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Using First Names For Husband & Wife (Father & Mother) in the Family?

Most families wants to foster closeness with every member.

Is it right for mama and papa to be calling each other by their first names in front of their kids and outsiders?

Is it right for kids to be calling their parents by their first names?

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Hi thanks for posting this but really I would like you to give me a lowdown of what is really happening presently at Yabatech.

Thanks.

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The issue of either parent calling theirselves by first names or pet names is no big deal it only shows there is love in the marriage and dats important cos love conquers all.But for the kids to call their parents by their first names is not a good idea.

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my husband and i call each other by our first names and by the pet names we gave to each other depending on our whims i think that's super cool i cant imagine calling him baba whateva that's just wack

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My folks have been married for 26 yrs, and they've always and still call themselves Darling. It's become so normal to me and my bruvs, that it doesn't ring any strange bell, it's when visitors(new ones esp) come around and they are like hmmm, that i notice it.

My dad is even more used to IYAWO MI, he calls mom that anywhere, anytime. Hearing and not seeing them, you'll think they are newly wedded.

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There's nothing bad in calling ur partner honey,sweetiepie,sugar and d rest but i'd rather call him by his initials like my neighbours will call themselves.I really love it wen they r calling each other.

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@adesodgi. Na u sabi. my son and daughter call me "AYE". Now, let me explain. People call me alhe sometimes,short form for alheri-yes-. so my kids(4 and 1) took out the lh and replaced it with y and BANG aye! isnt dat so original? i just love it and will insist dey call me dat even wen they're all grown up! so there!!!

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is there any crime in that?i call my dad by his first name,so i call miya mum also..its cool,its just gonna let u pour out ur mind wen ur disturbed...they are more like miya friends than miya parents..

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@ Layi - hey! very funny.

I see nothing wrong in Parents calling each other names in front of the Children or an outsider. Infact, for someone like me hearing them, it will give me more joy that my parents love each other anytime I hear them call.

As for me I will prefer calling one another pet name or by our first names but the children have to stick to Daddy and Mummy.

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@angela K

Aunt: Layi, hope you aint busy?

Me: No ma

Aunt: Ok, plz tell Love that i am here

Layi: I've got no girlfriend ma.

Aunt. En en. I've heard. Ok Call me Love

Me: I'm serious. I've got none

Aunt: Not your own Love. I'm talking about my own Love..

Me: Oh! Sorry ma

Its not that funny though but shows how ridiculous some pet names could be.

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I really don't think calling your spouse Sweetie, Honey, or Sugar is fake, if it sounds Ok to you, then you can go with the flow, but I don't do itall de time! I rather call my husband by my adaptation of his firstname, and sometimes call him Sweetie! Calling your spouse Mama.............. or Papa(Baba)..................... is just wack (to me)! But no one will believe the no. of people who do just that in Nigeria!

As for calling each other by first names, I see nothing wrong with it, but I believe that for the sake of promoting Intimacy, Couples should try to do better.

And for Kids calling parents by their first names, sounds kind of weird doesn't it?

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I'll go with first names. Calling your spouse "Mama Bomboy" is screwed up like Layi said and I think calling him/her "Sweetie, Honey, Butter" is too FAKE. I just laugh at some yeye couples that call each other "Sugar, Salt, etc" My kids can't be dumb so they won't pick up what I call my hubby.

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Cushman yeah they do. Alot... especially their mother. The just shout "hadiza"... "Aisha".. And whatnot. Infact i called soo many "hausa moms/women" by their name. The kids sometimes say "mama"... but the name calling is more abunan.

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I have a pet name for my mom; I call her Skipper. I call my father "pops." I can't even fathom the thought of calling them by their first names. It just seems, odd.

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I had an aunty who calls her husband "Love". Last christmas 'they' came to my Dad's house (annual reunion) for celeberation. At a point, d woman called me and:

Aunt: Layi, Se o busy?

Me: rara ma

Aunt: Ok, Jo bami lo so fun 'Love' pe mo wa nibi

Layi: Mi o ni girlfriend ma.

Aunt. En en. Mo tigbo. Ok Bami pe Love

Me: Mi o ni se

Aunt: Love ti e ko. Love temi ni mo n so..

Me: Oh! Sorry ma

I think its nice havin pet names but to avoid the scenario above,let's do with a real name. Methinks callin my wife by her first name is lovely and romantic.

Why would i call my wife "Mama kelly"- She's my wife first of all b4 beign a mother.

Why would i call my wife "Sweet sugar"- Lets get real, abeg.

I'ld prefer to call her Latoya,Demi,Princess,Wesley, vexxy or Lizzy. Beautiful names

As for the kids. I'll strike a deal. Anytime u call me or my wife another name other than Daddy or Mummy- Just make sure you're with a cane.

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