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Should I Tell My Best Friend, His Wife Is Cheating On Him?

Should I tell my best friend, his wife is cheating on Him?

Please do you think I should. I am having mixed feeling because i don't want to end up being the enemy.

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All you people that are saying dont, this is his best friend were talking about

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There are times when people should mind their on business. . . this is one of those times.

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tip him off anonymously - telling him yourself may make you into an enemy in the end - the person seeking the couple's break up, especially if they do resolve it and decide to stick together. You will then become the guy who tried to break the home.

Just pass the information to him anonymously, that way, he can act like he doesn't know (if he doesn't want to deal with it) or take whatever actions he desires. In my experience, it never helps to get personally involved.

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No, he may be your friend, but you've no business telling him what his wife gets up to.

Friends are seldom receptive of such interferrance.

If she's truly cheating, I'm sure your friend'll find out before long, without your help.

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Try as much as possible to see how you can get concrete evidence before telling your friend because if your friend later find out that you know about it he wont be happy with you for not telling him.no matter what it will cause tell him if truly he is your friend.

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Nah which one concern you? 'KONKO JABELE'!!!

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how did you know your best friends wife is cheating on him?

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@ Poster

There is nothing hidden under the Surface Of The Sun,

Sooner or later He will find out.

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I think you should. You should express your fears also. I would not be able to live with myself if I knew sucha thing and did not tell my best friend. You could also talk to his wife if you are cool with her and see what she says. A best friend is like family

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neglect as a cause of female infidelity will apply primarily to women who ordinarily would have been faithful to their spouses. Ditto physical or emotional cruelty, revenge for hubby cheating etc

but you have to take into account the harsh economy in Nigeria which sometimes drives women into transactional sex especially in the workplace.

again, women who used to be into aristo while in school or had sugar daddies as single girls often find it hard to adjust to their husband's modest income if they're unlucky not to land a rich husband. such women often cheat without qualms

finally, lets face it - women are just as prone to adultery as men nowadays. google 'paternity fraud' and you'll come away pretty shaken

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How do you deal Spiritually with infidelity? Agreed that temptation is real. Does temptation lead you into eating the forbidden fruit continuously just because you have not been caught. I believe in self awareness.

Someone who derives pleasure in adultery can never be satisfied no matter the love,care,attention and sex will always go back to the trade. Be the man or the woman. Omo elepo atun igba e fo.

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one of the things most people fail to realise about infidelity is that at some level, the spouse is aware of what is happening.

it is often preferable not to know, because knowing means you will have to do something about it. it also means you have to confront all the reasons why it may have come about.

(contrary to popular nigerian opinion , women don't mess around solely because they are loose/devilish/demonic or whatever other adjective . its often because of neglect( at least according to the literature i've come across). when the hubby is out on biz 90% of thye time, and when at home, is always working or tired. . .)

i guess though, that in these days of AIDs maybe there is a case for letting the spouse know.

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@bluehorizo,

LUST is like a Virus, don`t also forget that Temptation is real

the best way to deal with it is Spiritually

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This is not ideal as it may come back to haunt you. Moreover,she will change her tactics since she already know you know about her atrocity.

Why should he waste his time and effort praying for a woman who derives pleasure in cheating? Or is it the devil at work?

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I'll rather suggest that you write the anonymous note to your friend's wife. Giving her the details of the info you have about her and warning her to desist from such acts or risk being exposed.

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Write an anonymous detailed note and address it to your friend. That way you are on the safer side and it is left for the husband to do whatever with the info.

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what if the friend never finds out in good time and the situation gets to a dangerous stage that could have been avoided if he had spoken up. While i agree with the poster not wanting to be the cause of a marriage breakdown, i still think he should speak up, obviously, it is a delicate situation that needs to be handled in a matured way.

Personally, the closeness of my friendship to my friend will determine my actions. Sometimes, not coming directly but giving subtle pointers to the wife's behaviour could speed up his curiosity. Confronting the wife is another option but is equally risky. At the end of the day, there are no winners

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mind your business.your friend will find out on his own, sooner or later.

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@Poster,

Don`t play with two-edged sword. The best thing you can do is 

                         to be praying for her.

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