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Should Husbands be allowed into the Labour Room

A woman once said at a salon I went to do my hair that she prefers her husband to be by her bed side during delivery because seeing him, will give her the courage and strength needed at that moment.

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@ topic query: Yes, men should be allowed into the labour room.

I was with my wife when our daughter was born, wouldn't have had it any other way. It makes you appreciate your wife more, when you see what she goes through to give you beautiful children.

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1) no. it should be a personal choice. remember not everyone can stand the site of blood and childbirth isnt really a "pretty" site

2) not all women is and would comfortable with their husbands in the room regardless of what you might believe (a) their husbands might add to the unneeded distraction and distress (b) the woman might want personal privacy (no matter how ridiculous the word privacy here might sound)

idealistically, that is how it should be. i mean, staying how the many hours and days in labour, using your last strength, enduring 1-3degree tear, screaming the name of your lost ancestors, learning a new language on the spot and/or speaking latin and just to finally push that little cone-headed mini you out through that tiny carnal should do it as regardless to respecting, appreciating,little to no beating etc of the wife.

however, realistically if that was the case, we would have little domestic violent and more of those 'good' things you described but  . . . . . . . .

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Only, if the wife demands it.

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Tens of thouands galloping horses would not drag me there! I would be in a beer parlour shacking my big stout. Her mother will be in there with her.

If I go in there that will be the end of My libido ever!

I noticed the only time its right for a woman to insult another woman is when it a man's mother.

What brought mother into this biz now?

When you were eating the forbidden apple did we not warn you?

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it's not a bad idea, but if he's not in town, no quams

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Why? Are they not the one's were caused the issue.

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I have couple of questions for you:

1. Are men allowed into the Labour rooms

2. How does the ward looks like?

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I think I might laugh with some of the comments here. And please stop making Nigerian wards seem like Nazi camps. Women abroad don't give birth alone. Stop watching all these fake things on TV. Some women talk as if when they were having sex it was only the man who was having the fun. I heard that a man with a pregnant wife will have his patience tested to the limit. Having said that I see some women talking as if it is a rule or mandatory for a man to follow them into the labour room because they watch it on TV or hear about it from abroad. Ok, we should all also start marrying same sexes as ourselves since it's rampant 'away'. Anyway, there's nothing to worry me about that. If she thinks she must copy 'oyibo' and involve me in that labour room because I did it to her she should think twice. I no dey craze. No marry me again becos you no see me for inside dia.

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That is so wrong and needs to change.

So where is privacy?

i will have to ask my Mooma how it was when i was born, cos that means too many people saw me crying and my little willy too.

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The labour ward in a typical Nigerian hospital is like a room but may have upto 5 benches meaning 5 women could be at it per time. This is typical of teaching hospitals that have high patient traffic.

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Wait a minute, you mean when the woman is delivery a baby, she is not in one room herself to deliver the child?

You mean it is a jungle of women delivering at same time all together, and how would they know who to attend to and how would they not be able to switch babies?

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^^ They will tell you that other women are inside there and therefore men are not allowed!

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U mean they are not allowed into the Labor room, or that the men dont wanna be there?

i am asking cos i am not sure how it is, i wont expect them to stop the man from being there if he chose to

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If they know how to knock a woman up, then they should be there to give her that emotional support. It is only in Nigeria and many parts of Africa that men are not allowed into the labor room. If I was mistakenly married to someone from there, that will be the first and last child he will get from me. He can have his mother give birth to the rest of his seeds!

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It is a personal choice, but kinda more fun to be there

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Sorry folks that I'm on this forum again to debunk century 21 foolishness. My take: I've no business in the labour room. Anyone who wants to qualify it with one noble term has another think coming.

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The labour room is a place for serious business. What would I be doing there?

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u very right.

Thanx for the correction

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it should never be by force because lets face not everyone is comfortable or would be comfortable with the site of childbirth. some people are Hematophobia. the site of childbirth is not a pretty scene. also some women would definitely be very uncomfortable with their husbands seeing them in such position. and some would want their privacy. and some wouldnt want the pressure that would be on them if their husbands were to be there. not every woman would actually want the presence of husbands there.

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Yes, shd be by forc, u did it together and u shd at least be there to hold her hands for support

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why? what if we dont want to, is it by force?

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Husbands should be allowed into the labour room.

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Well guys pending on the type of your wife some if they see their husband in the labour room they cource them for cousing the pain she is/was going through

And you know a corce with pain or in agony must come to pass So better stay outside except on request But as for me i will be there

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allowed is the wrong word. i think encouraged is a better choice of word here. and yes the father of the child (husband or not) SHOULD be in the delivery room. some countries even allow men to deliver (after teh head and shouldres) his child and cut the cord. incredible bonding opertunity and think about it guys whose face do you want to be the first your child sees. yours or some dr?

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Yes . . . i am inside, dont ask me which.

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OK . , but cld be fun sometimes.

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Yes now, and while you screaming, he is shouting too.

that would be termed . . . .Kunbe and Mr Kunbe part One

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even a hunk cld collapse when he see a big head coming thru

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You mean u need someone to bite when the pain in unbearable.

What if he faint?

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Cos we make the baby together and we must be there together

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Yes they should be allowed in so they know how hard it is for the woman.

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back off, i know uncle chaircover, where is my shaka

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Nothing in the world can make me not to be there, except, if the child is stuborn and decided to come too early while i am out of town, and even with that, i am not sure, if i will be happy

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shey i don tell u no b4?

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^^^^

Would you like to be there?

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