Marriage quotes represent the heart of certain people. Nigerians have a lot of them, and their quotes are quite wise and topical. So let’s check a few of them and see what stands behind them.
Marriage is a big deal for all the people. And it obviously matters for Nigerians. You can tell this from the quotes they have regarding a married couple and the love between them. Their quotes treasury has a great number of sayings and proverbs that are still topical for married couples of nowadays. So let’s talk about a few of them.
We`ll start with the one that says: “When an only kolanut is presented with love, it carries with it more value than might otherwise be associated with a whole pod of several kolanuts.” Great words, don’t you think?
This saying is very close to the verse from the Bible that goes like this: “Better is a dinner of herbs where love is, than a stalled ox and hatred therewith.” (Proverbs 15:17) You could not say better. Love between a husband and a wife is way more important than their welfare. Those who have years and years of married life behind them know what I mean when saying this.
God established marriage to save the first man (Adam) on Earth from being lonely. Thus, he gave him Eve and united them as a family. Love was the biggest priority for their marriage, and it still is for marriages today. So as you see, there is nothing more important than love between the spouses; nothing else really matters when they love each other.
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Let’s move on. The other great Nigerian saying about marriage I found goes like this: “When the elephants fight it is the grass that suffers.” Remember this saying next time you think of having a fight with your spouse in front of your children: they are the ones that suffer the most. Moreover, they are likely to take this kind of attitude into their future marriage. So watch out; you are about to plant some bad seeds that will give fruit in the lives of your children one day.
While still on the topic I will add one more saying: “It is the habit that a child forms at home, that follows them to their marriage.” It truly is a blessing if parents realize what a big influence their bringing up has on the future marriage of their child! Family traditions, family prayers, family dinners will all be brought into his/her marriage.
Ask yourself what can your child (or if you do not have one think of your future children) take from your family when he will start his own? It is never too late to reconsider the family values and aim for better ones in an attempt to influence you child’s future. Go for it!
“A woman who is not successful in her own marriage has no advice to give her younger generations” is a quote that shows the value of motherhood in Nigerian culture. She does not suffer with the idea of making a career instead of staying at home and raising her children.
Things change now as women tend to believe that the best way to self-actualize is through a successful career. However, with this way of thinking they are losing an opportunity of a lifetime: to help their child grow surrounded with love, care and good example of his mother.
Finally, my favorite saying: “Marriage is like a groundnut, you have to crack it to see what is inside.” It is true. Though the Bible left us commands on how to live in marriage, living within though commands is different for all people.
We do have a high moral standard left by the Bible. Nevertheless, I am talking about differences habits-wise or lifestyle-wise. You will never know the depth of person’s heart before the marriages. It takes years of hard work to open up his heart and show the deepest values and struggles. And marriage is one of the best instruments of doing that!
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