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Should A Working Couple Split The Bills?

in a family in which both spouses are working, should the bills be shared? and if so, in what format?

bills include nepa, petrol for the generator, DSTV, workers wages, food, household goods, etc

how should all these be paid for - should they make an equal 50/50 contribution? or should it be proportional to their salaries,  or should it be the husbands responsibility to pay  the bills because this is the man's 'traditional' role?

in my conversations with nigerian women, a lot of them seem to be of the opinion that paying the bills is the man's responsibility. while i can understand this in a single income earner household, i find it unfair that some consider it perfectly acceptable in a household where both are earning salaries. anyway, what do y'all think?

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Are you implying that being a housewife and taking care of little children doesn't come along with A SAY in the decision making?

And what happens if the man loses his job? Does he lose his say in the decision making? Assuming his wife has a job.

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"As d family head I head d family bill expenses, as I listen to her suggestions 4 d family she listens to d family bill" u got it.

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We share the bills, Helps us plan better and we see where our money goes. Also helps with savings.

Not 50-50 sha, we share the responsibilities, he takes some I take others, His share is a little more than mine

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when both are working bills be split. not necesarily 50:50 cos if one makes more than the other

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What if the man loses his job and the wife still has a good job with good salary? Should the bills still be shared 50:50?

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Hell 2 THE BIG NO, am not splitting the bills, why is it the man of the house then ?

It’s his duties to take care of the family, i will contribute little sometimes especially when he travels out of the state or country

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Women like you want the man to assume all of the financial responsibilities as head of the household, but would not

give him the respect and honor that comes along with it. You want to be "equals" in your relationship without pitching in

anything and you wonder why there is a high divorce rate all over the place.

The bottom line is this - If you as a woman want to be seen as an equal partner in your marriage; if you want to have a

say in decision making in your marriage, then you have to contribute to the marriage (financially).

If you want the man to assume 100% responsibility, then be well prepared to worship the ground he walks on. Period.

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@ topic,

I think the bills should be shared between both parties, not necessarily equally. Except a couple earns exactly the same, which is rare, the party who earns more should, in theory, take care of most of the bill. Another option is to have a joint account which both parties are to remit an agreed amount into monthly, and which should be controlled by who is more financially responsible. . .most times, this is the man, but increasingly, more women are taking charge.

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it's hard for women to claim equality if the man is supposed to have such leadership roles. tough economic times leads to dual income households. the gender roles of provider and nuturer are gradually being blured. if women are equal, then why can't they assume equal responsibility.

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If you want to be respected and be the man of the house, you need to take on the man's responsiblity. Your wife isn't your roommate. You can't call yourself a real man, if you expect the woman to take on your manhood responsibility of being a provider.

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The man is definity the head and as tradition rightly puts it he's also be the Bread Winner of the family. BUT I believe Bills shd be spilt. It may not be a spelt out agreement but it shd solely be based on understanding. The economy is too severe for just one person to foot all the bills, definitely not 50/50 but they shd split to reduce the burden on each other's shoulder________ that's why they are a COUPLE. One not two.

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You don't have to wait for the other before the bill is paid. Do it if you can do it.

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Why should the woman not share the bills. Why would I even refuse to. Tommorrow they will shout for equal opportunities yet you don't even want to pay your own bills.

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a good plan

It may be more convinient to do so but unnecessary as long as they know who's paying what.

Like jkpretty said,once the couple is of one mind with regards to this issue,there should be no problem.

The key is in having a plan from the giddy up.

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3 accounts.

his personal account

her personal account

Then the joint account for the important stuff like bills.

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That may not be necessary.

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Whoever earns more spends more. It would work perfectly only if the marriage has a strong foundation. They would personally know how to split the bills. But yes, the bills will have to fall more on the woman. And a responsible man will help in doing more work around the house and less of crossing legs & flipping channels.

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@ Nwando,

I am in total support of your stand, however my question is: If it is the woman who earns more, should the bills payment fall more on her side or the man?

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*yawns* Thank you.

Back to topic.

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It's okay to split the bills however 50-50 split is a titanic myth. The man should take care of the major bills. Most times the ultimate bill splitter is the earning power. It is often erroneously and hastily concluded in this parts of the world that taking care of the entire family need is the man's onus but that is not embedded in the man's DNA. Some men fool themselves with this misconception thinking it's love and a veritable means to be in control. This sort of control is as effective as chaining a dog with a chain made of bones.

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they should split the bills, house chores etc. marriage is a partnership.

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if u love ur partner, u'll help foot the bills esp if u r gainfully employed. this is d 21st century damn it.

like almond said, nothing is ever 50-50.

a man shd know it is his responsibility and a loving wife should know that she is supposed 2 help.

c'est fini

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it's actually sick for a woman to seek complete independence.

No wonder some girls here have plenty of miserable years ahead of them

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I dont think splitting it 50 - 50 is the tight thing to do.

I think if the wife can, then she can support her man with regards to bills etc.

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Hopefully you're not a Nigerian

Please dont ever marry a Nigerian. Go and find your type

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I will go with Nwando's point. Well articulated.

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i'm quite traditional so i tend to lean towards the idea that the man of the house paves the way in financial issues in a home (just for myself though, not generalising) I would rather my wife use her money to treat the kids & herself always, and me occasionally and attend to her business interests.

that said, it's only right that a working woman does her part in the financial setup of a home. afterall she was made to be a "helper" to the man.

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The guy can pay the mortgage and fees with the house.

I wouldn't mind doing the bills. Like electric, cable, etc.

I think it's best to have a joint account as well as seperate. I want MY money as well as OUR money.

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You Nigerians have a twisted view of marriage. It's quite disgusting.

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Should be based on one's income, with the higher wage earner assuming a larger percentage of the bills.

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If na me sha I no go split the bills na de man go pay for all de bills wetin I earn na my pocket money.

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Yes they should split the bills and ofcox have diff account individually even if they both have a joint account.

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@topic,i think it should be spilt btw both parties though not 50/50.Basically the MAN of the house pays more while the woman pays for the little meagre stuffs.

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Osisi you have spoken such sense. I too believe even in marriage seperate accounts are needed. Money causes so many problems its crazy. Some women are just plain greedy, waiting for a man to do everything. If you both work you both work out who pays what.

Marriage is a partnership you cant be a stay at home mum forever one day will come when a woman will have to work and help pay the God damn bills!

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should be split of course.

pick which ones each wanna pay and you do so. simple. Of course if the difference in salaries are quite high, one is gonna have to pay more than the other but it shold still be split in some way.

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