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Should I Cheat On My Wife?

Quite recently i  have been having this very strong urge of flirting with another woman am married to a lovely woman very beautiful and attractive our sex life is still very active honestly i have no reason to but the urge keeps on getting stronger that i can't control it anymore now i find my self searching the one i have found so far looks like my wife i mean does it make sense but only that my wife is better looking but same body structure some one please say something that can make me change my mind because i have a bad feeling about this.

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my man is it worth it? are you willing to put your family and wife through this pain if they were to find out. You just want to betray your beautiful wife emotionally just because of good old sex? Why don't you turn those lusty feelings you have for the other woman towards your wife to see if it won't work?

Do you know that your relationship will never be the same if you do this? How would you feel it if it was the other way round?

Damn men like you really make me mad. Do you have any idea what men like you cost us( The good ones)? yeah you guessed right partners who struggle to trust us cause they think all men are the same. Clean out your act, its not worth it.

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to build a nation starts from the family,what do you expect from your son in future.

retribution will surely transpire.please don't stop go ahead.and gud luck

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@poster,

you need a therapist!

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I understand what you are going through. I went through the same thing. Sometimes we don't appreciate what we have. I have a very good marriage. But felt an urge to cheat on my wife with this nice, smart, girl at my workplace. I didn't go through with it and you know what, I sleep very well at night. You can control your mind and your body but is hard. Accept life and try to put your extra time in something productive instead of thinking about this girl that looks good. I think what happens is when you meet someone that you are trying to get with for the first time is like when you started the relationship at the beginning with your wife. The butterflies in the stomach and all that good stuff. It happens. Just remember you are a married man and you don't want to break your home. Is not easy. I understand where you are coming from. Stay tough and good luck. Look at your wedding BAND to remind you of what you have at home.

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Keep us informed now,have you cheated on your wife and what is the outcome,

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Go on and do it

Nothing wrong with it.

All you have to do after that isto carry the fattest bible you can find and go to church on sunday.

Do not forget to sing at the top of your voice so that eveyone will see what a good man you are.

@mamaput. damn, you nearly cracked my ribs at work. jeez, subtle threats worked wonders on d bobo's libido. my guy gentle by force.guy, u no wan Bleep again? dont be scared now.go on out and stop pallying up with mama-u scared?

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That is devil's mind to trick you feeling the urge being flirt someone else beside your beautiful wife.

You need Jesus to rebuke the evil spirit (temption, urge, flirting), stick with your wife to avoid the messy situation!!!

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u sound true to ur dreams

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u sound true to ur dreams

wats ur e mail add biola?

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you sure are bolad, .anyway,i still think fairy tales do come true

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u re in dreamland, I am the rightlover anyway

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I'm 23 and single.dated a guy before but didnt work out.good looking and get a lot of attention but dont see any to trip me.dont think i'm setting too high a standard and if i am i think its a terrible thing to stoop low because of a relationship.i do believe that when i see mr. right,it will be as obvious as been written on his forehead or am i wasting my time?is there any such thing as mr/miss right?someone let me know before i go too deep into dreamland.

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It should be very easy for you to cheat on her afterall you wouldnt be the first doing it neither will you be the last.its the reigning thing and only the bigger boys do it or dont you want to step up to highest of levels.Remember though,not all that glitter is gold.You're in for it, ha ha ha ha ha

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No why asking the question if u should cheat on ur wife.Just do it and the kingdom of satan shall be urs.

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You guys are not asking the fundamental questions that's making nightfall want to fall and commit sin (I actually wonder if he wants to do it at nightfall, no pun intended). Anyway, i think d question that should be asked is "where is the love"? Something has changed in their relationship and nightfall is running from addressing it with his wife. Maybe she's started adding weight, or he's getting way too much attention from the opposite sex or possibly that it was lust (not love) that made him choose to settle down with her and now that he has satisfied his lust, he's finding it difficult to stay commited since it's not a hit and run affair that he can break out of.

There's a whole world of difference when you start dating a woman and when she actually moves in with you, for life, and maybe it's that change that he's finding difficult to deal with. Also, she might have had a couple of skeletons in her closet that he didn't take notice of at the dating stage that's showing up now. Aslo, and more importantly, it could be that nightfall is still hanging out with single guys (maybe his colleagues at work) who have got nothing to lose by chasing and sleeping with different women and this has turned his gaze from his wife to others.

There is definitely a root cause and i believe we should give nightfall an opportunity to air himself and speak d truth from the depths of his heart. By so doing, we'll learn a thing or two about why marriages crumble even before divorce and see if we can proffer solutions before things fall apart because he's at his wits end. I do believe that the love is going or has gone cold and the fire should be rekindled, FAST!

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will anything we put down here make you not to cheat? obviously you're considering the matter seriously

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yes pls go on,

if u really wnted 2 do it u shlda not askin

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Coco29, please don't "sugar-coat" what you're trying to say! Let it out, girl!

In all seriousness, though, Coco29 is right. In fact, she probably didn't stress enough the nature of this absurd question. This man (and I use the term in only it's most basic sense) is asking for permission from a bunch of strangers online to eradicate the trust of his wife, compromise the validity of his marriage and violate the laws of his land about adultery.

Does anybody else see how ludicrous this is?

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maybe u shld and stop asking for opnions

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You mean you have not cheated on her yet? Slacker!

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i am expecting that we will be sharing ur experience of the cheating exploits by now.

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Should I cheat on my wife? Why Not!

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RUN MY FRIEND this is all i can tell you. PRAY AND RUN, its your only way out of this hell you are about to face PRAY PRAY PRAY AND RUN FAR

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he did it even b4 starting this thread.

he just needs permission to do it a second time.

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talk to your wıfe about ıt!

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my brother, please don't do it because you are going to regret it later. you see, we all have urges to do a nasty and terrible thing once in a while but the ability to pull through it without messing up is what makes a difference. for you to come out and talk about it, kudos to you.it shows you have a consience after all and that is uncommon in men when it comes to cheating. i pray God will give you the strenght to come out of this. pray to God to help you, spend more time with your wife, try something new with her, go for a vacation if possible(with her) and be strong because we all have temptations once in a while and i pray God will help you. Wish you the best! God be with you.

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I wonder why people are condemning this man. this is somebody that needs your help. and 80% of u guys are doing it. unfaithful to your wife without telling anybody. and this one is asking for ur advice now, u're blaming him. anyway, Mr man, i will advice u dont do it. How would you fell, if u should find ur wife in desame act. Pls dont do it, if there is anything this lady is doing that is making her to look difference to you. Tell ur wife to start doing those thing. Or maybe the lady is using juju on you. but if not with u focusing on God and ur family. u can overcome. But if u know u're a muslim and u can handle two wives, why not disscus with ur wife and ur family member, then ask for her hand in marriage. But mind u, dont be deceive. I want marital bliss for yoy. Dont do wat will tarnish ur image.

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Wow this topic is cool. Well Nightfall, as you said earlier you dont know why feel that way with her. I guess you are been tempted. It is now left for you to resist the temptation. You will surely gain nothing but regret after you go into that relationship.

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nightfall,

dawn never show? so who was in bed last night? your wife or she?

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How far nightfall?

Have u cheated on ur wife already?

You need to update us man. I wan hear gist.

I no get advice for u, by now u have heard enough to make up your mind.

To cheat or not to cheat? Both roads lead to happiness depending on which

part of your body is doing the thinkng.

Chooose quickly and update us gare.

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Nitefall

My advice to you is not to cheat on your wife. i know that men are doing it all the time but be an example of other. You do not use your own hands to destroy your own home cos that is the easiest way to destroy your loving home if all what you claim is true. Great sex life with your wife? What more do you need? Sexual Escapades? Arnold Schwarzenegger said the success of his career is as a result of great sex life with his wife and this is the same thing you have that you want to throw away. The bible says when the Devil want to tempt you just tell him no. a word is enough for the wise.

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i know the problem of the poster here, he wants to compare and contrast. i know despite all resposne here, he has done that by now so we are all waiting to get your observation.

please can we know what u find out in the new woman. tell us in details how she can be compared to ur wife.

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You can cheat on ur wife if u choose to, afterall no law in naija can hold u.  Also u really do not need anyone's opinion or advice on this issue, the saying 'out of the aboundance of the mind, the mouth speaketh' meaning that u already made up ur mind to do it.  So my dear brother u already committed adultery against ur wife by conceiving the idea in the first instance.                     As humanly as i can be, i hv no right to judge u, infact i give u kudos for giving it a second thot, most African men dont even see it as an issue they just do it and the poor wife will hv to bear the emotional brunt God help her if her husband gets carried away by the thrills he gets from the other woman.                        In all frankness, DNT Cheat on ur wife, you may get more than u bargain for. Lol

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HI Poster,

If i were you, i will print a hard copy of the responses from AK123 & Gospelman and read them every morning until it sinks  into your head. They have said it all. there is nothing more you need to know that the gospelman did not write.

even though i sympathise with you on this deceptive emotions that has befallen you( because it not uncommon, it could happen to anyman, even me. those that are cursing you are doing so because they knowlittle. It takes the grace of God to withstand emotional attacks built up by the devil himself), i want to let you know that it is not enough to read advices posted here, you have to take action too. otherwise all the advices you have read here will fly out of your brains the moment  you see or come in contact with  the yeye girl.

If you are seeking for help because you do not want to commit adultry, then i want to guaratee you that you have already done so. (lustful thoughts). But dont worry, God almighty is merciful.

But if you are looking for help because you love your wife and want to save your family from distruction, then you must do as gospelman has said.

In addition or if things dont come under control still,(worst case senario) you must tell your wife about it, in a systematic way so that she does not get heart broken. I am sure she will join you in effort to clease those lustful thoughts out of your confused brains.

i wish Pastor Bimbo Odukoya was still alife (May her soul rest in peace, Amen.), you would have gotten help with just a phonecall to  her.

Always remember that the devil has no other job than to look to & fro the earth for whom to steal, kill and/or distroy. Dont be a victim!!

Life is beautiful for you now, not because MTN said so, but because you are at peace with your loved ones, (especially your wife).

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You can cheat on ur wife if u choose to, afterall no law in naija can hold u.  Also u really do not need anyone's opinion or advice on this issue, the saying 'out of the aboundance of the mind, the mouth speaketh' meaning that u already made up ur mind to do it.  So my dear brother u already committed adultery against ur wife by conceiving the idea in the first instance.                     As humanly as i can be, i hv no right to judge u, infact i give u kudos for giving it a second thot, most African men dont even see it as an issue they just do it and the poor wife will hv to bear the emotional brunt God help her if her husband gets carried away by the thrills he gets from the other woman.                        In all frankness, DNT Cheat on ur wife, you may get more than u bargain for. Lol

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Do it n u will reck ur marriage. Man use ur brain not ur d, k

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what can i say. abeg carry go ! tear all them p***y apart jo

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If such is the case, Reverend, then is not the entire institution of marriage invalidated?

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If the woman is not providing the right care for her man then yes. This also applies for women in a bad relationship where the man does not treat her correctly or show the affection she needs.

Just Do It

Life is short :-)

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CHEAT! I guess no human on Earth is a machine and man is not programmed to be attracted to one lady

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Guys with opinions like the ones of most guys on this thread are the reason why I'm not considering nigerian boys for marriage. Where the ---- do they (the silly ones) get this ludicrous sexist ideas from? Where it isn't such a great deal for a guy to cheat but it is for a woman. Please tell me how you guys come about with these things, I'd really like to know.

And to the men of good standing on this board, my respect to you guys. Someday you will make a nice woman very happy and God will bless you for not conforming to such stupidity.

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@Reverend:

I trust, sir, that you are being facetious in suggesting that he "go for it." Surely, you would not advocate adultery, would you?

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one word bro!!!

DON'T!!!

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oh pls i don't know y u ppl r replyin dis attention seekin fool

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If you are sick of her and she does no longer respect you or show you the love you deserve, then go for it.

Find a woman who can supply your needs. This is the only way you are going to stay sane.

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@honorable nairalanders, i dont think anything will say here will ever make him change his mind as he have already cheated.

We should look at da option of compelling hime to get a 2nd wifey

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NightFall,

I am going to respond to this based on my assumption that you need help.

My advice:

Stay away from that lady and stick with your wife.

'Cook' your wife and you will see that the lady ain't younger than her.

Spend much time with your wife and kids,if you've got any.

Don't hang around with females that'd arouse you.Stay away from them.

Use your wife's picture as your phone's wallpaper.Wear your ring always.

Always talk about your wife and be quick to let other females know you've got a wife.

Be honest with your wife:don't you ever lie to her.Attend weddings,etc with her.Hang out with her often and on.

And please, stay in the word of God.You cannot make it on your own.You need the word of God to constantly cleanse your thoughts and direct you.

The thoughts will come but fire back at them with your word-based confessions: ''I refuse to cheat on my wife because I love her.My body is the temple of the Holy Spirit,therefore sin and impure thoughts have no dominion over me, "

It's a fight of faith and you have got to walk out of it victorious.

Cheating on one's wife is not proper. One is not going to be run by one's senses.

I pray for you that God will keep you and direct you toward His love and toward the patient waiting for our Lord Jesus.

I pray that God will keep and sanctify your thoughts,through His word and through fellowship with the saints.I pray that your understanding will be influenced by the word of God not sensory perception.These I pray in the name of the Lord Jesus.

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