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Spare The Rod And Spoil The Child. Do You Agree?

Do you physically punish your children as a method of correction, as recommended in the following OT passages?

Prov 13:24: "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes (diligently)."

Prov 19:18: "Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying."

Prov 22:15: "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him."

Prov 23:13: "Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die."

Prov 23:14: "Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell (Shoel)."

Prov 29:15: "The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame."

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yes but within limits,GOD did say spare the rod not spare the koboko with ten mouths or spare the punch in the ribs or spare the humongous leather belt or at times buckle and spoil the child

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I shall have to go really mad before I would put hit my children in anyway. From a very early age, I have taught my older son to reason things out and he is making great strides at become a good critical thinker. He is showing great signs at reading people's emotions too. Each time I point to him that a certain behaviour is unwelcome, he understands it immediately and never does that again. My philosophy is to try and arrive at decision with his full participation in the thinking behind the decision. I never drop it until he shows sign that he has really understood what I mean.

I very rarely shout at him. On the rare occasions that I do, I make sure that I later apologise. If I don't apologise in time, he will come and ask that I apologise, which I am ever so please to do.

I see a lot of parents shout at their kids, call them a sorts of names, treating them like they are non-human. If you treat a child/children like this is it a surprise that at some point only the rod seems like a solution?

It is sign of parental failure when the rod becomes a solution. It means you would have neglected you duties as a parent at the earlier ages of your child.

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i will have a fighting room in my house when i start havng kids. u can't take chances with these kids. make sure a few eyes are bruised and a couple of teeth are displaced or better still knocked out.

my dad only beat us ones. we never ever misbehaved around the guy till we got older. my mother never missed buy buying or plucking a a cane/stick on her way from the market or where-ever.

my uncle's did not beat nor shout at us but the u'd beg to have ur wrist slit when talk to u

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i was physically punished and verbally spanked.

What worked for me then, cane!.

and as iice said, one has to understand the kids

to know the right kinda punishment

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Some need spanking, others need talking

The thing is to know when to do which and who to do it to.

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What constitute punishment to you? Did you mean physically hurting a child with a smack from your hand, a belt, a piece of wood, or metal?

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i believe in punishment, routine and structure,

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