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What Do I Do With This Pregnancy?

Hello people. i have a problem.

A friend of mine is pregnant. Now thats not supposed to be a problem because she is married already, but where the problem comes in is that she already has six children and she is 45. It actually happened mistakenly and she is not her self at all. she confided in me and i want to give the best advice i can. thats why i have come here because she is contemplating aborting the baby. Her first child is already in law school and her 25th year anivasery is this december, so u get her trauma.

What do u guys suggest?

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Plzzzz, tell her to havé that precious gift in her womb. If thé baby happens to be a girl and she doesn't want to keep it kindly contact me, i Will welcome her with my full arms. Do not kill an innocent baby.

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Have the baby and make it number 7

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When kids grow up and start to leave home one after the other, either to work in other places or marriage, the house becomes empty and lonely for the mums. So I subscribe to this new addition that would probably keep the mum company and busy in future.

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I think it is the Silver Baby.

25th Anniversary . . . with a baby? He needs to name the baby . . .Silver

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Two words: Tubal ligation.  It's probably less stress than repeatedly getting pregnant, it sounds like this isn't the first "accidental" pregnancy. 

Working on the premise that contraceptives (if they use them) haven't been effective, I'm surprised she hadn't considered this after her 6th child.

Still, I'm curious as to what she did in the end.

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hope she had the baby.

na these lastborns dey enjoy pass.

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she should keep it .

buh if she doesn't want to she doesn't have to . at 45 , there are many many risks w. pregnancy . a woman's body is not as fit as it was before to carry a child healthily at that age . after 6 children her womb may also not be fit for another child .

this poses the risk of fibroids .

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Come on, have mercy! A child is a blessing from God and I call it murder to abort a child that's already developing in your womb without any medical reason (such as a health risk to the mother). Many people are looking for children so please tell your friend to just thank God for his blessings and raise the child well.

Whether she's had 6, 8, 10 or 12 children, what does it signify? Suppose something were to happen to them (God forbid) leaving only this little unborn baby? What's wrong with having a baby at 45? As long as she isn't gonna die or develop complications from the pregnancy, i don't see why she's so reluctant to have the kid. Could you explain what's holding her back?

Abi she no like kids? Me, o, I would love to have at least 6 kids, kids are cool, man!

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yes o vigasimple plenty women are looking for babies you will never know until you are on the TTC que

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@ poster

What about this offer, is in't incredible? what are you waiting for?

I told you that you'll be amazed how many people are looking for the fruit of the womb.

So, instead of being a 'murderer' (as that is what you will be in the eyes of the Lord if you try to abort it) have the child and give it up for adoption if you don't want to keep it.

Everybody on this thread do empathise with you even though we don't know your cicurmstance fully.

May God continue to be with you and provdide for you physcially, financially and spiritually.

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have it and give it up for addoption i will take it cos i need a baby

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WHY SUCH QUESTION , UMMM CAN I ACCEPT THAT,

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Thanks y'all for your reply. Nobody has considered her other kids. Do you think they will welcome a new unexpected member into the family?

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I think she should have ennough courage and fear of God to keep it. I can understand that at that age one worries alot.

My first Kid and my last are exactly 23 years apart (theyshare the same birthday), and I have nine of them

If I where to get pregnant at 45 I think I will keep it, although I must add that I can be assured of good medical care.

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This is going the best Xmas yet for your friends family.

Imagine the thots of a new baby in the family, wedding aniversary party, Xmas, new year; hmmmmmmmmmnnn, its party all the way. Your friend will feel young again.

The baby is here for a reason and a purpose, it'll require real courage to take the right decision though. God has a way of doing mysterious things in our life.

As previous posts suggested, these "young unwanted gifts" are always full of goodies.

Let the child enjoy this world too.

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Having six children already is not an issue. Women have even 12 or more. But on the other hand outside health implications that would be considered for her age, she should not worry but have the baby, when any one ask her, she should tell them , Na so God want am! Meanwhile, tell her i tap into her blessing for my own to come speedily.

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She would forever live to regret that action if she aborts the baby.

1. She is rightfully and lawfully married

2. HER own Husbaband impregnated her

3. Her husband is willing to take on the baby

4. The baby is God's gift to her hence,,

5. She has no right taking the life of another (it's called MURDER) whether she feels like it is not the issue

6. The baby is an additional blessing to her 25th Anniversary (They have been very fruitful , 6, no 7 children)

7. As long as the pregnancy poses no risk to her life, and she's certified fit by doctors, no hassle

My mother gave birth to our last born at age 42 and I was just entering the University then. He was unexpected as well but believe it or not, He is about the brightest in the family. So smart and intelligent. He's a genius!

She should not care what people will say.

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for this type of thing i will not give advice because at the end of the day the woman is on her own.

and she has to live with her decision on her own.

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Children are a gift from God. She should receive him/her joyfully. Better to have the child and live than to try killing the child and also die in the process.

Pls don't kill our next president or first-lady o.

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@poster, please advice your friend to keep the baby. the baby did no harm to have found him/herself in the mother's womb so why kill him/her? it is not rite to do so. she should please keep the baby against all odds (and i see none here). she has 6 already so 1 more will not do her any harm. more so, she was impregnated by her husband so i see no reason for her to feel bad about anything. most importantly, tell your friend to  try out a good family planning method, that way she will avoid her unpleasant surprises.

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Its not only about what people will say. this is the third time such is happening to her, and the husband keeps insisting they keep th baby each time. After the 4th child, she gave a whole ten years break and another came mistakenly. it really difficult to convince her. I dont know what to do.

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The lady says that her friend is expecting a baby and will have her silver jubilee by december. Maybe she is scared of what people will say.

Well, if her husband is ok with aborting the baby, then they should go ahead. i think its less likely for older ladies to develop problems from abortion than younger ones. Am i rigth?

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Seconded janami and Siena

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I think she should have the baby too.

I only support abortion for medical reasons, i.e if the mother's life would be at risk if she went full term.

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i think she should have it . Its a gift from God and He only knows why He only knows ahy He did it.

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Since when do the other kids have a say? Isit not theirfathers child

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If the husband is da father of the baby, why would you wanna get rid of it, i beg, the more the merrier jare.

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