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Should The Man Bear The Whole Financial Expenses In The House?

If both spouses are gainfully employed, would it be wise if the wife waits for the man to do all the payment in the running of the house?

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Yes, so my lovely wife could enjoy her life and take good care of my kidz, but if she should decide to work, she can keep the cash and pay some househelps from there, including a tight looking maid to look after the kidz in her absence, heheheheh.

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The problem now is this :[b]ME I AM NOT CHIPPING IN AT ALL

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GADDAMNIT YES

WHERE IS DAYO?

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^^^very valid points. There just has to be middle ground, that we can all agree on,

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These questions come up because not all aspects of society evolve at the same pace.

Generations ago, men had a much stronger hold on the work force. A career oriented woman was rarer than what we see today.

Women have rightfully fought for more equality in the work place and gradually (depending on what country you're in) we're getting there.

Given the additional economic wealth that a woman can now bring into a home, I am really baffled by the reluctance of some of those women to contribute to the home. Did women fight for economic equality just so they could spend the resources on themselves (and as some have pointed out, on their kids)? If that's the case, then what is the nature of the love these women have for their husbands?

The male flip side of this is that as women are now devoting more time to the work place, they don't have as much time for domestic chores. In the name of a more holistic evolution of society, this is where men as well must step in to contribute to the domestic aspects of the home. If a man refuses to help a working woman with household chores, then the question comes up again, what is the nature of love that the man has for his wife?

That someone's ancestors held a view does not necessarily make it valid today. Society evolves.

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@ujujoan, dont mind them, they expect the woman to do the house chores and still go to work so that she can pay some bills.

at the end of the day who is more responsible?

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why not?if the woman will be taking care of the home front alone what is bad if the man can take care of the finances? or is he complaining?

they could also do the home work together and share financial responsibility.

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Sadly, people's experiences have taught them wrongly and that's why many women will say lailai, but in reality, love is giving and sharing, so a marriage should be one where both people involved share everything. The woman does not have to put in all she earns but she can definitely contribute something every now and then or based on agreement between them.

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[table]Quote from: freshmoney on February 05, 2010, 12:51 PM

Most espeically when you marry a PRADA,CHANNEL,GUCCI girl, then you are totally in for it! I am facing danger as well, but thank God she contributes just 30%. My wife is a fashion freak and she can go for a 1500$ handbag, so you should know I am totally in for it!!!! Angry Angry We are married for some years now,except that freaky lust for fashion, she is a totally good girl!

Good question there, but if your wife seems to be too dependent, then don't let open your salary to her, or she will be expectant of 50% every month if not more! All girls do that and if yours doesn't do that now, believe me shes gonna do that later! The best thing for a man is if you get,let's assume, 80 hundred dollars a month, tell her that you make half of it monthly; some women might even go to the extent of setting up private investigators to know their husband's monthly income! Thats absurd!

Not that you ain't gonna share anything with your wife, but its good to be wise, cuz women are simpletons. They have a very small brain, and you must lie to them to live with them! Cool Sad

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Hey watch it! Don't generalise, okay? Not all ladies are lavish when it comes to money. SOME ARE FRUGAL. like ME. So kindly take back some words and phrases. Merci Bouqoui

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Marriage is a partnership Institution not a sole Proprietorship.

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A BIG YES of course a man shud be responsible 4 all financial stuffs dts y hes d man nw abi?

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No. As long as d woman is working, she shouldn't allow d man 2 carry d borden of d family alone. xcept she isn't working bt at least, she can help.

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a man has the responsibity of all finanancial espenses, but the woman has to assist if a man cannot carry all the financial needs alone. they are to help in all aspects.

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@dayleke,

Any man that decides to 'give it you hard' because you help your wife hard and do what you can to keep your marriage stable, really needs to change his way of thinking.

I applaud and admire your efforts. Don't let any no-good, lazy chauvanist tell you that helping your wife at home is wrong.

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@dayleke,

Any man that decides to 'give it to you hard' because you help your wife hard and do what you can to keep your marriage stable, really needs to change his way of thinking.

I applaud and admire your efforts. Don't let any no-good, lazy chauvanist tell you that helping your wife at home is wrong.

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Haba!

What has happened to men of today? they appear to be so lazy

I cant imagine men shinning away from thier God given responsiblity which is to take care of the woman knowing that the woman was made from the rib

of a man.

Men! did Go create the Adam and Eve on the same day?God said it is not good for the man to be alone,the man was lonely i will make him a helper,God

created the woman to help the man.

Even after Adam and Eve ate the friut,God called out for Adam and asked him where he was because he gave him the responsibility of taking care of

everything in the garden including eve.

So i think men of the 60's understood the fact that a woman was only a supporter with her own given responsibities different from the man's.

Marriages of the 60's lasted compared to the shame we have today called marriage.

Only God can bring back the beauty of marriage until then we will keep praying.

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but 50/50 is too much

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My girl made me to understand that it is the role of a man to be the bread winner while the woman can take care of the home front. But there should be consideration on who makes what and how much. This factors and many more determines if a man should take care of all the bills.

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If it can be done,there's nothing wrong with it(ie the man bearing the "WHOLE" thingy) but the environment is also a deciding factor.Where we are based,everybody cannot be a nurse or a doctor and if living within your means means that my wife and i have to operate a FULL joint account(direct deposit),well so be it.

If there is love then understanding matters.Helping out one's mate is not an option.Are there particular chores meant for men and women?maybe, but that doesn't excuse the other partner from shying away from responsibilities.

As a man,i get my kids ready for school(this include bathing,making sure they are properly dressed and making sure they eat after preparing their meals) and walking them to the bus-stop to go to school in the mornings that their mom worked overnite and this after going going to pick them up from my sister's place at 6am.

Am not trying to bore y'all with my life history but what i'm saying is where there is love and understanding it's all possible. It doesn't make one less of a man to cook for the family if the woman of the house is at work and also to vacuum and do laundry.

I know am gonna get it hard for this.

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That's the direction you ladies have been getting wrong these days which brings problems into marriage.

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^^^

lol this shizz be crackin me uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuup!!!!

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A man who agrees to this attitude is not doing self , wife and family any favors. What if he dies suddenly leaving the children with a mother who has never worked a day in her life. Obviously what she will do is urgently search for another husband - destroying her children in the process of another marriage. Girl there is dignity in labor, there are great blessings in sharing.

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Well it depends on the couple. If my husband expects that I should do most if not all of the domestic work, then ya, he better be ready to bear most if not all the financial expenses----even if I am also making an income.

If we both have 2 arms and legs but I'm the only one dealing with the domestic work, then best believe that even if we are both working, he must take care of financial expenses.

Men always expect so much from women. We must work, clean, cook, sex, take care of everything. What do ya'll do. The least you can do is bring in the bacon.

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They are really not telling you the secret. It adds up to more tax on interest income to the government.

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30gs total household income, living in a luxury apartment and kids go to boarding school which they pay for (not on some scholarship or underprivilege discount)?

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sagamite

ive seen it ok

i have friends wiv single moms on 30gs

that went to boarding skool

obviously she saved!! and they own a double apartment!

think. . . . ok

if u get 30gs for 10 yrs what does that add up to??

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No go that far. Yes, a family can go very well with £50K as you rightly said but definitely not as far as you put it especially in London.

Take home pay on £50K is about £35K. A luxury flat anywhere in London (lets say 3-bed since you say they have kids) is a minimum of £1.3K per month if you are lucky to find such cheap luxury. Hence £15.6K a year.

Minimum for a private school is about £7K a year for school fees alone (not books, uniform, excursions etc). So lets say it is 2 kids, that is 14K.

So calculating based only on minimum costs for living a luxury life (not even calculating on averages), you have barely £5K left to spend on all other essentials (council tax, gas/eletricity/water bills, petrol, food, underground/bus pass, car tax/insurance/maintenance etc). Not possible.

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God created the woman as a helper to the man, so the woman should help in financial expenses (if she can) but the man should not take her help for granted.

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your husband isn't in a marriage, he is enslaved. You would end up being a single mum with this attitude.

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^^

On one side i like your post and on the other side i dislike some part of it. Times have changed time to move beyond some wrong notions you ladies have in your head. Those wrong ideas are parts of the foundation to the crises we have in marriages today.

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That's not fair sister, the family is whole unit and no need for segregation.

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once bitten forever shy.what i make is my kids'and mine.what my husband makes is for us all.

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Cheiii, man don suffer

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YES, YES AND YES AGAIN. WOMEN ARE GODDESSES MEANT TO BE WORSHIPPED AND PAMPERED OVER AND OVER AGAIN. MEN ARE THEIR SLAVES WHO MUST SUBMIT ALL INCOME FOR HER PEDICURE.

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Errrrm nope cos on 50k the guy will pay exactly 10626 in tax. They will just be okay if mummy is not working and they might not necessarily send kids to private sch. while living in luxury apt.

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People like cumin here and chattin shizz

Who the hell told u 50k is not enuff to support a hsehold

Haha in fact on less than that mommy is sittin at hme and kids are goin private skool whilst they livin in a luxury apartment

Just to clear that up sha people shuld learn to say the one they know instead of guessin how people live in london

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Marriage is all about sharing!

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Men should not be bothered with such topic.

Here is a secret, the more indifferent you are towards your wife's income and daily financial contributions, the more intimate the relationship becomes

, and trust me she would offer financial supports without you asking her

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@ cyberfreak

I said that just to take a piss at the ladies always crying equal right but will not want to take responsibilities. We have seen some on this thread.

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@pupetmasta,

why did you have to end your post with 'if she wants equal rights she must earn it' ? You spoiled it with that comment. So normally, it is against the rules to give her equal rights until she does something to 'earn it'?

@crackles,

lovely reply.

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nope that is not right the woman should learn to be supportive too

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hehe! He shouldnt bear it all!

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We must share everything, chores and bills. Why will I not want to take care of my kids under the disguise "it is a woman's job" and y will she spend her money on her self alone under the disguise "My man has paid all the bills". If she wants equal right she must earn it.

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