In need of help .
what do u do when you have a hubby you feel does not love and appreciate you?
This is the ordel of a woman with kids that the hubby is soooooo tied to his relative's aprons
He has his brother and nephew staying in the house without the consent of the woman yet she never complained up until the younger brother beat her up. The boy later came to apologize and the wife forgave him but told the hubby that the boy has to move out of the house which the husband refused.
Every week at least 2 friends of his from their village too pumps in .So basically there is not privacy at all and he will be in the living room with them till late at night before he enters the bedroom or even sleep with his brothers in the living room as the house is just two bedroom apartment.
Anytime the wife refuses to cook for the brothers he withholds her feeding allowance for weeks and would not even feed his 4 & 2 YEARS children. IT means no money for the wife for weeks or months until he needs sex.
My shock is that his is supposedly a xtian brother from the south west.
Then the brother cooks for the husband and they will move the bed to the living room and sleep together (Husband, brother (27) and Nephew (15).
Once when the hubby told the younger bro to do some work around the house. The bro fought him and almost broke the husbands head so he does not frown again at what the younger bro does . he gets away with everything EVEN BEATING THE WIFE UP .
Is it true wives cant tell in –laws to leave the house in Yoruba land? The wife even suggested renting an apartment for the boys else where but the hubby does not have the liver to do it.
Now the wife stays in her room with he r kids cos she cant even get o hold the remote control in living room cos it like its glued to the bro in –laws hand.
The hubby always tell her to calm down that its for a while and its gone on for 5 years .
The brother in law controls everything even hold the keys to the new house that the husband is building.
The brother now sleeps with the hubby while the wife sleeps with her kids separately.
Tried bringing pastors in and counselors but the hubby runs from any body that tried to talk sense into him .
The wife even tried going away from home once for a day but nobody looked for her ad the kids instead the brother went to the marketand started cooking the elder sister too left her husband 's house to come and wash he hubby's clothes.
The wife is gainfully employed.