I am wondering, after a few conversations I had with my husband on this topic, if there is a general view in Nigeria about submission in a marriage.
It seems to me, from what I've read here and there that things are changing but when I look at my nigerian girlfriends in their marriages I still see some kind of "setback" from them, at least when in public. For example I rarely see serious conversations shared in a group of men and women, the few issues I've been discussing with my husband's male friends were always about family/chldren. When it comes to politics, culture, business they switch to their language or move to another room, which makes even the women who speak the language "not welcomed".
Even on more personnal topics : daily life and organization of the household, solving problems between husband and wife, topics discussed with the wife etc. I still feel, through my husband's behaviors some kind of expectations for me to be "submissive" which can sometimes feel completely unacceptable from my own point of view while it seems like "no big deal" to him as he already feels that he has lowered his expectations to the minimum.
So, my question is, how is considered submission in nowadays' marriages? What are the important things, those that tend to disappear? Is it still called "submission" or is it considered "respect" ? What do men and women think about it ?