep seperate room  because i want to sleep in my man arms always and next to him every night - and if my husband should start seperate rooms stuff i will call the attention of our families to it. if he continues to separate room from me. then i will start seeing another man. well you can call me names i dont care. The bible says two should keep warm and God forgive me if my husband dont keep me warm i will find warmth elsewhere

Shallom

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separate bedrooms is ideal but she no go gree.

i move for separate beds.

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Why sleep on the couch when you can call and book a hotel on your phone.

If you sleep on the couch, How would you function at work with the neck aches

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seperate gbukwee nu onwe unu there.

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Shared bedroom, ideally a very large one with a big walk in closet and a sitting area.

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Seperate bedrooms in older couples might work out fine obviously there's the  grandkids that come to stay over and maybe want to sleep in grandma's room

But seperate rooms for a young couple? dont see how that would work if they are a "happy couple", i'd like to think my hubby and i will be sharing thesame bed and thesame room for the better part of our marriage as it aids the whole "making up process" after a row, coz at the end of the day i know my husband will still  come to bed and thats where we will finish our fight, and to be honest i havent seen a lot of happy couples sleeping in seperate rooms

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Strangers have no right to determined what is right or wrong for couples but strangers can learn from the very many success and failure tales of many Couples.

I guess that is the cruise of the thread.

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I'm so sick and tired of these people making it seem like a big deal.

Married couples should decide when it's right to sleep in seperate bedrooms and strangers are not in the right position to detect that.

That's the bottom line.

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But frankly living apart could make SOME couples grow apart.

You have learnt to live with her even though you feel like staying alone a times you have greatly gotten to the idea on shared bedroom and only once a while do you escape to the Living room.

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We stay in thesame room but I often run to seating room when am awake at mid night to avoid disturbance.

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I think shared bedroom does go a long way in making couples get very used to each other.

It makes battle line least lasting.

When i get married i would definitely be a shared bedroom promoter.

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once d bedroom is being shared den sometin is abt to happen or is aalready cooking

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there's nothing bad in sleeping in d same room with ur wifey, i mean it's a great way to build trust in ur marriage. but e no go happen when she born pikin ooooooooo.

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