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Single And Living Alone, How Do You Manage?

If ur single and you live by yourself and work

how do you manage evrything that goes on around you.

first, cleaning up your space, cooking, bills, keeping in touch with people

getting to work, hanging out?

how do you manage it all?!!

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LOL.

Mehn, living alone tends to put in a selfish frame of mind sha.

YOU, YOURSELF and FREUD YOU

its nice sha, especially if you grew up with a big family

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Living alone for a lengthy period of time eventually catches up with you because you have become so selfish that anyone in your space becomes a problem. Therefore, you are likely to have problems living with any partner in future

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hello nairalanders, please i'm looking for the member with id darkgodes, if she reads this, tell her to email me gravityoutsider@yahoo.com, i need to speak to her, thanks

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I so long to live alone. presently, my younger brother and sister lives with me in my 2 bedroom apartment.

i go to work as easly as 7am and close at 9pm. my sat. is as busy as any weekday. i run a weekend programe in one of the university.

on sunday, i go to church at 8am

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Yeah that woman really tries

e no eazy

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simple, i self-service all they and party all night

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@Mustay

these people really believe we dont know them

another faceless coward.

@Naomi, its Nairaland,

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another user behind the mask

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*ignoring all form of spam*

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rofl. Abeg ooo

Wake up late and have to rush everything leaving a mess in the wake - oh yeah i know

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One does get use to livin on their own.

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After a while it becomes routine.

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I know.

The Q is How do you manage?

how do you get by with all the issues involved , especially when no one is helping

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get a boyfriend, we know what the real complain's bout.

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It's you who needs to get a life,you sound like a person who can't cope being alone with no self esteem,that's very needy & pathetic. So you're actually the misreable one.

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There is nothing wrong to have your own flat and living alone

that is what being independent is all about.

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if you're mature and still single, you need to get a life.

stop decieving yourself and dying in silence. swallow your pride and admit how miserable your life is.

get a life

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You don miss road as usual.

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You're the one who needs to get a life,you silly bigot.

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If you are mature and living alone, you need to get a life

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Hmm, you really seem capable and sturdy

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I live alone with my 2 kids and work full time. I am able to cope because my work isnt stressful, i only make sure of my head and my computer not my strenght.

i get up as soon as i can, take my bath, bath the kids, dress them up 4 school and serve them breakfast. while they are having their breakfast i am dressing up for work.

I drop them in school around 9am and i'm off to work. After work (10.30-7.15 or 11.30-8.00) I pick them from the minder. When we get home i fix their dinner, take few minutes asking what they did in school and off they go to bed.

After sending them to bed, i arrange their uniform and school bag, my cloth for the next day, listen to new or watch new and sleep off anytime between 11.30-12am.

On Saturdays i sleep as much as i desire and leave them to do whatever they want to do- watch TV, have bubble bath, play games. When i am tired of sleeping i get up and make us breakfast. Clean d house, do washing, at times make enough stew/soup for the week. Do whatever i then like to do- watch TV, make phone callsetc. If there is party we go for it, if i feel like visiting whoever we pack ourselves inside the car and off we go, occasionally take them to eateries, go for shopping and get back home whatever time we choose to, have dinner and off to bed.

Sundays wake early enough to prepare for church, have breakfast and goes to church. After church most time we just go home and do whatever we feel like and i am preparing for the next day.

I'm so used to that now except when i take time off town, i have a great friend the kids stay with when i'm not in town so i make good use of my holiday. Also its a different situation when they are on holidays, we stay with my friend so all i have to do is wake in the morning take my bath and off to work, like this period.

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Hehe, well if you were working out to appeal to the wife, then I guess it paid off did it not? Mission accomplished!

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living with people and living alone has its pros and cons, if you live alone you stand the risk of being disconnected from people socially especially in a country like uk which is from experience,also one gets bored and despondent easily but it has its advantages like being totally free and having all the privacy,i live alone presently but i dont work just lectures and home and the social outings and what not but i and my brother are moving together because i v gotten fed up of the life cause i was nearly going bunkers

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Well, basically it’s not fun at all. Especially for fun-loving, lazy people like us. I love company and I kind of feel really really lonely staying alone in my apartment. But over the 2yrs I’ve been living this way, I’ve developed a routine which I think is quite effective.

Monday – Friday:

 Wake up by 5.30am, attend morning mass

 Come back and fix myself light breakfast while I dress my bed and clean out my room (and wash the dishes immediately)

 Leave for work by 8.00am and come back by 7.00pm

 Have dinner, watch News and any movie I want to or go on a date if I have any

 Settle down to do any work I brought home or any study I want to by 10.00pm.

 I never stay awake beyond 11.00pm, no matter what!!!

Saturday

 Wake by 7.00am (No morning mass)

 Do my laundry/clean up

 Go shopping by 12noon

 Go visiting/outing/swimming

Sunday

 Make my meals for the week and keep in the refrigerator

 Pick out my wardrobe for the week (and I stick with that)

 Go for evening mass/benediction

 Come back home by 7.00

 Watch any news I can till bedtime

 I usually sleep early on Sundays, its become a habit over time

Of course there might be some changes once in a while but basically it’s the same and I’m kind of comfortable with it.

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LOL

getting help sounds like a good idea. . . u cld also think of buying home cooked meals to freeze

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You guys have it good.

try living alone when you can't cook.

In fact, i now know how to cook indomie 15 different ways. . .

It's also shocking when i survey the mess i make. . .

was thinking i might get someone to clean around the house once a week

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Thanks Hotness, Saturday early shopping looks good.

but one is tempted to sleep long on friday nights

and if one goes out, it would make it worse.

Like you said, finding out personal rhythm is key

@Tollu,

im trying to get used to it ooh

after living most of my life with Plenty people.

i like being alone, but i cnt be for too long ooh

i have to go out!

Sunday service is at Ten, i dont hv any earlier service nearby.

chei.

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I tried to use my sundays but One has to go to church.

which may even take up most of the day.

I guess planning in this case is everything.

Light meals during the week, i try but they finish so fast!

Planning out wardrobe, i dont think this is very possible

im a bit indecisive and the day may affect what i want to wear

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there is nothing like having your own space but i must admit I'd rather have people around me

with living alone u have to develop a routine and stick to it as much as possible

if you do all your washing up and cleaning over the weekend, there isnt much pressure over the week

plan out your wardrobe for the whole week and lay everything out within easy reach, that way u don't mess up your room lookin for stuff when u are rushing to get ready in the mornings.

experiment with light meals during the week, not necessarily microwave meals but easy to prepare stuff. . . its easier to manage plus u can look forward to a elaborate meals over the weekend.

heres a tip, sundays i reserve for me time! I allow myself a long lie-in and just chill out. all my housework and personal grooming is done on Saturdays to get them out of the way and i do my socialising on Fridays and Saturday nights ( i do hav friends popping over during the week tho) so sundays are for chilling out, catching up on some much needed sleep and the bits and pieces u never get around to doing.

the trick is to get into a routine that will help ease the pressure

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I think I'm kind of like jay-bee. I'm a bit of a loner and when people come around/when I'm going out I have to prepare myself mentally, physically, psychologically etc :-) I think I just enjoy spending time with myself, but I'm trying not to overdo it by still keeping my friends around etc.

As for household chores, I do them without even thinking. After eating, I wash the plates immediately, if I have washing to do, I could do it first think in the morning, or when I get back from work at night even if I'm tired. I dust and clean as I go. . . Yeah, my room is a bit messy but I never let it get to the point where I have to take out 2-3 hours of my precious time to sort it out. I think doing things on-the-go helps to reduce the load.

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Living alone is not something everone can enjoy as we all have different personalities. If u don't have loner tendencies, it'll be really hard getting used to but you will.

It's the best way to live.

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I appreciate the space and the fact you can plan what You want to do per time.

But theres no one to help around,

my bedroom is in a state cos i hv to rush to work.

i cook only at night and sometimes i fall asleep eating.

its really tiring , i get to go out only at weekends which sometimes

i use to really sleep.

kai!

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i have been called a loner as i appreciate my space and don't do hanging out with friends thingy.

all about making the dosh this days.

staying alone in the western world is a lot easy as one keeps busy with round the clock programmes on tv, footie, financial news/stock market to give u the adrenalin rush, occasional visits from the shorties to keep stress in check et al

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As i just learn am nko, wetin u learn?

pussy_full of nothingness

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