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PERFECT MARRIAGE

Almost everybody will love to experience the unconditional feelings of perfect marriage with their spouse that lead to happy home, but the question that pose itself says, Do you work towards it?.

The fact is that there is no cutting corner or secret to a perfect marriage, it is just the matter of maintaining the right principle which is achievable.

There is a famous saying where the perfect marriage can only be found between a deaf and a blind couple, because the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of his wife, while the blind wife cannot see the shortcomings of her husband.

To my own observation being in love with each other is more than what most people could ask for in a relationship, but even love is not enough to sustain a relationship there are other factors to put in place. I want you to understand the fact that the best marriage in the world can run into trouble just because the couple tend to take the simplest things for granted.

People from various countries have married their spouse based on different reason, which can either be to have a family, wealth, to have someone to grow with and security, this all matters but there is a bigger reason. Marriage is when you give so much of yourself and yet you feel whole.

One glaring thing I have seen about some couples in our society is that they don’t exercise patience to understand themselves if they are compatible before getting married which has later put their Marital home in jeopardy.

In brevity, something as special as marriage should be nurtured forever, so what are the principles?

[1]PRAYER: this is just the matter of praying base on your religion for a successful and happy  home, because the seed of love is created by the power of God and by doing this it will always renew the feeling and guide the couple not to fall into temptation.

[2]TRUST: trust is one of the important key in relationship, so if the couple wants a long-lasting relationship they must maintain what is known as trust among themselves.

[3]LOVE: build your relationship on true love, because true love will always last longer no matter the circumstances in your relationship.

[4]PATIENCE: We all need patience in coping with most things in life either in relationship or in other aspect of life, patience is very important to let you fully understand and overcome most of our obstacle.

[5]CONTROLLING ANGER: anger is inevitable to human, but the person that is slow to anger has the great understanding.

The only way to cope with your anger is to inculcate the habit of letting go of resentment and practicing forgiveness.     

Thomas Fuller observes, "He that cannot forgive others breaks the bridge over which he must pass himself; for every man has need to be forgiven." Without forgiveness, your life becomes an endless cycle of anger, resentment, and retaliation. You practice forgiveness so that you can stop ruminating about the past and put your energy into the present moment. And it will also free you from the poisonous effects of resentment. Then, you can experience peace of mind and bring that inner peacefulness into your marriage. You will never have a peaceful marriage until you are at peace within yourself.

In a nutshell there is still more to perfect marriage that led to happy home than what we have here but by applying this principle you have got above average opportunity of building happy home.

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What does it mean to be perfect?in my own words I will say perfection simply means to be without blemish,now there is no way on earth two people from two different background,thinking mentality,status and lifestyle to come together and there won't be blemish among them. As long as no one is perfect then marriage can never be perfect,marriage is whatever the two people involve make out of it,is like an empty jug and whatever content you put inside the jug is what the jug will be called,put love inside it will be a jug of love,put forgiveness and it will be a jug of forgiveness,but you will never find perfect in any marriage,strike out the word perfect from marriage.

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with God all things are possible

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The Bible teaches that the covenant of marriage is sacred and lifelong. The Bible makes it clear that marriage is a legally binding public declaration of commitment and a private consummation between one man and one woman, never between the same sex. Therefore, I believe God gives a wife to a husband and a husband to a wife, and they are to receive one another as God's unique and personal provision to help meet their mutual needs.

I believe God created marriage for the purpose of couples glorifying God as one flesh, parenting godly children, and enjoying sexual pleasure. As iron sharpens iron, we believe God uses marriage to sharpen a man and woman into the image of Jesus Christ. Just as the Trinity reflects equal worth with differing roles, God created a man and a woman with equal worth but with differing roles and responsibilities in marriage.

Finally, I declare the marriage commitment must be upheld in our culture as that sacred institution of God in which men and women can experience the truest sense of spiritual, emotional, and physical intimacy, so that the two can become one. (Genesis 2:18-25; Ephesians 5:30-32; 1 Corinthians 7:3; Matthew 19:4-6; Mark 10:6-9, 12:25; Proverbs 27:17; Romans 1:26-27, 8:29; Hebrews 13:4; Matthew 22:30; Deuteronomy 24:5; Song of Solomon)

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i understand your comment.but i didn't mention that their won't be ups and down it's normal to have that in relationship.but you have to forgive if he/she is guilty. but i wish everyone can understand that with God all things are possible so stop looking at things base on your condition.what i expect you to do is to ask yourself am i doing the right things as a responsible husband/wife.

if you need full understanding and explanation.why can't you call instead of hiding yourself from information that can make you have peace and happiness in your home.

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Getting married to 3 different women each year.That way, you don't get to deal with their bULLs.hit e.g mid-life crisis,nagging and all that.By the time they are done nagging with each other, their energy would be spent.Anything other than this is BS! ! !

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Perfect marriage, yeah, a situation where the wifey kneels to serve me food and doesn't ask to shop everytime!

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There's no perfect marriage. . .

Every marriage has its own rollercoaster of problems, conditions aren't permanent.

But there's sure a loving marriage.

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There is no perfect marriage because there is no perfect human being. We all have our shortcomings and values.

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i wish you can read and understand the nitty gritty of what i mean by marriage

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A perfect marriage is a union in which a husband or a wife bears the offences committed from one spouse.

they both endure hardships together.

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i've never seen a perfect marriage.

except on television.

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. . .even wiv all these still comes a marriage that is no way near Perfect!

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There is no such thing as a perfect marriage every marriage has its ups and downs and we have to commend those who stick with it for the long haul.

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there is nothing as "perfection" in life, talk-less of marriage.

good marriage? yes, happy/peaceful marriage? yes. perfect marriage? no

the things you describe as more like steps to at least "good"/peaceful marriage

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The only perfect msrriage is the one that will be between Christ and his church.

Apart from that, there's no such thing as a perfect marriage. People are imperfect so how can the marriages be perfect.

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Don't forget to have sex, sex sex. Lots of sex.

You can call Jesus all that you want but if you stop having sex, your mariage is heading for the rocks.

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mudley313,

forget about the issue of Islamic or no Islamic the fact is that if you have God and do the right thing.you will surely have what i am talking about.

if you can scrutinizes what cause most of breakup you will get to know that we human just like to manipulate things just to get to the right lane which will bounce back and we will start making excuses cus human are use to making excuses instead of learning.

well to me i believe one thing which say AS YOU THINK SO DO YOU SPEAK,AS YOU SPEAK SO DO YOU ACT,AS YOU ACT SO GOES YOUR FUTURE.

so no need of arguing but blessed are those that can see the fact and solution to their problem and they were able to solve it.

stay safe.

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if the concept of FEAR of some god or whatever is what makes a marriage perfect, islamic marriages will be classified as no.1

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It's awesome and in addition, the fear of GOD is very important, because if there is fear of GOD in their heart, it will be very difficult for any of the partner cheat his or her partner which may leads to wahala in that relationship, Secondly a respect for each other in relationship will further bind their love together and make it strong, and putting GOD first in what they do.

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. . .and god who created imperfect beings cannot in the same vain create a perfect marriage

seriously tho, aint nothing like a perfect marriage. marriage take hard work, commitment, unconditional love, (in most case, especially in naija) good finance, trust, sincerity, good bedroom skills, and all that good stuff to make it great at best. there'll always be pitfalls and disagreements from two different individuals but thats how you get to grow understand yourselves better

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There is no such thing as a 'perfect' marriage because you have 2 imperfect humans involved!

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with God all things are possible

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i understand your comment.but i didn't mention that their won't be ups and down it's normal to have that in relationship.but you have to forgive if he/she is guilty. but i wish everyone can understand that with God all things are possible so stop looking at things base on your condition.what i expect you to do is to ask yourself am i doing the right things as a responsible husband/wife.

if you need full understanding and explanation.why can't you call instead of hiding yourself from information that can make you have peace and happiness in your home.

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There no perfect marriage. Two imperfect people can not create a perfect marriage. They can only try, with God's help, but never attain.

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Aww, I miss me my Shakespeare

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Nice sonnet from William Shakespeare ===>

"Let me not to the marriage of true minds, admit impediments.

Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds,

Or bends with the remover to remove:

O no! it is an ever-fixed mark

That looks on tempests and is never shaken;

It is the star to every wandering bark,

Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.

Love's not Time's fool. . .

Though rosy lips and cheeks

Within his bending sickle's compass come:

Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,

But bears it out even to the edge of doom.

If this be error and upon me proved,

I never writ, nor no man ever loved."

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A good marriage is not like sailing in a ship on a STORMLESS SEA.

It is more like sailing in ship that NO STORM CAN SINK . . .

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thanks for your encouragement

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A perfect marriage? What's that?

This is soo true. I agree 110% and I wish I didn't

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There is NO perfect marriage without God.

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hi poster

i presume that you are an otherworldling - seated with Christ in the Heavenly places. for me all the rules we have set up to have a perfect marriage is summed up thus

Husbands love your wives

wives submit to your husband

Eph 5:23-28

23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

KJV

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Food for thought ===>

We are never (really) in love with anyone,

We are only in love with our prejudiced and hopeful [/b]idea of that person,

And we fall [b]out of love when that IDEA CHANGES . . .

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I'm a married woman and I approve this message

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That there is one of the common lies people feed themselves. If you are marriage where you need to "loose" yourself so that your partner can be happy, you are not in a marriage but in a slave contract that will probably not end well for you and others involved.

I mean this is common sense. If you have to work with a bunch of people who expect you to be someone completely different from who you are, you will find yourself on the loosing end . . . used and later tossed.

Marriage has nothing to do with LOOSING your identity or suppressing self so that another can be happy. If your spouse (male or female) does not love you and your personality AS-IS, then you probably had no business marrying that person in the first place. However, if you are already married to someone who wants or needs you to shackle your being in order that he/she may be happy, then be prepared for the same to decide someday that that is no longer enough.

I have seen women becomes shadows of their former selves after marriage. Some loose the very things that made them strong individuals and become muppets in marriages that end up eating up much of whatever potential they had to be excellent human beings before it all. I am not saying do not marry but go in with your head intact and complete. Never let another human being, not even a spouse tell you that you can no longer be that person you know yourself to be( I am not referring to habits we pick up along the way or due to experiences, but to the individual beyond all that).

There are thousands of women and men out there today in marriages where they are being forced to compromise on basically everything they have stood against before getting hitched. Some are even being bullied into accepting infidelity as a part of their lot in life.

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.''Perfect marriage'' is only imagination but in reality, there is nothing as such.

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Perfect marraige does not exist.

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with God all things are possible

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i understand your comment.but i didn't mention that their won't be ups and down it's normal to have that in relationship.but you have to forgive if he/she is guilty. but i wish everyone can understand that with God all things are possible so stop looking at things base on your condition.what i expect you to do is to ask yourself am i doing the right things as a responsible husband/wife.

if you need full understanding and explanation.why can't you call instead of hiding yourself from information that can make you have peace and happiness in your home.

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i wish you can read and understand the nitty gritty of what i am saying about marriage!!!!

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A PERFECT MARRIAGE IS AN ILLUSION like the dangling carrot before the donkey.I prefer to use the term EQUILIBRIUM MARRIAGE.This means trying to maintain the peace level thermometer at a safer side amidst the marital turbulence and chaos.

The truth is that you can enjoy your marriage when you chose to be humble and admit your faults.The issue of praying and the other techniques of keeping the home will never work if you are not humble.

I hear many women say they cannot become "MUMU" FOR THEIR HUSBANDS and that makes me to laugh.Unknown to such that is the very thing that can saved your marriage.You must learn to treat your spouse as a demigod,If you want to enjoy him.

On the man's part if you really want a happy home you must be blind to many faults of the women.You must take most of their offensive words as a joke.

But let me just summarize the whole secrets of marriage in the following ways.

1.Please God to please your spouse.Don't try to please him/her.Do what God demands from you and will definitely please your spouse.

2. Always remain humble in your marriage.Learn to say sorry many times as a woman but for the man do things that will make your wife say am sorry.Let me at this point tell many African women that most African men find it hard to say am sorry but they will do things to tell you they are sorry.If you are waiting to hear it from them you may wait till eternity.

3. Never discuss your marital issues with anybody.Try to always resolve your wahala between yourselves.

4. Find time to talk a lot together about relevant and a times irrelevant things.But women make sure you get him into a good mood atimes.

5. Have lots of intimacy together.It can be ten times a day it doesn't.Men needs lots of it.If you don't know how to rock a man and take him to cloud infinity go and learn it.It is not only the man that should do that to you.You can make him scream while doing it.If you master the art,it will be difficult for the professional outside to steal him because he has a pro at home.

6. Be close to the mother-inlaws.Many women hate them to their own doom .You will do well to be

-closed to them even though they are evil.Don't forget you married their babies.

7.Give the man real peperenpe meneme african food that will make him to eat like an elephant.if you don't know how to cook them go and learn.

8. Hand over your marriage to God for more grace to keep on doing the above.

9. Never allow money to cause SERIOUS QUARREL in your home.

The above we have used have helped I and my spouse to have equilibrium marriage for the past ten years.And am glad to tell you nobody has come to interfere in our marriage one day.I squatted with my mum together with my wife and baby in a room and parlor apartment and she never saw us quarrel for a day.

PRACTICE THE ABOVE YOU WILL NEVER REGRET YOUR MARRIAGE.

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i didn't read the epistle coz there's no such thing as a "perfect marriage". there will always be up and downs.

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Anyone that tells you about a perfect marriage or family is a goddamn liar o.

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I don't think any marriage is perfect. All marriages have their ups and down, good times and bad times, strengths and weaknesses. There are times when you could feel like giving up but you just keep holding on. No marriage is perfect but as you pray and believe all things work out at last.

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