I am a portly woman (a big.thick woman). Whatever you want to call it (BBW).
My husband has always been attracted to me and thinks I am sexy, BUT, he is very opposite of me. he is very muscular and in-shape like an athlete. A very strong looking man.
The problem is- now that I am going to Nigeria for the first time he is pressuring me to lose weight- and is becoming angry with me for my lack of progress. he says we should both look healthy. Well- i am healthy- I'm just overweight.
His mom and dad already know i am big- they have visited here last year and saw me-- but now that we are going to Naija and will meet his brothers and sisters for the first time, Suddenly, my weight is of concern to him.
I don't think this is fair to me, he is now acting embarassed and impatient of my size- now that we are going to Naija.
If I eat anything (even breakfast) he gets angry and says "Aren't you trying to lose weight?"
EVERYDAY- he wants to know what exercise I have done, and gives me the silent treatment if i report that I had not exercised that day.
Our 4 children have their visas to go to Nigeria, but mysteriously, mine has not arrive yet.
Now I am thinking he is withholding my visa based on whether or not lose weight.
This is supposed to be a fun trip to finally see his homeland, but now it just seems like stress and pressure to put on a beauty show for him.
Any advice for how to deal with this--- and how important is MY size in Yoruba culture.