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Should Micheal Essien (of Chelsea FC) Support His Father More?

Michael Essien's father, James (76), who was apparently AWOL in his childhood and left his mother with the main responsibility of his upbringing and welfare has been in the media of recent accusing Essien of neglect. He granted interviews to British press where he said the money Essien sends him is not enough to live the life that the father of a world class footballer should live especially when he is ailing. Michael makes £12K a day (that is £90K p/week, £4.7m p/year)

He claims Essien provides far more for his mother.

Background of Essien

http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/sport/football/article3221832.ece

Essien? Well, it just remains for him to do it on the pitch. Again and again. Pressure? You would not know it, not yesterday, and certainly not if you fought through the dusty traffic to the Accra suburb of Dansomer. This is where Liberty Professionals, Essien’s former team, play and it is also where he built a house for his mother, Aba Gyanode. An hour away, the airport district is where you will find the big stars, the Tony Yeboahs and the Sammy Kuffours, their residences large, elaborate and questionable of taste.

But Aba is delighted with her palace — large, comparatively simple in stone-washed pink, in an area that does not suggest the Essiens have moved beyond their roots. Like in the rest of the city, large Ghana flags are draped from the walls and from the gate. Aba is also wearing a smaller version as a headscarf. “I am so proud of him,” she said. “I knew that he was a good player, but I never thought that he would get this far.” She carries in her handbag a small, private collection of dog-eared photographs: Michael standing proud next to his elder cousin, Michael, in an early football team, Michael aged 5 by a dirt road.

In those days they lived 20 miles out of the city and mostly in the absence of Essien’s father. He, too, was a footballer, but the parents split and Aba kept the family by baking and selling bread. “It was difficult,” she said, but they were not poor by African standards and even then Michael contributed by playing decent football.

In Ghana, bystanders watching amateur or junior football will hand their spare change sometimes to the players whose football they enjoyed, as if giving them a tip. “When Michael was young, they always gave him money,” Aba said. “It wasn’t much, but he always brought it home to me, he never spent it on sweets.”

She does indeed have a special relationship with him and it has survived the years and distance apart. “I was always very close to him,” she said. “I had four daughters, but he was my last child and my only boy. I soon came to realise there were two sides to him. He was a very quiet boy, but on the football pitch he was different, a rough boy. I came to realise that you had to be like that. He was good at volleyball and table tennis, too, but football was what he really wanted.”

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Tufiakwa, I'd rather die than treat my father this way. The bible is instructive of how to treat family members. read the Story of Joseph. I bet Essien will invite Ghana and the whole world to come and sympathize with him on the burial of his father if he will outlive his father ooo. If you r a father you will feel the pains of child rearing Can Essien tell me or anybody tell me the stress the man went through with that woman to convince her to go to bed with him in the first place. How many times he had to make love to her to get her pregnant, the wahala women pass through and give men through out pregnancy. Did Essien pay for his delivery in the hospital. The naming ceremony, the child dedication, The mothers feeding and his own for that two years? Did Essien pass through the nags the coercion and frustration of his mother's effort to destroy all of the man's family. have you ever been abandoned by a woman you loved and all your kids that you r fond of taken away from you? Did she leave because he was bad or because he refused to scatter all he has ever lived for. Essiens' mother was wicked. Thank God she left and did not poison every body so she could stay. If there was plenty money would she have left? I hope Essien will not attempt to build a befitting house in his village to accommodate visitors and international football star and friends when the father is dead. To wht benefit will that bring? Does he know he can go back and be as poor as a church rat by the time he gets to his father's age? Let him ask Etim Esin how life has been or Mike Tyson and a lot of famous stars even Michael Jackson if he was still alive. There is nothing like a fathers' blessings. Im almost crying as Im hacking away on this goddamn tirade. God forbid instead of treating my father like this make I perish. I dont care for his care, I care for my obligation to him as my progenitor. The woman or wife Essien will spend his money what has she done for him? Who took him to football academy did he go there by himself and talked for himself and did he know if the father bribed to let him stay? Its God's blessing that made him, he is not the only star on earth. He has missed world cup and might lose his space to Mikel in Chelsea. Very soon he will be foot ball history so wht will he make of life. The father will die a fulfilled man at east the state might bury him for Essiens' sake but wht about him Essien and his married life. Has he started yet to feel the pains of having a woman to pester him? I write like a father with tons of responsibilities though. Please judge well oo every body. If you are a father judge well others might not understand but fathers do.

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The condition of his dad shows he don't donate to charity cus charity should start from home.It will be the biggest hypocrisy if he ever do.  I wonder what people make all these money for if not to help the less previllaged. Just fall asleep and you will forget all you have then think of when you are no more.

What ever agro you have with you father, he is still your father. Let take out the financial aspect, so if M.E see where somebody is beating his dad up he will overlook him and go the other way cus of what may have happened donkey yeas ago. Those of you in support of him(ME) will you support him in the above scenario

That is why Man United is diff, SAF wont let this happen to a father of his player. Ask Mikel how much his dad/family recieved prior to his coming to England

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say what - I AM MORALLY BANKRUPT but an old man who brought over 15 children into the world with no plan on how to feed them is a paragon of morality? Jeez you need to go see a shrink as soon as possible. 

Let me ask you something, do you think this old man would be bothering with Michael if he were poor and living over in Ghana with him, do you think this man would be making a nuisance of himself tracking Michael's every move if he were some poor nobody in Ghana with him, where has he been for most of Michael's life, oh let me guess fathering more children, give me a break!!!

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when did two wrongs make a right? how can you even justify what he's doing. you are one morally bankrupt and if i'm related to likes of you (thank God i'm not). i would have cut them out of my life ages ago.

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this old man wants to reap where he did not sow, how can a human being bring so many children into this world with no thought as to how he intends to feed and nurture them, even animals look after their young, okay now that he has produced all these children, it so happens one became a millionaire and now he feels that he deserves a return on what he thinks is his investment.

The old man should go and sit down, that is not how to bring up children, the way you treat your children as they are growing up is the way they will reward you when they become adults themselves. If michael starts spending money on him he will not have learnt that it is wrong to abandon your own flesh and blood when they need you the most.

I personally would not bother with the old man, let him learn his lesson the hard way.

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We can show our disdain for Mike by sending messages on his website :

http://www.michaelessiengh.com/contactus.html

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If you earned just 10% of what Micheal Essien makes in a week, would you allow your dad live like this? Nobody is saying Mike should carry the responsiblities of Ghana (don't deviate the topic please).What people are saying is that he's in a position to do better.It's not a must, neither is it a do or die affair.At the tail end, it speaks volumes about the sort of person you really are.Like someone said earlier in this thread, forgiveness is a trait of matured minds. In between, what did Pa Essien do that deserves forgiveness? Polygamy? Last time i checked, it wasn't a crime and decades ago, a man of my age would be contemplating marrying a second or even third wife by now.Times have changed and men my age aren't even thinking of settling down yet not to talk of marrying more wives.Back in the day, Polygamy was practiced by both the rich and the poor.Don't let your sentiments get in way of your judgement.Pa Essien DID NOTHING WRONG! ! !

Even Essien's fellow team players would be looking down their noses on him right now coz he has really exposed how petty,vindictive and immature he really is.There are several African international players who have been through worse than Essien and yet, their fathers live like Kings. If it was a woman that was doing this, i would understand but he is a MAN for crying out loud! How can a man be so petty? 90,000 pounds a week is approximately N25 million weekly.That means he makes approximately N1.2 billion naira a year from basic allowances alone. . .endorsement deals excluded.Some past corrupt politicians in this country can't boast of that kind of money.For someone to be that blessed and yet, have it in him to let his father suffer in such inhumane conditions shows the sort of "man" he really is.

No wonder some people's prayers are NEVER answered coz the "God" they serve knows how petty and wicked they would be to their fellow human beings!

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i think Essien should do more to support his father, i mean he should help even a stranger living in such terrible conditions. but he really doesn't owe his father anything. parents owe their kids love and care until they become adults because no child asks to be born. anyone who decides to bring a child into this world should be ready to take responsibility for all the child's needs. it's unfair to give birth to more children than you can afford to take care of financially, emotionally, physically etc.

there are too many men leaving their wives to hustle for their kids, this is why many children grow up with a greater sense of responsibility towards their mothers than their fathers. sometimes its not even that the fathers aren't there for the kids, it's the way they maltreat the mothers that make the children lose every feeling of attachment to them. children always feel more sympathetic and attached to the abused parent, you can't abuse your wife and at the same time forge a closer relationship with your kids. it's simply impossible.

it's possible Essien does a lot more for even strangers but not for his father because he is bitter about some issues from his childhood. parents do some things that hurt so badly at times and the child just feels like severing all ties with that parent. we don't all react to issues the same way, maybe Essien's siblings have less emotional baggage from their childhood than he does. or maybe they feel the same way and are all avoiding their father and that's why he's really suffering.

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Believe it or not this is a big shame to micheal essien. damn!! just check out that pix. Are u the only one ur parents didn't help or train. You need to see the father of your fellow african foothballers of international repute. infact, come to nigeria and see for urself. kanu nwankwo's dad lives in a castle.

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mschheewww.

so because essien lucked out and manages to earn a hefty wedge a week, the rest of the family should stop working or trying to take care of themselves? this is why africa will never move forward. i've even read people here saying he should pay for the extended family. where were they when i was poor?

and smh at the people who are acting like a talent like michael essien wouldn't have eventually risen to the top. when even people who's parents used to ban them from playing football managed to make pro careers from themselves.

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For the pro-essien's alleged actions, i have few questions for you lot.

1- was essien's mum blind to have married a man with 3 wives?

2- after getting married to the old man, was'nt the man performing the duty of a husband and a father to both the mum and essien?

3- how would essien's mum want the man to divorce the rest wives just to be with only her?

4- was the man only inresponsible to just essien or to all essien's siblings?

5- who paid for his educational and football career while he was here in africa?

6- from the articles, it seems the rest siblings have access to the father but can't make significant changes to the man's life, why then is essien acting as if the man was an inresponsible father?

7- what if its essien's mum thats really runing the show, cutting off all the alleged money sent to the dad by essien through his mum?

8- what about the rest of essien's siblings, was the dad also inresponsible to them too not to have gotten help from whatever essien must have given to them or were they inresponsible to essien too?

I think the root of the problem was buried into essien's heart by the greedy mum, she must have planted hate in the heart of her kids directly or indirectly.

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this is too sad.let me reat lettle of my story before i know my dad i was arand age of 12 and he know were im living but is not look after me and ask of me is my mum and my gramum takecake of me.but no mater haw my father is still my father

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1. M.E's dad married 4wives. So what? Dont support polygamy but 'twas a norm those days. Muslims marry more

2. He was earning a £3 and had 4wives and kids.

I've seen poorer men marry more wives

3. M.E should 4give his dad. What was d old man's crime? Marrying 4wives? And y didnt M.E's ma say "no" when He approached her? D woman has no blame 4saying "Yes" 2a man wit 3wives already bt d man has blame 4 "distributn spermatozoa" as some put it??

4. M.E hasnt refuted any'f d old man's claims on neglect and financial support. Till He says otherwise,i'll stick 2this

5. Why are y'all dodging the glaring fact that the chelsea star is just heartless. For Pete's sake,i'd help a total stranger not to talk of my dad!! Go to the thread "fatherless nairalander needs help" and see what ppl are doin 4sum1 whose a stranger and possible scammer.

Simply put; M.E has a very very cold heart

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I have been following this thread from the beginning and could not hold my mute anylonger on this matter.

I feel ashamed of being ME fan ( i will always support Chelsea anyway).

How can he leave his father to die in abject poverty?

His he wiser than God that has blessed him with this wealth?

What has he done with his wealth that will make his people to be proud of him?

I think the main problem is ME's mother. She saw that the man was married with many wives before she agreed to marry the poor man and had children for him. She requested for divorce and was not kicked out of the house by Papa JK. The man still within his capacity supported ME morally till he started his career.

Has he taken a good look at his footballing career lately and meditate over his present ordeal?

Has he another father?

Would he celebrate the demise of his sworn enemy if his father dies today or would he complain of loosing someone he never cared for?

Let ME leave God to be the judge and play his own role as a good son.

People should stop using their generational age to judge past events. Polygamy was African thing in the past. We can not change our past but we can shape our future.

I rest my case

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some comment are jst unnecessary here. what ever be d case there is some element of neglect on d part of michael essien.

if it was me i wil take proper care of my dad despite d circumstance because d dad was nt having enough to carter for all essien's need but he tried his best so he said

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@justdtruth, please what are you talking about?

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Talking a lot but not really saying anything

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its important to put things in the right perpective to be able to decipher it. its more important when the focus is something that happened in the past, a different environment, a different culture, a different civilisation etc.

let me quickly create a scenerio. in nigeria, we beat our kids when they disobey us or do very bad things. in the uk, that is not done. in the next 30 years and that culture moves to nigeria, i bet that our children will then accuse us of haven abused them while they were young or our grand children will see us as terrible people. you know why? the pysche at that time will not just understand or comprehend why we do it now.

the human psyche is continuously evolving and so is our sense of judgement. every change in our psyche through education, civilisation, exposure, culture transfer will ultimately affect our sense of judgement. therefore, it does not mean that our judgment now is correct while that of the older generation is wrong cos i tell you, the future generations are coming to find us very foolish.

i smile when an african today says polygamy is silly or how can a man marry many wifes and have many children when he can not take care of them. cos i imagine the perception such would have had say 50 years ago. this is not a forum to discuss polygamy but let me quickly point out some issues so that we can appreciate how societies develops and how we should relate with those changes.

1. the high child and maternal mortality rate in africa made the family life a gamble. it was a case of let us take our chances and see what will happen. mothers of that time will give birth to as many as they can and men would marry more women.

2. the economic activity at that time was best subsistence. so the larger your workforce particularly family members the better for you.

3. the uncertainty attached to future prospects. have many wifes and children- whichever of them that makes it in the future! the family then benefits

4. the desire for a male child. my family name must continue so if a wife can give a male child then another or another or another should

5. social balance and family integration. i want my family to be a part of your so take my daughter and marry her. the community has more young ladies and the should be a balance young men should take more wives

6. show of elegance and prowess. the size of your family show your ability

these and many more are reasons for polygamy in different societies. to see otherwise at that time, you must be a foolish one. today we see differently.

somebody talked about a fathers responsibility or responsibilities. well, i would want to ask, based on which culture or society because there are places where the role of the father is expected to be performed by the mother. different cultures have different roles that assigned to individuals and groups. a friend of mine just got married and the family of the bride provided all household materials. infact my wife told me that in the north, there are places where all the guy does is provide the house and everything that will be in the house will be provided by the bride's family. i mean everything. tell a yoruba man that your wife's family bought everything in your house and you will be the most irresponsible man before his eyes. do you know what he will say? 'ole ni e, eni wa ifa, o n wa ofo' meaning, you are a thief, he who looks for free things, is looking forward to perish.

the diversity and complexity of the human existence demand that we tread softly with our judgements. whatever happened in the past can only be best judged based on the factors of that time.

the factors surrounding this issues can not be easily understood except with further details from all parties. what any of us should do is what would be humanly right to do? just be the good samaritan

if you want to ask everybody before you help them if they have been good or bad or if they have been dutiful in thier responsibilities, then i bet you aint going to find someone to help. we all have one story or the other

and to think that attaining success is primarily by your actions, ask yourself what actions of others could have destroyed that success.

my mother didnt care for me, what would you have done if she had decided to abort your pregnancy, suffocate you with the shawl, live you to die when you had malaria?

my dad didnt take care of me, what would you do if he had died trying to take care of you even before you were born because he would still not be there for you.

if you have been succesfull, know that every action taken by all arround you either good or bad had led you to that success. the same goes for the other way.

give thanks if you

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the moral of the gist is - born as many as you can properly take very good care of. And should things go wrong with your wife or husband, please do dont abondon your own blood children.

Meanwhile I agree with you comment Chika98

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A good father you should say. There's a BIG difference between having just a father and a [b]good [/b]father.

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I judge a father mainly on two fundamentals, financial and emotional support.

What I deduced from the above is that:

1) Essien's father himself has admitted he failed financially as he could not support his big family on his peasant salary. We are not talking about 6 kids here, where one can say na "condition make crayfish bend" (i.e. economic circumstances). We are talking about (probably) 11+ kids, hence irresponsibility, so that is ENTIRELY his fault. And Essien has suffered because of his irresponsibility and incapability in carrying out his fundamental cue. Such a poor man with so much kids is completely irresponsible and selfish.

2) In regards emotions, I don't know yet. The man has given examples that could be singular, non-frequent, non-sustianed events as he himself did not boast he was there everyday. And that is what HE says. My guts is telling me that if his acts are different (i.e. frequent and sustianed fatherhood behaviours), Essien would not be sooooooooo hard hearted. I need to know details of this in more certainty.

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Please cut the crap!

Tell me where I twisted the truth?

TIA - This is Africa.

You want to tell me that in AFRICA, a father would want to see his child and a woman would stop him?

I have not made up my mind on the issue until I know the emotional aspects of the relationship, although I am doubtful.

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well is all good whatever ur jugment or ur view about this issue, the basic truth is that micheal essien as football ambasedor of black race should have just clear the ground from this image tanishing but rather decided to act on the poisenous upbringing by his MUM

what if ME is about to be blackmail,woud't he have paid or do anything to protect his image

and he should remember that there some greatpple with even worst case and they are still supportin ther roots just to protect ther names and image

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Aww Sagamite. Your story made me feel so warm inside. I had a similar situation with a teacher that was bullying me and my dad went to school himself to defend me. These are the things that children remember and see other children have and wish they had the same. There is nothing like the security a child feels from the knowledge that Dad is there and will always be there no matter what. My dad is still there and even if we have a conversation and there is a misunderstanding he will call me back on the phone or send his secretary to email me a Bible scripture to calm me down LOL. I have cousins whose dad died when they were younger. You could tell that they always were conscious of the fact that they had no father. In a way they felt insecure about it. I think it drove all of them to work hard and they are all successful adults. I am so glad God gave me such a wonderful dad. I hope one day Michael Essien and his dad will be able to work things out but I am sure it will be hard especially after the man came out with this story in the media

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@Outstrip and Chidichris,

How can you people be supporting evil

or paying evil with evil, thats unforgiven hearts !

Micheal have to act fast before it is too late for him.

If that man die on that condition, I pity him Micheal.

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Chidichris, Was or is Micheal's mother so daft or blind to know that there were three other wives before she agreed to marry the guy? The man did all he could for God sake and I am very sure he did not do half of what he did for Michael for his brothers and sisters else they would be in a better position to help their father today. I am not sure You have seen the photos, any one who has seen the photos and still has a hardened heart then that person is no longer human. I say this because I can be very wicked myself but not up to the level of seeing a fellow human live this kind of life when I can help. For Christ sake Michael should be glad that he still has both parents and the man is so kind enough to still offer prayers daily for the Fool, if I were the man my daily prayers would be that his next club he would play for is either crystal palace or Sheffield Wednesday so that gradually he too would run down and see what it means to suffer. Very few people made it in life with the help of their parents in Africa but that does not mean we should all turn our backs on the people that brought us into the world. as a matter of fact real successful people make it without any input from their families, Michael should repent because Soon God would answer the Cry of the old man and the result is not something Michael would like

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@kgdavid,

ur sense of reasoning has always been the problem. how can a man living on £3 a month be as useless as marrying 4 wives? men who suffer to train their children to any level enjoys the fruit of their labours might any of the children become useful in life.

living a poor woman to the hard job of traing 4 or more kids alone is wicked.

the man must learn to bear his cross without going piblic.

where were u when essien's mother was bearing her cross, crying day and night? if i have my ways, i will ask essien to marry more wives for his father and that will make life easier for him since he came to the world to marry.

how many wives does ur father have and how much is his income?

the only thing i see in u is pure hatred for chelsea so u will always reason from ur Bottom.

@djunit1,

if u say unbelieveable, i will accept it but more unbelieveable here is that ppl will sow plantain and expect to reap paw-paw.

wickedness begets wickedness.

sound judgements are not based on one sided stories.

if the man is not guilty, the media can never be the best approach to this rift.

don't tell me the man is surprised with his situation when he married 4 wives while earning just £3 a month.

if the man has repented, he shld approach essien's mother and see her forgiveness and everyother thing shall be added unto him.

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This is Unbelievable, Michael should not only be providing for his father, he should be providing for his brothers, every one that has anything to do with the family name irrespective of what has happened in the past because he has enough to take care of every one. I wish I could talk to Essien, He was not abandoned the way I was but that does not mean I would turn my back on my people because I am so rich I dont think I would ever need them. God forgive You Michael! Better go on Your knees now and begin to Beg for forgiveness because when the wrath of God comes upon You, you'd be begging to play for crystal palace but would not get the chance.

African are so wicked, how can a man be as wicked as this, I have a family member who is like this so it is not new to me, watch out when the man dies he would be buried with the most expensive coffin and under three weeks a mansion would be built for him.

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The above post says it all. To those who feel Essien is right on what he's doing. . .i wish you all the best with your wicked/vindictive mindset.Some of you are even religious. . .most are Christians, y'all go to church and pray for forgiveness of sins but look at yourselves.And they wonder why i quit being religious.Going to church every Sunday doesn't make you a good person.

Apart from being polygamous, what other "sin" did Micheal Essien's father commit? If not for western education, polygamy forms a BIG PART OF THE AFRICAN WAY OF LIFE! So what the hell are you self righteous bigots yapping about?

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I am not in support of polygamous marriage. But we have to cut this crap of blaming the dad for marrying 5 wives as it was like a norm then. If i may ask, did PA ESSIEN force MA ESSIEN to marry him and to became the 4th or 5th wife? Or did he use juju on her? If no, why did she call for divorce? Which she later got as it was her wish and not dat of pa essien. Even after the forceful divorce this man kept on playing his fatherly role to the best of his capacity. Infact i did not see any case in this matter. A good and perfect example is that of Barrack Obama jr and his Dad. In this case which we all know. Barrack's dad did not in any way contribute anything into his life but that did not stop him from accepting his father and even at a particular time he have to travel to as far as Kenye just to see his father and his extended family. This later led to one of his aunt visiting him before he became the U.S Presido. Till date Barrack Obama jr acknowledges his kenye family, of which he would be sending them his assistances. My advice to Michael Essien is simple. He should help his father(dis man na him papa, na him flesh and na him blood) and also support his extented family cos to whom much is given much is expected.

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@ sagamite that ur uncle is a terrible fellow but im sure we can agree that the only parallel between him and James Essien is the fact that they were both sexually irresponsible. that is where the similarity ends, James Essien did not run away from his child. in fact all the children used to go and visit him during holidays. the decision was taken (after eight years) by his wife to divorce him and stay away with the children. still James continued to do what he could. you forget that we are talking about a very traditional and probably uneducated man here. what greater gift can ones parents give than education?

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"He claims Essien provides far more for his mother".

I wonder if we woulda heard from him if he wasn't playing for Chelsea. Men like him need to SDFU and be glad he is getting media attention.

When you neglect your children and they make something out of themselves;You don't come 'round to chat Poo when they finally make it.

I will say this though, as a human being he should at least throw him a bone or two.

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Apparently, M.E tried to take get people to take him to hospital but he said he wanted a traditional solution.

And so what if he carries an Essien name? That is enough reason to care?

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essien mama don bewitch am make e the look only am. see am abeg, im mama the live among cream de la cream and im papa the live among dirt de la dirt, abegi. sometimes even old man wey person neva know before, if e see say e the suffer too much e fit help am then come talk of your papa! abegi.

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i dont understand. if the father wasn't there to care for his childhood, why should he expect the son to care for him now?

if michael chooses to rise above, fine.

if not, the old dude ain't got no effin claim men.

this is a reminder to you young bloods out there to respect and care for your families while you can.

what goes around comes around

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Well, i pity the man sha but essien should show mercy, afterall the man is his father wether he like it or not. Having read all those posts, i don't even know what to say again. poo happens but he just have to deal with it. In summary, Essien should forgive his dad.

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The son arranged for the man to be taken to a hospital, the man said he wanted traditional healers, that the son should send money for traditional healers which he did.

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Well,one thing i want essien to realize is that he got to stardom not by his power but by the grace of God, so many talented people are out there,talented than him but they never had this opportunity.We should all learn to forgive, its normal for people to hurt us, but we need to forgive, he can do better than that, he should take care of his dad

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We men need to learn to be responsible and committed to our immediate family. Ever so often similar stories repeat itself over and over. Some men at their prime feel like they should "enjoy" life, at the end life becomes miserable for them. Put your immediate family first. Take very good care of your children and your wife. Polygamy begets so much avoidable sorrows, regrets and under achievement.

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You are very right. True forgiveness is easier said than done

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The fact that father failed woefully should not make Essien to treat him badly.

Looking at that old man in the pictures and imagining the opulence that Micheal lives in show that something is not just right.

Micheal is weak man since forgiveness is an attribute of only the strong.

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Michael Essien should not forget that God has blessed him so that he can affect his family . He should do more for his father because the father did his best for him . No matter what the old  man had done to him in the past he should forget because he is a man too and only God knows how his marrital life will end . We cant be more intelligent than God . From the pictures , he is not doing enough ,after all he has the means

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when i read the topic, i was like, so he abandoned essien and now wants to use politics to ply some dough out of the poor guy's hands. well after reading through, it wasn't a clear case of what i thot. i think it is possible. essien's mum must have really taken it out on the man by bringing them up to hate him. it was a divorce not an abandon case. she was even lucky, or not (but now is) to have the children.

abeg, wahala full ground. why essien no fit forgive the father for something wey no dey clear sef. if the guy jus throway 100,000 GBP the old man side, e (essien) go die?

thats a bit heartless and tactless. a guy like essien should know that a time like this would come, and he should have prevented it by taking care of his father, loved or not.

we are not like other people. we are afrikans. we love till death, we love without knowing a dictionary definition of love. if the man na naija am sure that some chelsea fans for don dey take care of the old boi just because of essien. what a mess.

Essienwait till your father dies, then you will know. even if you pretend, you will know. inside.

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we all agreed the father was wrong, failed, neglected his duties for whatever reason he had, but does that justifies Michael living him to rot in that condition?

how comfortable will Michael feel if his father dies of a common infection like tetanus that could be treated with less than $200?

what more humility are you asking for, that life has not already taking from him?

even if your thinking is true, no one would have offered him money if Michael had done the right thing. Poverty is a disease and poverty makes people do silly things

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I think everyone will agree that it is wrong of many of our elders having many kids that their income can not cater for, but why did you overlook the bit that bothers on the man being the one that went all the way to send him to school and kick start his football career? We could never know if he would have turn out to be what he is today if the old man hasn't done what he did then.

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Essien should forgive and forget.

He must help not only the father but the entire

extended family, Yes! he can do it.

And that should be done fast.

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@Outstrip

You are a typical woman who always look at issues from one angle alone. Will you tell me that if you have all the cash that Michael Essien has and you have an uncle who live in the same condition as this man you wont bother to help? You also seem to forget the part that state that the man was the one going round with the boy to kick start his career.

This is a common ocurrence in a polygamous home where the wifes justle for the husbands attention, most of the wifes will say anthing to discredit the man. You need to have come from a polygamous background to understand what is going on. In my early years i can't really remember what my dad did for me but my mum will never let me neglect the man as i have come to understand that there is much to learn from the elders. It is not always about money or the posh life, what about his inner sorrow of seing the man that donated the so called spermatozza? What about his identity as an Essien? Can he change that?

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