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Should A Man Stay At Home And Look After The Kids?

If the wife is a high income earner , say a medical doctor or Investment banker. The husbands career path was never going to bring in that much money.

Should a man stay at home and look after the kids, if the wife's income is significantly higher and it makes sense for one parent to nurture the children.

Would you as the husband insist on your wife giving up her career, and staying at home, while you go out and win the bread?

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^ Lol I personally love her husband

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Nigeria men make una Learn frm Lynette Scavo's Hussy, LoL,

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Yes now which can question be that? He has to take care of his children whenever there is need for that.

Thats if he doesn't have a job to do. Not when he has something doing.

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That sounds cool, Nite Angel. Unfortunately I myself never heard of any Nigerian guy partaking in such.

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I'm created to inspire the world; my home will be the beginning. I have 2 friends who've done this. I was surprised to learn that one of them actually earned more than the wife but he wasn't as happy as the wife was at her job so he opted to take care of the children (in 9ja kids are small goats) who are in their teenage years. He doesn't sit at home waiting for his wife's pay check, he does (contact) jobs that makes his time more flexible. This has also given the wife an opportunity to reach the apex of her career. One thing that inspires me is that he has not in any way lost his place as the man. He has won the admiration of his children and love of his wife.

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I noticed that most of those that have contributed are based overseas.

Is it possible that the Nigeria-based women feel that their men would not even entertain the suggestion?

Pls Naija based men, would you accept to take on the role of House-husband if your wife is a higher income earner?

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Some men are the better mothers.

A woman like that can afford a day care but I think the kids are better off at home with the dad than in a Day care.

A woman with a very good job should not give it up.

A man may not iron well or clean well or even cook well but that is not what counts for children not at 8. and if they are much older and the state of the house is not good enough for them they can clean it up themselves.

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If they're "babies", it is better for a woman to stay around the babies (at least the child's first year of life)

Afterwards, either of the parents could do the job just fine! Some men are even better and more tolerant than some women. It makes much sense for both parents to nurture their kids when they can. If the woman earns more than the man and they both agree for the man to stay home, it's their own piece of cake. There's nothing wrong with that since a better income might mean a more comfortable life for a family. Both parents should nurture their kids whenever they have the time.

This I don't understand!

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when you understand who you are and your place in this world then you will understand what i am saying.

a woman is more sensitive, emotionally stranger, and can deal with a lot more stress then men, because of the role she plays in the home.

i am not saying a womans place is in the home.  I am saying a woman place is to raise her children with love,

tolerance and understanding.

You fail to see that an 8 yr old is still a child, and need different, more demanding care than of a baby.

sweetie do you have children.? from yr out burst i take it you are still young.

once a woman decides to have children , she decides to put her life on hold, until she has done her job. I.E teaching them to be good citizens and the morals of society, all this has to be done with love and understanding, with the help of their father ofcourse

it is attitude like this, why relationships run into problems, because we are to busy being in control by trying to move a way from the "woman's place"

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But if it makes sense for the wife's to be the breadwinner, perhaps due to her career choice,  wouldnt it be right for the man to find a way to nurture the kids at home, while the wife brings home the bacon?

Or is it too shameful for a man's dignity to cook dinner and have it on the table before the wife gets back from a hard days work at the office?

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kids not babies abi they feed 8 yr olds breastmilk on The Islands?

shame you're not Nigerian, Coco cos your "woman's place" trash would fit in with the sexist mentality of that nation.

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NO! it is impossible for a man to do that job, don't get me wrong they are needed, but when it comes to patience, understanding and empathy men just do not have these skill when dealing with children.

It is the womans place to raise the children, that is the reason they grow inside of her, and the fact that she can produce bosom milk.

That being said in todays society were we are all living away from family and child care can be quite expensive and life in general can be difficult i think the man  ( can watch the kids until the woman comes home) if it needs to be done.

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If you are Nigerian, or African then you would know that culturally, the man is the bread winner. If you are a Christian, Muslim or Jew, the you would accept that the man is supposed to be the head of the home. It is not just a symbolic title.

Hence when one makes that decision, more than a few eyes questions arise, hence the term 'should'.

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If he wants to

what is with "should" in all these thread titles? People dont follow ONE line of reasoning you know.

If he feels like being there more for the kids while the wife take on the work aspect, why not?

should, wetin be should

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