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Should I Lock Up My Mum Or What?

Please i need your candid advise on this.

I happen 2 b in love with a girl who happens to be an igbo girl but from a different state. I also happen to be igbo. My mum has promised to let all hell lose if i try to marry anyone that is not from my village. Pls i need your candid advise on what to do whenever i am ready for my traditional wedding or Introduction. I intend to have policemen around who on sighting her would take her away from the venue till the show is over. I have pleaded and talked to her but she wouldn't bulge (she doesn't know the girl and is not interested in knowing the girl). She happens to be my only obstacle. I believe a parent should pray for a good wife for her child and not for some girl from the same village good or not. Pls advise me

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Rene1 this is serious. . . . what do you think or know you can help to contribute to bring out the solution to this friends issue. . .*

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I don't think that the poster is saying it all. It takes a lot for someone to say that they will stop their mother from coming to their wedding. I think she should be allowed to come like nothing is wrong but watch her carefully. Some mothers can go rambo on a person. How do you know how she plans to protest the wedding. Maybe she wants to strip herself Unclad or maybe she is diabolic and he does not want to lose face with his in laws. I say let her come o but watch her carefully if you think she might be disruptive. I don't know why parents still do this sort of thing. She has already lost her sons respect. Who does she think will lose out in the end. I pray everything works out

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Is it not written that 'A son should receive his parents blessings when getting Married.' Will she give it to you from the Ploice nets?

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Mr Lion, Cheetah or whatever you call yourself, I never knew you are so weak that you will still have your mother who is just human and weaker than a lion in stregth to stop you from having the prey of your life. What are you waiting for? Are the jungle grasses so low as to let your mum see you when you want to display your prowess to kill your own mum? This is a woman that has always wanted the best for you from cradle for the past number of years and you are talking of locking her up on her supposed day of fulfilment just because of a girl you have really hardly known. Go ahead and ruin your long standing relationship for one that just started with a stranger. Dude, grow up and open your eyes.

One thing I want you to realise is that she does not hate your girl. She only doesn't want her son to marry who she is not sure of (based on the strong love and motherly affection she has for you). Boy, just relax, your mum might be saving you from some danger ahead. Sit her down early in the morning and try to hear why she is bent on you marrying a sure background, and possibly make her to form an affinity with your girl if you insist. She might be doing this based on her experiences in life. (She is your senior remember!)

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If all else fails, then police protection during the ceremony to protect your new family is prudent.

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So sad my brother, i tink u need 2 take ur problems 2 God

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@ poster

Guy calm down. Thank God you sought advice before going ahead with your intention.

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@Poster,

You need to sit your mum down and talk to her. Let her see reason with you why you want to marry your fiancee. Also, ask her why she is against your marrying from any other village asides yours.

Don't marry, without your mothers blessings o!!

All da best!

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@ coolier i feel ur pain but u dont feel mine. I need ur advice just incase she doesnt believe d gay story and all dat.

Coolier no b fight ooo. If u go force ur own pikin marry person wey him no like na ur head u dey take play oo

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Mayb i'll just try 2 mislead her dat day

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Didnt actually mean putting her in a cell but takin her away from d scene till d show is ova.

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uohhhhfffff take easy gurl, we ar not fighting here

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Dude she can only dictate such things if u r still under her care and living in her house. . .  I feel for u but u dont need the cops for anything, your mum is still your mum, u can only fight for your love if its worth keeping!

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Sadly a lotta parents have this backwards traditional mentality.  Locking her up will only complicate matters.  She's entitled to her own opinions but it is not your duty to abide by her principles and dictatorship.  You are no longer a child.  I understand where you're coming from.  You are the one marrying the babe and it is you who has to deal with her, not your mother.  All you can do is continue to try to appease  your mother in hopes of winning her heart over.  If the babe you plan to marry is truly as good as you portray her to be then in no time your mother will warm up to her if she's a good mother who wants the best for you.

Good luck mehn.  Again, locking her up will only make matters worse.  It's never pleasant being married to a woman at the disapproval of your mother.  Clashes will continue and peace will never reign.

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Involve some elders or her friends to talk sense into her.It is not wise to marry against her wish.Get her on your side first,then you can go ahead with the traditional wedding!

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