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What Are The True Virtues For A Successful Marriage?

So many broken homes,broken hearts and shattered dreams.Many lived in The fairy tale world until they came face to face with the harsh realities of the marriage institution.The havocs in so many marriages call for urgent attention on the part of the Romeos and Juliets who are yet to tie the knot.What are the true virtues for a  successful marriage?

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Selflessness -> if you wanted life to be about yourself, you should have stayed single

Contentment -> never take each other for granted,  Before you go look for the "butterflies" somewhere else, remember what you've been through to get the comfortable and loving routine you have at home. The grass is no greener in the neighbour's garden

Patience -> Marriage is something that can only be built over time. Long time. What you're doing today, you will reap tomorrow

Faith -> sometimes you'll be walking in the dark, with only your faith in the marriage lighting the way. Marriage itself is a step of faith

Love. no butterflies love, the love you give and are at the same time blessed with for someone you know the dark sides', love when this person disapoints you, hurts you, deceives you,  but also the love he still has for you even after you've hurt him, disapointed him, deceived him,

I believe marriage is successful when you stop waiting for a gain and love "for free", deeply out of your soul, spirit and heart, when you've seen the worst but still hope for the best, when you know nothing will tear you appart, when you can experience God's love through your partner: unbreakable, unending, non judgmental, forgiving,

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I sent in a post on the 10th of February this year in which i enumerated a few things about success in marriage.Although my website is down for upgrading now,but i think the contents of the post are still relevant. Please find the post below.God bless you.

Men and women these days have gradually turned themselves into intimacy-freaks.

Out of the myriads of ladies available, the man decides on just one of them to marry.

The decision to marry the particular lady in question is likely to be borne out of

The qualities possessed by the lady above others (and may be prayers).

Some of these could be her physical beauty, her good sense of dressing,

Her charming behaviour, her good sense of humour etc.

The lady may also accept the marriage proposal from the man because of his good looks,

His good income, his charm, humour etc. The man may be full of praises for her at the initial

Stages of the marriage and vice versa. One wonders therefore why any of such a couple,

For instance, could be caught with sexual immorality or loss of interest in the relationship.

The root of this could be traced to the Garden of Eden when

Adam and Eve ate the fruit of the knowledge of good and evil (Gen 3:2-7).

This has to do with the soul of mankind which is the seat of emotion, intellect etc.

The soul also houses man’s inner character (containing man’s true thoughts and feelings).

Eating the fruit brought the knowledge of good and evil.

Knowledge is part of the intellect which is seated in the soul.

The resultant judgement from God was addressed to their soul.

The woman’s desire was directed to the husband (not just any man) --Gen. 3:16

While the man was commanded to take charge over his wife (not just any willing woman)---Gen.3:16

The man and the woman acquired the ability to do both good and evil after eating this fruit.

They also acquired the ability to discern between good and evil.

Your spouse will definitely have shortcomings.

Some of these could be deliberately done to spite you or get you irritated (for whatever reason).

Talk things over with him/her.

Remember that God called all the parties involved in the

Eating of the fruit and found out everything (Gen. 3:7-13).

Having spoken with him/her, remember to keep feeding your soul

With thoughts in line with God’s judgements/injunction.

This way, you keep working on yourself to keep the fire

Of your love burning for your spouse.

The erring partner should make the necessary adjustments

And keep feeding his/her soul with beautiful thoughts for his/her partner.

Both parties must keep working towards the success of their marriage and/or love life.

This is part of what is being taught at www.godswillfoundation.org.

Visit them now, sign up for their newsletter (to learn more)

And you will be glad you did.

Dr. I. Aigboje

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trust is most important and it comes before love cos you cannot truly love someone u do not trust.

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patience is a virtue.

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The true virtue of a lasting marriage is tolerance, patience and maturity.

Dont try to be the winner always, at times let u just have to let go on issues.

I do tell youths desiring to get married that the most marital problem is as a result of

individual's difference due to parental upbringing.

But we must be prepare to CHANGE and learn from each other.

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Most marriages are run by husbands who do not know how to LOVE and wives who do not know how to SUBMIT!

Educational Psychologist believe strongly in the application of "motivaion theory" as inducement in learning process.

In business administration, modern management employs motivation for the realization of business objectives.

Marriage as a business has the need for motivation to succedd under the dynamic managerial skill and abilities of the husband as Chief Executive Officer of home.

Incidentally most men do not have what it takes to manage marriage as a business. The key issue here is that the man must master the principle of LOVE and educate/motivate his wife to SUBMIT for the business to succeed!

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Mutual - Understanding

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Recharge card, malt and chicken lap always.

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LOVE

TOLORANCE

PATIANCE

FAITHFULLNESS

UNDERSTANDING

HARDWORKING/MONEY

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First and d most important, KNOW GOD!

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GOD FIRST. all others will be like you are married in heaven

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"A marriage is said to be sucessful when a man makes money than his wife can spend."

-Acidosis-

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FRIENDSHIP is the key to any successful marriage. Love they say is a token of it. If you marry your best friend, you will be able to understand, trust and tolerate each other. I'm an example of it.

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Righteousness.

Peace

Understanding.

Faithfulness.

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Women be submissive and don't question ANYTHING!!!!

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Contentment. Aka Don't Be Greedy.

From Alawiye Google.

“We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”

“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.”

“Contentment is natural wealth, luxury is artificial poverty”

“Contentment is a pearl of great price, and whoever procures it at the expense of ten thousand desires makes a wise and a happy purchase”

“We may pass violets looking for roses. We may pass contentment looking for victory.”

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Gender functions.

Women are trying to act and be like men, and Men are doing the same vice versa. Both can't be happy being something they are not, so they look else where.

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Try reading the book 'Love and Respect ''.

You'll learn more than enough

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Below are the key things that must follow in equal ratio between the man and woman for a successful marriage

MAN                                                                          WOMAN

-LOVE  <------------------------------------------------>LOVE

-TOLERANCE<------------------------------------------>TOLERANCE

-PATIENCE<--------------------------------------------->PATIENCE

-UNDERSTANDING<------------------------------------->UNDERSTANDING

-FAITHFULNESS<--------------------------------------->FAITHFULNESS

-HONESTY<-------------------------------------------->HONESTY

-COMMUNICATION<------------------------------------>COMMUNICATION

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The fear of GOD.

when you have the fear of God all other things shall be added unto your marriage.

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One of the greatest success of marriage is to find out what your partner wants and do your best to meeting his or her needs in love.

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THE G-FACTOR(GOD)

MONEY

GOOD INTIMACY.

Every other thing can come behind.

Before u disagree with me, the 3 above are a common denominator for all of us, black, white or yellow.

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The  most important quality for a successful marriage is selflessness.

Most of the issues that create problems arise out of each party wanting to advance its own interest.

When both partners are ready to think of their own interests less, and their partner's interest more, success is more certain.

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@top-kin WORD.

You just read ma mind, that is the key point.

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Just 3 words: Trust, Tolerance & Love Q.E.D

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To add to the list.

Conflict Resolution ---- The couples must avoid involving third party during conflicts/differences and learn to resolve them on their own.

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Marry a like minded man/woman.

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HI u always talk about mariage, re u married

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Mutual respect. If there is anything you do not want done to you then do not do it to your spouse. Do not take each other for granted. There is nothing like woman's work or man's work. If your husband is having a hectic month at work and the grass needs mowing then get the mower out there and mow (I will personally just pay someone to do it LOL). If your wife does not feel like cooking dinner then you cook it or round up your wife and kids and go eat out. Marriage is give and take not TAKE TAKE TAKE. Selfishness has no place in a marriage. It is not about YOU. It is about the family unit

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the answer is relative to person(s).mt is respect.

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Love

Commitment

Trust

Understanding

Sincerity

Cooperation

Communication[quote][/quote]

Real Point

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lover covereth multitude of sin

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If righteousness was that important Benny Hinn wouldn't have been divorced by now

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It all boils down to these two:"TOLERANCE and PATIENCE".

It is not lack of love that makes marriages to collapse nor is it unfaithfulness. Rather, it is couples that are tolerant and patient that reap the fruit called success in marriage.

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-LOVE

-TOLERANCE

-PATIENCE

-UNDERSTANDING

-FAITHFULNESS

-HONESTY

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Love

Tolerance

Trust

Understanding

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Mutual respect, Openness and Communication

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YES! With TOTAL TOLERANCE

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Understanding lo mata! (yoruba language)

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Love is the greatest of all end of.

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Love

Commitment

Trust

Understanding

Sincerity

Cooperation

Communication

etc

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it all depends on what your idea of a successful marriage is:

- if you think that a wife who will do and execute as she is told is a successful marriage then OBEDIENCE will be the virtue needed.

- if you think that a wife who is not afraid to tell her husband anything IS a successful marriage then HONESTY will be the virtue needed.

- if you think that a wife who lets her husband go clubbing with his mates is a successful marriage then TRUST will be the virtue needed.

- if you think that a wife who can stay faithful for yrs while you work abroad is a successful marriage then FIDELITY will be the virtue needed.

-if you think that a wife who give all her money to husband is a successful marriage then GENEROSITY is what you are looking for.(beware, some can view that as the virtue of STUPIDITY)

the list is endless but you surely catch my drift. lol!

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DO UNTO YOUR SPOUSE AS YOU WOULD HAVE HER/HIM DO UNTO YOU.

But there are no perfect human on earth, we only have humans with perfect intentions.

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