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Should I Say Yes Or Wait For The Unknown?

Hi every one, i desperately need the advice of all u good people, particularly the married men and women.

I just got a marriage proposal from an old friend ( have known him for 10yrs), he is a responsible, caring guy and financially stable. Though i dont love him, i dont know if i should accept. I am in my late 20's and very tired of dating and getting dissappointed.SHOULD I SAY YES OR WAIT FOR THE UNKNOWN?

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good luck and dont forget to update us oh.

I can be a good MC too and i like rice and dodo

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im really goin to do my best. take things slowly and b truthful.

i really got geniune advices here, thanx a million and God bless ya all,

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that was totally uncalled for.

Amen oh and you too

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@ Fhemmy and ifyalways, I luv ur post. U have encouraged the gal alot. God bless u all.

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This is deep.Thank you for making my contribution short as I will not have to repeat all you have said.

Poster,

Please fix your phobia, do not hurt/pollute this good man for another woman.

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u don't love him but u r comtemplating on marriage cos of dough

another mad woman.

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Do you trust him?

Romantic feelings do not pay bills and school fees and put food on the table. Romantic love is compulsive and strong. But it is quickly killed by a roving eye or a mean spirit.

In the past thousands of years marriages were made by parents who look the man over to see if he is marriageable. They take place and the love is then flowing. Romantic love is nice , but love must be continuously renewed with compassion trust and kindness.

It is hard to find a man who has the makings of a good husband. The thing is can you commit to him even if some other feelings come past in the future. It is about what sort of person you are. If you are able to genuinely commit and with a strong heart dedicate to being the best wife and mother. Then this can work well for you.

If however you are the sort of person who is always looking for a better offer in all things then leave this good man for a better woman.

It is about your maturity. Pray faithfully for an answer to this.

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Interested in someone you dont know at all?

we are trying to make someone relax her mind and fall in love and you wanna scare her off again/

na wa for you oh

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hello lady sorry to bother u but i must confess that i am interested in u.can u please reach me on ogala4great@yahoo.ca and please tell em about urself ok?

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Sparks and feeling madly in love dont fall from the skies neither does it happen in a day.

U have to create a postive enviroment b4 that wud happen and dont be suprised,most so-called sparks are mere fairytale.That aside,we all dont have the same reactions towards love or being in love,u dont have to experience sparks b4 u love or marry.

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@truly opal,

You stated your belief that no man can love a woman forever.

Would that be the mindset for the present predicament? I'm just wondering.

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what actually caused the phobias?Like fhemmy said,deal with it.

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You only fight a phobia with it.

You need to find what scares you off marriage and then deal with it.

maybe dating this man and preparing your mind towards saying "i do"

Again, pls make sure i am invited to the wedding oh

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@ fhemmy

thanx a million 4 d advice. i am already feelin purposeful. but another question abeg. how does some1 deal with marriage phobia?

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Like i said, give a trial since u said, you are compatible.

Also, just be honest with him and let him know how you feel

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but sincerely how much does chemistry/romance /crazy in luv feeelings makes a marriage work? i hav seen many couples dat were crazy 4 each other pre-marriage and then later become strangers due to non compatibility or other things.

i hav never been the kind of gal dat FALLS in luv, i hardly get tripped by men. attraction(yes) but never crazy in luv. mayb ppl like me jst never get 2 experience dat in life.

i hav had proposals from nyc guys but due to absence of sparks and huge attractions , i had 2 let go. i dont want 2 luk back in d future and regret my actions

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@Poster,are u ready for marriage?

whatever,dont rush to say yes to his proposal,u guys still need to court and get to know more abt urselves.Tell him,it wud be better if u guys take some time to really know yourselves and be very sure b4 saying i do.atleast 6 months courtship shld do.

The big question is "are u ready for marriage"?

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i just think it is time Ladies stop using age as a yardstick to determine when they are ready to get marry

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Someone she has known for 10 years {though, werent in love}, how long would they have to be engaged for love to come and knock at their doors?

What will now happen, if after saying YES, another prince charming shows up and she now eat the love bug, what will now happen to the other "i dont love him" man

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It al depnds on u,lyke u ritely stated hw cn u say yes to a person u said u dnt love.secndly if u say yes to him nw wit time love we dvelop,very strong one at dat,pls dnt doubt me i ave seen.visevisa

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So what would be the basis of saying YES?

Would it be cos he is caring, by the way, how do u define care?

Would it be cos he is a nice person?

Would it be cos he is finacially stable?

Or cos you are in your late 20s?

Cos you said, u dont love him.

So please explain what the yardstick of your concluding on YES

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