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On a staurday Night i met my friend's wife coming out of a hotel with another man. The closeness between them was so deep that i decided to hide myself from her seeing me, but was too late as both eyes jst came in contact. We both were forced to wave each other at distance.

   

In less than an hr i got a call from her pleading is should not let her hubby know abt this, as he was out of town on a business trip. Infact she was weeping over the phone telling me how much he love the husband, her family and her kids and telling her husband abt this is definitely the end of her marriage. I demanded the truth from her, coz that is the only way i could help her out. She goes on telling me that she has been having this affairs  for over a year now with the younger guy. Her reasons being that the hubby is always away from home on a business, and her kids studying in a far place can only be home few times. As such she jst discovered this as a remedy for her loneliness.

I have been a closed friend  to  this family for almost 3yrs now. Even until this incidence happened  few weeks back, they seems to me as the happiest and perfect couples, family on earth, with 2 adorable kids full of love. In fact most of the times i have wished and pray that some day God should give me such a happy family and a woman like her as a wife.   

I know the husband very well and a very good friend of mine, telling him this means an end to such a great family and an end to their happy marriage. Hidding this from him, also, to me seems to be a betrayal to someone i called my best friend. It hurts my feeling each time the wife tells him how much she loves him in my presence since this incidence happened. I always ask myself can this love be real?

So please i need some advice from matured minds on what to do in such a dilemmatic situation.

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Is there a rule that says a guy must always make the first move?

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The way some guys reacts to issue like a woman making the first move is very bad and irritating.There are better ways a lady can express her feeling towards a guy which will make the guy respond and it wont show that she is the first to make the move.But with this her so called bold move,i wonder the kinda way the guy will treat her later

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You sure are a confident one, which is what most matured men appreciate and respect.

Pls do not use text messages for things like these next time. You never know where the message can end up.

Expect the best and I hope the guy treats you with the respect that you truly deserve.

Goodluck.

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i think u expressed ur inner feelings which is quite natural for honest pple. since u deemed it fit to let him know ur feelings about him, u better count on his maturity to handle this like an adult (mature person). but i dont feel u made a mistake. its natural and plain. play ur cards well so u wont have to deal with any hearth break or disappointment.

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Sending text message is a wrong decision, what you should have done is make advances at him, not to go direct, that's a wrong approach.

Well don't be discouraged it depends on the guy, how he takes it, becareful Babygirl he is at advantage know since you made the first move .

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Have you spoken to him?

First have the discussion with him before worrying over what may or may not be.

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@kpoli, ur comment seconded.

@poster, u're 1 helluva girl. Dont mind them nigerian chics wey dey form. When they loose d guy, they'll then try snatchin him from his next girlfriend who might have mustered up d courage to do what u did. Chics like u know what they want, go 4 it, & get it unlike d typical naija babe. D guy wont turn u down, believe me.

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so its wrong cos she made the first move??

biggups, poster, if we had more girls like u, maybe we guys might actually be more faithful

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What do u want to tell him again after u had sent him a text to express what u felt for him?Hope ds wont back fire anyway cos to me it is a wrong move.

Just be prepared to hear what he's got to say.All the best

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dont tell him, pls just leave them alone, definately the man will finds out himself sumday

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^^^ True dat and Lol at the "Happy" home.

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no matter what dont tell him. silence in this case, is golden. dont be the one that will destroy the "happy" marriage.

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You know what, you best not say anything cause it will come back on you anyways. It's been how long and you knew? Now it will be you knew all this time and didn't tell me? Best leave it alone. You even have it recorded that's worse, he will be pssed with you no matter how thing turn out. If ya were gonna tell you should have told him right away v

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Dont tell him . . just warn her to end it. Keep an eye on her and if she dosen't . . then you can tell him!

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Tell him and shame the woman.

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Contact the husband and they will discuss you while they are making love.

BTW, have u ever thot of how the woman could frame u that you wanna sleep with her and she never allowed you and that was why you wanna mess her her up with her husband?

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Pls let them be. If anything let the husband finds out himself. All you can do is to discourage her from doing it again.

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Proof or no proof, mind your business, him having as you put it "a great family and happy marriage" is far more important than any friendship you might have with him.

Why the sudden need to tell anyway? when your friends cheat, do you run along and tell the wife? so the shoe is on the other foot and you suddenly feeling guilty. right!

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DONT TELL HIM O, at least not until u gat some proof

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Turn a blind eye. It's your word against hers! And this is a serious matter, no woman would sit by and watch her world come crumbling at her feet. If you're not careful she might turn the table against you.

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Wow that is a terrible place to be. I am not from that part of the world and know thing are delt with differently. It is a rough spot to be in , if she lies about it all and the husband believes her over you it means the end of your friendship. I know people cheat both men and women over missing things in thier relationship. Her love for him must not be that strong. But when you get involved you not only destroy their marraige but that of the kids too. I am sorry I can't help with that it is a bad situation to be in you may lose either way. Leave their marraige to God he will settle it in the end.

Good luck

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Hope this is not Nollywood---- But don't contact the husband if you don't have full proof of what the woman is doing--- you need pictures or a video if you want to report her.

If you report her with no proof, you might get yourself in some trouble <as you will be seen as a marriage breaker>

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Well you already warned her. That's a step. Hopefully she heeds the warning.

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